Being attracted to the opposite sex whilst married?

[Anonymous]

Please don’t shame me.. if you are married and easily form connections with the opposite sex and end up liking them more than friends does that genuinely mean you don’t love your spouse? Or do you really need to push yourself to ignore those feelings?

[serious]

1. "if you are married and easily form connections with the opposite sex and end up liking them more than friends does that genuinely mean you don’t love your spouse?"

Well, I can understand if you find someone else attractive while being in exclusive relationship like a marriage but then if you actually get attracted to this person in a way that you like them more then just friends, you want to spend time with this other person and get to know them etc, this type of behavior is not at all normal. No

Yes, it does mean that slowly but steadily you the love for your spouse is fading away and that you don't actually love your spouse.

2. "Or do you really need to push yourself to ignore those feelings?"

Well, yes if you are really serious about your marriage and if you are sure you still love your spouse more than anything else then you must push yourself to ignore those feelings.

Otherwise if pursuing your feelings is what matters to you then it should only happen after you end the marriage (divorce). After that you can do what you want.

[SnowedIn]

It does not mean you don't love your spouse.

[ettajeezy]

This is totally normal. Embrace it for what it is, which is a fleeting feeling you can enjoy for a rush. You can love your spouse and encounter people you are attracted to, and you will. They will too. What makes a true partnership is always choosing eachother over all else in the end.

[Anemone978]

Liking the opposite sex or finding them attractive is fine but if you actually like them and want to fuck... that is something else... not sure you really love your partner then...

[Brando10222]

It's cheating. You better focus on your partner and remove the other person from your life completely asap

[In_Trance]

how would you feelwhen you find out your husband is jerking off to other women?

[ashish804]

its normal..