How do you feel about your partner having friends of the opposite gender?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

99 times out of 100... it's only going to take 1 minute from someone scrolling through the texts to realize..."Yo girl... this guy isn't your friend."

Her friends all see it, her Mom and Dad sees it, her boyfriend/husband sure as fuck sees it. Her brother can look at it and point it out with her man in the background yelling "Yeah woman! That's fucking right!"... she's still going to say "He's just a nice guy" or "He's just a really good friend."

So how do I feel about my partner having a "friend" of the opposite sex? Bruah... that's just a SIMP being an emotional tampon with the intention of getting laid. Everybody in the world knows it except for her.

LogicBomber · Accepted Answer

Male “friends” are just guys who want to fuck the female and she will keep in tow until she is lonely, horny, sad, or angry at her partner.

razelove · Answer

Not much, if someone's going to cheat, proximity to penis isn't going to change their mind unless you build an actual harem with eunuch guards or some ridiculousness. Likewise if someone is loyal having friends isn't going to sway them.
I'd have a far different perspective if they want to pal around with a sleepover or some bullshit. "We're just girlfriends" my ass, let me pal around with your girlfriends overnight then... Like as long as it is just a friendship and doesn't get weird, or they're exes, why would it be a problem?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If he has self control then I don’t mind. Cause if a guy is the cheating kind, no level of beauty and intelligence and charm will ever be enough to keep him faithful to you. And if he is not the cheating type, then even having a pumpkin face will be enough for him.

Genie23 · Answer

They're just friends so it's okay if they want to hangout even alone or talk everyday. We all enjoy friends company. So, it's not a big deal.

Avicenna · Answer

That's a pretty broad brush. Are these childhood friends she's known her whole life, exes, partners of her friends or something else?

Summeroflove · Answer

Well. If I was with someone I have to trust her. I don’t care if she has friends. But if I get a bad feeling I might have a problem

Finchie40 · Answer

I’m ok with it if she is ok with me having opposite sex friends as well , if not , then no , it’s not ok , Double standards don’t work well with me , if I am not allowed to do something , then she needs to realize she isn’t allowed to do so as well. Most girls’ I was in a relationship with , didn’t grasp this concept , they would set boundaries with me and tell me they didn’t like me going out with certain friends or didn’t like me hanging out with certain people etc I would tell her , I understand where she is coming from but that means you need to follow these boundaries as well. Most girls’ don’t grasp this concept and think it’s ok for her to certain things but not ok for her partner and then they wonder why their relationships fail. The only way a relationship can last is if both partners’s wear each others shoes before making decisions , When you tell your partner you don’t like them hanging out with someone then your partner should choose you over that someone , especially if they already have told you, not to hang out with someone they didn’t like , it needs to go both ways, or it will not work , You can’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them, it’s not jealousy, it’s not insecurities, it’s not control , it’s respect for each other. It has nothing to do with trust. Trust should already be established in your relationship when you both agreed to be together. Most people want their cake and want to eat it to , It doesn’t work that way , if you can’t remove your inner selfishness for your partner , they will not be able to remove it for

You. Just because we might think something is ok , it might not be ok for your partner. Don’t just assume things are ok , when it’s clearly not ok for your partner to do to you , If you can’t wear
Your partner’s shoes when coming to making decisions, you are clearly a selfish person that should not be in a relationship with anyone , because you only care about yourself. Don’t be surprised when your partner ends up in the arms of someone else because you didn’t know how to remove selfishness. Truth hurts

Miristheiss · Answer

I would have married her if she had "CLOSE" main friends and texted them all the time or expected to go out alone on friend dates. Male acquaintances is fine but if it was too much or too close or too intimate or was too much time then I wouldn't have dated her anymore.

If we had ever had a conversation that sounded like this: ME "Hey, I know this great new restaurant that just opened in the Highlands, let's go there Friday."

HER: "Oh, I can't, I'm busy, I'm going out to dinner with (guy's name)"

It would have been an immediate:

ME: "I'm sorry, this isn't going to work, we are not compatible, I don't have relationships with women who want to go out alone with other guys for dates."

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Why would I even have an opinion about it. She's free to talk to whomever she wants. I believe we should truly live free, for me to have an opinion or even an attitude about her talking to other men, would make me a controlling jerk and tell her that I don't trust her. Where's the freedom in that?

AaronKrieger · Answer

Sure, but I do want her being communicative on shit that could look questionable and not being playfully flirty with them.

As for friends, if I am ever bothered by any of their actions, then I want to be able to communicate that to her without her getting defensive/mad (I wouldn't be blaming her, but explaining how I feel)

mobiusforniner · Answer

This question pops up a lot. I used to be in the "its cool to be friends" camp. But I learned from past experiences that a woman and man cannot be truly close friends. Of several female friends I've had while being married, all secretly wanted more. And by the time I began to feel something wasn't right, it was far too late to walk away without creating a lot of hurt.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Just like always... Guys are straight forward and realistic... And girls are virtue signaling and acting too cool to care... Yet later they cry and cry when another chick steals their guy or gets his full attention lol... Ugh, women ☕ moment xD

MementoMori777 · Answer

Not my cup of tea, cause I wouldn't have any female friends

SirJohn42 · Answer

As far as for me I dont trust men unless I know them. Friends are ok but when they call and text to hang out its a nope for me.
I've been cheated on so my trust is not easily given.
I dont mind if she hangs out with a group of mixed company but if its all men its a no.
Again I have to trust them. If its mutual friends its ok.

DextroShade · Answer

Unacceptable, dudes are always trying to smash. On Fresh and Fit they will have girls call their guy friends and make a pass at them; every time the guy believed she was serious he accepted.

strateguy632 · Answer

friends are fine for example if my lady partner has meetings with men. fine. i can't expect her to isolate herself. the other men are friend zone. no problem.

4ngelic · Answer

as long as they're uglier than me, in a very serious relationship, lesbian or i know for sure they're not someone who would do that (and that my boyfriend isn't like that either), its fine

petitedollbabee · Answer

Not a problem. We both have friends of the opposite sex, at the end of the day they’re just friends. I would only say something or interfere if I had a bad gut feeling.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I don't care, I have guy friends, who I hang out with alone 😱 shock horror. I'm not going to dump my friends of 10+ years because a guy is insecure or untrusting.

ushouldnotknow · Answer

If we're being honest, most of us would be feeling some sort of jealously. But it is important for us to trust out partners so that that type of feeling does not ruin the relationship. Because when you really start to think about it, jealously is just disguised as insecurity.

EricSummer · Answer

I trust her. She has always been very loyal. She knows the difference between a friend and her boyfriend.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'm fine with it, just communicate clearly and be open about it. at your age, I'd b ea little more controlling...

summiter · Answer

I am all for it. I think it is good for one to have friends of the opposite gender that are not boyfriends, girlfriends or sex partners.

msmissydc · Answer

I am totally fine with that. If I couldnt even trust him that far, there wouldn't be enough trust for me to even consider a relationship.

rosemilk · Answer

as long as he doesn't hang out with them more than he hangs out with me idc

Drumlin2001 · Answer

My partner had a lot of male friends when we met, a number of them gay. I've never had an issue. I might feel different if she met a new friend

Wild_princess · Answer

Personally i don't have any problem with that, but then again my ex is dating his girl best friend now... so...🙂😐

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Let me see! I feeeeeeeelll... Absolutely nothing. Should i feel something? 🤷‍♂️

Giggles0 · Answer

If I can not trust my partner, I should not be in a relationship with them. There is no relationship without trust and communication.

TrueConfection · Answer

It all depends on how friendly the friend is.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If I want them, I see no reason why she can't have them. As long as we're not fucking them, it's perfectly fine!

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

These are the friends, what opinion should i have besides, i am happy.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I wouldn't be threatened. It's the time they spend together that might worry me. And in that case tell Rodrigo to get the fuck on. Or your going to put your foot in his ass.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If you don't have trust, you have nothing.

jshm2 · Answer

Would be strange if they didn't. But as long as they are mostly good friends.

anon1903 · Answer

That's actually very healthy 😃 I fully support it.

libsaretards · Answer

Not a fan of it, but she has my trust until there is a reason not to.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

I'm fine with it because I'm not the jealous type plus I'm friends with other boys

Tiffany1996 · Answer

Well I’m gay. I have guy friends some are gay. Plus I trust my partner. If I didn’t I wouldn’t be with her.

Sparkie460 · Answer

They were friends before we got married and they are still friends. We both have friends of the opposite sex

John_Doesnt · Answer

According to the ultra woke: gender doesn't exist.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It's fine if they're legit friends and not people he failed to fuck.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Friends are always good, as long as they’re not toxic.

MysticDevice · Answer

It's critical to have friends of both genders so I wouldn't see an issue.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

My friends would be her friends and her friends would be my friends.

Twalli · Answer

They were her friends before we started dating and she didn't choose to date them then. She's not going to choose to do so now.

BrookeS · Answer

Im fine with it honestly. She knows no one can make her cum like i do so it doesn't matter

art84 · Answer

I don't have female friends so would not expect her to not have male friends.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Does not bother me. My lifelong best friend is female.

Anonymous · Answer

I am very possessive. It really kills but i am working on myself.

Reorx · Answer

I trust her until she gives me a reason not to. I'm very observant.

shades777 · Answer

I don't feel anything, if I notice odd behavior my gut is probably right, until then I don't care

htmndg183 · Answer

Im fine with it. I can have female friends. She can have male friends.

In_Trance · Answer

Do you mean acquaintances or people that actually hang out?

imawfulatusernames · Answer

It’s fine if you have an issue with this I’m genuinely concerned about you

Anonymous · Answer

Im friend with my guy friends gfs  I can tell you my guys friends always feel insecure 😂

TheMadLad · Answer

She wouldn’t be my partner to begin with..

Simslover92 · Answer

I'm somewhat cool with it.

NathanDavis · Answer

it's never been an issue of any kind

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Indifferent until that friend behaves strange.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Not happening. Lol.

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