Is it disrespectful to be alone with the opposite sex when in a committed relationship?

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Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

I'm surprised at the number fo people who said no. How is it not disrespectful to be alone with someone of the opposite gender when you are TAKEN?

Why do people keep moving the goalposts on what is acceptable? I would never be left alone with a woman if I myself am in a relationship, neither would I want to be with someone who is taken. For the same reasons, I wouldn't want my spouse to be around another man when I'm not there.

Why can we not normalize respect of boundaries? If to you it sounds "insecure" then you have some serious problems to reconsider. You cannot tell me that you allow such things to happen, then are surprised when cheating occurs.

If this is in a business environment, the least you can do is leave a door open. Let's not pretend we don't know what people are willing to do for "upward mobility" whether they are married or single.

If that's a friend, then your priorities are all messed up. So if your husband/wife asked you that they are not comfortable with you being alone with your friend of a different gender, you're gonna ask for a divorce? Is that where we are right now? If that's your answer, you should never even consider marriage or getting in a relationship, because you are willing to put your own selfish interests over the wellbeing of your relationship. What's next? Where gonna start listing what sexual acts are considered cheating and what aren't? Seriously? This is what happens when people keep pushing the boundaries on what is acceptable.

I do not want for others what I don't want for myself. Everything I tell you, I personally live by. I cannot stand hypocrisy.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

There’s not anything else, that’s legal within a relationship, that is more hurtful than a partner having an opposite Sex Bestie.
They are your friends because initially there was an attraction that drew you two together, right? PhD is not required here….

Whether in a 4 months or 4 years one’s insecurities of opposite sex friendships does not lessen. You are complaing too and expending your emotions with Bestie. And there’s this big distance between boyfriend and girlfriend, WHY NOW ⁉️

It’s not like the guys where complain and moan, punch each other, take home aggression out on their ankles on the pitch, try best can to drive a soccer ⚽️ ball through their Nads, and buy their 🍻 🍺 🍸🫒🍸🫒🍸🫒🍸🫒 as pain killers.

YOU were initially attracted to this person and are always one 🍸 🫒 away from F-in…. Again, it’s a no-brainer.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

No, it’s not disrespectful. How could it be?
So when I was a PA at my desk, was I wrong to be in the same office as my boss? When I was a dental nurse, should I have left the dentist alone because he was male?
When my ex left his best friends house to collect a pizza because he was too tight to pay for delivery (lol), should his mate have left his own lounge because I was in there? Or should I have hit the roof because my partner at the time was cooking while his female housemate ate her dinner at the kitchen table?
If you can’t act like an adult you shouldn’t be in a relationship. You cannot control or dictate what a partner can and can’t do.
When you come back and tell me that you saw your partner naked in a room along with someone else naked I’ll revisit my answer….

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

If that was the case, society would be so restrictive.

No! Honestly as long as both of you are mature adults, and I'm assuming there's no interest there, it shouldn't be an issue. Unless your partner is insecure or has trust issues, it's VERY normal to at one point in your life be alone with the opposite sex in a room.
A good example: job interviews. Though most are now done with the door open or another person nearby, it's possible.

AviatorTom · Answer

There's nothing wrong with being with another woman unsupervised... so long as nothing happens.

Summeroflove · Answer

As long as there isn’t cheating.

BullShark · Answer

I feel like this question is personal. Sorry to burst your bubble, but no, it's not disrespectful.

I'm in a committed relationship, and I work a 9-5 job where I'm sometimes required to stay for long hours, if needed. When it's usually one of those days, it's just me and this one other girl in the office at night with me.

And before you ask, yes, my girlfriend is well aware and knows there's no sexual tension between me and the other girl there either, and the most interactions we have are friendly banter and jokes, at most (mostly because I'm not the sort of person to flirt with another woman while I'm already in a relationship).

Moose304 · Answer

There were many times during my career when I had to travel with married females. We stayed at the same hotels and ate in the same places. I know my comment is will not sit well with some, but it is my opinion. This question is all about respecting boundaries. If a man is married to a lady that is not comfortable with her husband being alone with other women, that husband should respect her and maintain the proper boundaries. I know my comment will not sit well with the majority here, but this BS is the genesis of a lot of divorces and breakups. I have seen it so many times it can almost be predicted!

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I would say its disrespectful if you had feelings for him and continued to find ways to be alone on purpose. That to me tells me you're trying to initiate something by putting yourself in a position where something can happen.

TrippyStarry · Answer

Would you ever leave the door open when you’re not home? Commonsense would tell you No. Why risk robbery? It’s possible you leave it unlocked and no one steps in the entire year but it only takes one time for your life to be ruined forever.

Don’t ruin your life. Your relationship is forever but your friends aren’t.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I used to be in the "it's okay" camp. But being married and having been alone with a single female friend (with my wife's knowledge and approval), and having feelings develop with said friend over time; I really challenge the "it's okay" mentality. Why be alone? What is so important that two opposite sex friends need to talk outside of the partner's presence? From my experience, it's not for the better.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think there's limits. I'd be a little tight if every hour of my wife's day was spent around her male friends.

Then again, it's better than a sisterhood of bitches who get jealous.

I guess I'll just have to cross that bridge when I get there

U4ea0 · Answer

It is certainly improper. It depends where you are at. If you are at his home, then no, it is improper. You are putting yourself in a situation where one thing can lead to another.

As far as your partner being insecure, all men on this planet are insecure about things like that. Nature has hard wired us to be that way. Considering this is universal among men that means there was a very good reason for it.

pupluv45 · Answer

In any marriage, you will find that spouses often avoid being alone with a person of the opposite sex. Even if they do end up meeting, they always make sure to get their wives' permission. But in a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship, it is not necessary to get permission.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

With this question snd similar questions it feels like the answer that aspker is wanting is heterosexuals (straight) should not have opposite sex friends, homosexuals (lebians & gays) should not have friends that are the same sex as they are and bisexuals should not have any friends.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That depends how "alone" you are. If you mean "alone-alone" (behind a wall, behind a closed door, no other humans present), then yes. But if you're in a crowded public place with many witnesses and you're just conducting business (nothing personal), then it's okay.

acooke-13 · Answer

It depends, is it someone he is interested in and hiding from me? Is it a work colleague? One of his friends?

If he is interested in the person then yes it's disrespecful, but not for the other reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not disrespectful if it's a work environment or you are with a relative of the opposite sex. It's not disrespectful if you ask your partner about this and they agree. It is disrespectful when it hurts your partner and it is disrespectful if the meeting is personal and friendly (not professional). If you want to hang out alone with the opposite sex, break up with your partner.

TenderFantasy · Answer

It depends. If it's for a date or there's lurking feelings, it's not a good idea. You should always consider your partner's feelings about the matter. You do like them right? !

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Not if that company kept is a business colleague, a co-worker, a relative or a trusted friend.

Looksnicholas · Answer

Kind of hard to in most everyday life real-world settings. That's all I can logically think, so I voted no 😃

Sparkie460 · Answer

As long as nothing is going on between you and your friend there's nothing wrong with it. I've hung out with my female friends many times. My wife doesn't have a problem with it. She knows we are just friends

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah, it is cause' why tf would he be alone with some bitch when he can go out and fuck the homies instead?  Nah jk jk, it is disrespectful, though

whorable · Answer

nothing wrong. this “ rule” was invented by toxic people with who think their partners are property.

Ninania · Answer

No. It's disrespectful to control who your partner can spend time with.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No. If that was the case, I would need a different job.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Disrespectful or not its up to the person in a relationship to determine that. For the sake of your man and woman I don't think it's wise though.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I wouldn't tolerate that. If she doesn't like it too bad. Plenty of women won't be alone with men when in a relationship I'll just choose one of them. Case closed.

anon1903 · Answer

Nope. Unless it's a couple's spot, then yeah probably.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Not in and of itself. It can become very disrespectful though, if you aren’t careful

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If anyone feels that's disrespectful... then society has really gone backwards lol 😆

Shaybaye · Answer

It’s not disrespectful unless your intentions aren’t pure or unless you know the other persons intentions aren’t pure and you are willingly ignoring that. That’s just my opinion however

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

It depends on context obviously. If they are coworkers just grabbing lunch I don’t see an issue. If they are alone behind closed doors, then I could see that being an issue.

Anonymous · Answer

In general, I would say yes it is kind of disrespectful. But there are exceptions and it just depends on the circumstances.

Miristheiss · Answer

It can be. It depends.

Iron_Man · Answer

It depends if you’re working or not

driven159 · Answer

as long as nothing is going on

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes because shit happens

SnowedIn · Answer

Not one bit.

CountryWanderer · Answer

No. It's not

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes it is.

Anonymous · Answer

No way 😹

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