If you are in a relationship would you let your partner hang out with the opposite sex as just friends?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Let? LET? Who are we talking about, children? I'm not attracted to children.

If a man makes me feel like he sees every interaction with a woman as an opportunity to get something out of her then I'm not dating him anyway. I can't imagine being with someone I don't trust.

Temptations will always be there, you may stop him from hanging out with other women, but how can you remove other forms of temptations? He could still text other women, he could be cheating at work, he could be lying and going to see other women. Are you going to lock him up? You can't stop an adult from doing what they want.

If he voluntarily avoids hanging out with women because he understands his own limitations and wants to create that boundary, that would be entirely his decision but I wouldn't want to impose anything like that. If I feel the need to do that then the relationship is already doomed and I'd leave him.

I have been in a relationship with a man who cheated on me, twice. He would always talk about how horny he is and other women just look so tempting. I told him if he thinks he can't control himself in certain situations then he should take measures to avoid being in those situations to begin with, so maybe if a female friend asks him to hang out, alone, then decline or get another friend to join. Even after thoroughly discussing that with him, he still ended up hanging out with a woman behind my back and sleeping with her. I dumped him for good and learned a valuable lesson.

The only way I'd like to control my man is in a D/s dynamic. I'd only accept controlling a man who WANTS to be controlled, not someone who HAS to be controlled. Huge huge difference.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

As married woman, no I would not be hanging out with single men. People like to put themselves in situations where temptations rises and then when something happens (cheating, falling in love etc.) They start making excuses for themselves. If you want to go around and out with all these different men and women alone, then do it while single. I will not let man put me in position to act like the crazy girlfriend/wife cause he wants to hang out with other women during his free time. Anyone who tries to tell you you're insecure or jealousy cause you don't feel comfortable about it, is simple gaslighting and manipulating you to get what they want or continue what they want to do. In that case stay you're ass single and leave me out of it if that's the case.

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

I mean the concern/insecurity might pop up now and again, but I don't own her. I have lots of female friends I would want her to meet, and I'd hope to meet her male friends.

I mean, if she has had male friends this whole time, but was still single and chose me, I don't think it would be much of a problem. And if it is, I'd rather that be her moral issue rather than getting involved and making it my moral issue as well.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

This would not be an issue with me because the girl I would be with would not be comfortable with Bestie men friends, gender chaos, and both self and societal degradation of man. She would expect me to know to say “no” AND expect me to be doing the Same. For us both, it is a Test.

I say this with confidence as I am getting to know a lady in my locality well this last quarter…. I know I’m not crazy 😜

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I know the world has cheaters but I trust each guy until he gives me signs he cannot be relied on to be trusted.

AviatorTom · Answer

Sure, why not. I have some female friends and my SO has no issue with me hanging out with them. She has some male friends and occasionally does the same. If you trust your SO, why can't they hang out with whomever they want?

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband has female friends. They are my friends too, but he's more social than I am. Sometimes I feel a little uncomfortable because there have been a few that developed a crush on my husband and it's kind of gross and awkward if they are my friend too.

I have one male friend who is our friend, but he and I are closer than he and my husband are. Other than that, most of our friends are much closer with my husband and I only see them when I'm with them.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Yes I would, as I cannot control others like that. To be that controlling is abusive and I am against abusive and controlling relationships.

If I was concerned about it, I'd just go hang out with them too... or if it was me hanging out, invite my man to come with me.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I feel if you dont care at all whether your partner hangs out with the opposite sex then theirs a small issue with that. On the other hand if you are too far on the other side then you come off as controlling trying to prevent them hanging out. Their should be some clear boundaries set with maybe how they spend time together to prevent anything from happening that could ruin you and your partners relationship.

peacesncream · Answer

I wouldn't care because at the end of the day if he already was friends with them before me iam not about to break that up n he knows where he lay his head at night n if did do something it's over

all_hayl · Answer

“Let”? Sounds like a very controlling and unhealthy relationship; and at least one member of the relationship sounds very insecure, and at least one has unhealthy relationship boundaries.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Yes. He's cool with my best friend being a woman tho I'm attracted to women. I know he's not about to risk everything for a hookup either. And we have rules so even if something did start, it wouldn't go anywhere near that far.

HighValue · Answer

Hanging out one on one with an opposite sex "friend" is not acceptable in a relationship.  Getting NEW opposite sex friends once in a relationship is not acceptable either.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Eeehhh if it’s a close friend I know eeeh fine whatever if it’s some random chick who says let’s do coffee nah bro

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

If they were part of a larger group and went out all of them here and there, then I wouldn't mind, otherwise, I would mind it.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Ofc but as long as they were friends before our relationship. If this is someone that they became friends with during our relationship no. No you may not go 😂

TaureanBull81 · Answer

It's perfectly acceptable to have opposite-sex friends while in a relationship. I am single, and I have female friends and it'll remain this way in my next relationship. There's no issue there.

Finchie40 · Answer

Just as long as they are ok with me hanging out with opposite sex friends , It has to go both ways or it won’t work

anon1903 · Answer

Of course. That's a proof they value opposite gender as human beings and not straight up sex objects. In fact, I'd encourage it.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I would be jealous, probably. But wouldn't stop him. The only friends I currently have are guys, so it wouldn't be fair if I expected him to be fine with that but wanted him to ditch all his female friends.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Sure because my partner is friends with other girls and I don't mind because I'm not the jealous type

JessicaEarl · Answer

“Let” is an ugly word, as if you’ve got control over the actions of others. You can let them know that it makes you uncomfortable and that’s your prerogative. You’re plenty justified. But you can’t control them

exitseven · Answer

If it was somebody she used to date or had sex with I would not be good with it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

She is free to do whatever she wants. It's a terrible idea, but she's an adult.

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