Depends.. when my boyfriend goes to hang out with his friends.. I just say “okay, have fun :)” I tell him that he’s allowed to have female friends as it would be hypocritical of me because I have a lot of guy friends.. it’s all about trust and communication honestly... However, with that said... Him and I both agreed that if we do hang out with people of the opposite sex it can’t be someone we’ve had feelings for, had feelings for us, any exes... those kinds of things.. Unless I was around... I don’t want him hanging around them.. I trust him enough to make good decisions... I just don’t want people attempting to make a move cause that’s territory I’m only allowed to cross with my man 🤣 We both work together in different departments... and there’s another lady at work that I believe might have some feelings for my boyfriend... which is normal... but I wouldn’t want him spending too much with her alone.. because she’s a bit unpredictable (think she has anger issues) and it’s something I don’t feel comfortable with...
I think it would be disrespectful to not let your partner know that you’re hanging out with people of the opposite sex.. Have some respect and communicate that shit.
If you have a problem with your S. O hanging out with people of the opposite sex, you need to check yourself..
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ONLY if your partner makes it clear that they don't want that in your relationship. Otherwise, its not. Either way, you need to respect your relationship or don't get in it. I rather not be in a relationship where I cannot respect my person not just myself. I don't understand how people can shame the one who's insecure only for that same person to NEVER trust another person for an intimate relationship again, and then the person either ends up cheating on the other person or gets cheated on by the same person they say is 'just a friend'. If that person cannot respect my wishes, there is no relationship. Insecure or not. I rather dump it so they can go be with them. All the more reason I don't agree with dating complete strangers. Date a friend within your circle who knows everybody, whom your parents and community KNOWS. Somebody who they are familiar with, is compatible with you and desires such a future with you. A stranger will always intentionally or unintentionally destroy what you already have. As long as you don't neglect your friendships either, everybody needs attention in their relationships as long as its not unhealthy.
No, No, No... fucking no!
If there's no romantic or sexual intent or feelings, then it's just human beings hanging out. That's what friends do.
This bullshit ruined my 18 year marriage because my wife said I was having emotional affairs or some stupid shit. I wasn't "allowed."
It's called being friends with someone other than your spouse and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, whether they have a penis or a vagina doesn't matter - unless you're planning on fondling it. And if you are, then it's NOT OK.
Um no.
Over the years I have had more friends who were female than male. Am I supposed to cut off all ties with them and have no contact with other females for the rest of my life when I get in a relationship?
If so, why?
Because the girl I'm with has insecurity issues and jealousy complexes?
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I don't think so, I think it depends on the rules and boundaries established in that particular relationship. Also, the individuals the partner is trying to hang out with in general. Plus, the intent of things.
No, not as long as nothing inappropriate happens. I think that trust is the foundation of a relationship and that if you can't trust your SO around the opposite sex, you're better off not being with them in the first place.
My best friend is a male and we've been friends since childhood; nearly 20 years. I would never stop being friends with him for a boyfriend. I would also never do anything unfaithful or inappropriate with him either, but we are on the same page and agree to be platonic friends only.I think it is so stupid when a person in a relationship doesn't let the other person hang out with the opposite gender. If its obvious that y'all friends and nothing more and have been for a long time the person you got in a relationship with has no right to tell you you can't hang out with them anymore. Or anyone of the opposite gender. People need to stop being insecure. That's completely immature and if you can't trust the person to be alone with the opposite gender then the relationship obviously isn't the right one. And take in account if the person re ally wanted to cheat then they would whether they hang out with girls or not.
Of course if the two friends had something in the past or slept together or were just a bit to close for comfort then I wouldn't be down but its kind of like how parents don't let the opposite gender sleep over or hang out much.
I find that extremely annoying when people do that. That's like some middle school stuff.To be honest, yes. For the sheer fact of how these dynamics work.
Typically there is someone waiting in the wings and that can get dangerous.
These things get complicated easily. Only find it’s acceptable is in a group setting with everyone involved.No of course now. I only have guy friends, why I don't know it's just turned out like that because i'm socially awkward and guys seem to be more chill about it than women do. I wouldn't dump all of my friends for a partner instead I would dump the partner. I've known my friends much longer anyway therefore they're more important to me and have proven by now that they can be trusted. I am also platonic with my friends as I don't sleep with someone i'm not in a relationship with anyways. I would want my partner to get along with my friends if it were serious. And a partner who tries to control who you talk to is insecure and controlling and abusive.
It's okay if you respect your partners boundaries and establish boundaries with your friend.
If your partner isn't okay with it, then you'd need to decide who takes priority in your life... Your friend or boyfriend.
I'd never jeopardize my relationship with my husband for the sake of a friendship. He's the one I'm making a life with, but my friends are only a small part of my lifeOf course it isn't. What would be disrespectful would be outright flirting or cheating with those friends of the opposite gender. But just hanging out, as normal friends do? Not disrespectful at all. Why should a relationship get in the way of pre-existing friendships as long as there's trust and compassion in the relationship?
It's not disrespectful to have friends of the opposite sex. However, when in a relationship, there are more limits than when you are outside a relationship. The amount of time with them will normally be less, where you go will be different, and the how late you are with them will be earlier. In general.
I wish I couldn't sound like a hypocrit, considering I don't have friends that are girls. Not lesbian either. I don't think that it is a problem but for me, I have emotional issues. I would be extremely jealous and die inside if I knew my boyfriend was talking with his girl friends more than once or twice a week in person. Sucks to be the way that I am because it hurts hard for some reason. I'd rather stay single because of it.
Depends on lots of things.
1. Has your partner cheated in the past? 2. How long have they been friends? 3. Will there be other people? 4. Has he ever liked her? or vice versa? 5. Do you think he is mature enough to hang out with a female friend and not mess around? 6. How important is this friend to him? and most importantly 7. Do you trust him?
Personally I don't care if my partner hangs out with female friends as long as they are not alone.Not at all. Half my friends are guys. What would be disrespectful is hiding that I have guy froends and hang out with them solo or just me and the guys often. My SO are aware those that have a problem with it I know truthfully they have a problem with trusting me. That issue crerps up even when I'm out with the girls.
It's a bit crazy in Sobriety I've ended up dating more insecure controlling men than I did during all my years of drinking.It's not disrespectful at all, as long as no boundaries are crossed (such as flirting or cheating). If you do have the urge to become romantically involved with a friend, you shouldn't be with your partner because that's not fair. Trust, honesty, and communication are very important in any relationship. If your partner's uneasy about you spending time with friends of the opposite gender, talk to him about it and invite him along. Make him feel comfortable, appreciated, and included. If he still can't handle you having friends that have been in your life long before he arrived, perhaps it's not the healthiest relationship.
It's only disrespectful if you guys do something intimate. Like, fuck. LMAOOO but nah. Maybe you can feel a little jealous, it's natural, but it's not disrespectful. Unless like, she likes him and you both know and it's 1on1. Totally cool though, don't be THAT type of girl.
I would have to know the history between them. If they have been friends for a while and he does not have feelings for my woman then it is ok. However, even in that case I would not be comfortable with her staying out all night with him. If it is a group setting then I do not see any problems. I think the real issues arise in one on one hangouts.
Yes it is! If you’re gonna hangout with a friend of the opposite gender bring your girlfriend no matter who it is. There should be no reason to hangout with a girl of the opposite gender alone if you’re in a relationship, I’m sure you wouldn’t like if she did that to you either.
I dont have a partner but if i did i would hope that he would trust me enough to hangout with males without thinking I'd cheat. And hopefully i can do the same.
Now I don't know whether you can handle this or not but i guess if you're in relationship you should stick to your guy. Cause I have seen many girls who has boyfriend and then they have some guy friends and then it doesn't end well. Some girls later on cheat or when they are drunk some people take benefit of that too. these guy friends even dabble into relationships too so it's like having relationship with 5-6 people at once.
After a certain age, sort of. Depends on the context, but if you're married and going out with other guys to events and other things alone, then you can be single. I'm not progressive enough to just allow another man take my woman out like that. Maybe I'm oldschool. Maybe it stems from insecurity. Maybe it stems from being over-protective of almost everyone in my life. Who knows... but it's me. I wouldn't settle for a dynamic like that.
I personally don’t believe men and women can be just friends. I would not be happy with my boyfriend hanging out with female friends. With that being said, I wouldn’t date a man who has female friends in the first place. That would be a deal-breaker for me.
It can get disrespectful. The key is to not do it more than your partner is comfortable with. It doesn't mean that you can't hang out with friends of the opposite gender at all, but you should certainly limit it.
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