Do you have opposite-sex friends and how does your insecure partner feel?

[TheLovelyWoman]

My husband is so insecure.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I used to have, but I was the single one and it was his long distance partner who was jealous. I felt flattered but also felt sympathetic to that girl, because girls know girls… We all know how bad it feels when you get hurt and feeling constantly compared or jealous.

I wish I could tell her “Hey, I know you love him, he is a great friend for me, but under no circumstances would I be attracted to him and I think he loves you. But I promise, you don’t have to worry about me. Your man is the safest he could be next to me. I had a long distance too, you’ll never have to worry about me.”

[Still-alive]

Would you say its common women feel threatened by you taking their man? lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Still-alive I understand why she felt that way, I rarely befriend men that close for their SOs to worry about me. Because I have a great deal of female friends. Mostly it’s my boyfriends I feel the closest to - speaking of male friendships. They are my closest male friends…

In the past my best friend was a gay man and his bfs never worried about me of course. My boyfriend used to buy him coffee too everytime he sent me one for work, because he knew we used to gossip all day together at work. And he was happy my best friend was gay.

This second friend (The one this comment is about) was my 2nd closest guy friend I’ve had and we worked together and spent everyday together and his girlfriend as he quoted later on said “Who’s this hot girl you followed on Insta?”
And I remember saying “Aww, she thinks I am hot? I love your girlfriend! But please tell her not to worry about me.”
When I befriend a man it’s usually totally platonic…

Otherwise there would be some chemistry and tension and I’d not be able to maintain pure friendship.

I had a hot neighbor I friendzoned because I was in love with my ex. (Most recent one)

One day after break up we went out on a date and he dropped me off my home later, I stopped the elevator door so that I could kiss him, because, well, he looked too sweet not to…

He had pursued meeting me ever since… Could I be friends with him? Nope. I told him that, I liked spending time with him but didn’t want a relationship, and also didn’t want a friendship. We are just good acquaintances now. I am telling this story as an example that I cannot be friends with men I am attracted to. They can either be my boyfriend or nothing.

But I understand that girl’s worries, if I had given the reason I am sure my guy friend might have actually made a move on me. It’s just from my side it was purely platonic.

[Still-alive]

well the kiss might have confused the heck out of him. it would me too lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Still-alive He loved it :) But I get what you are saying! It’s one of those kisses I didn’t know how I ended up kissing him. Originally he kissed my hand before I left the elevator… He was Eastern European and old fashioned. When the door was closing, he looked at me with sweet puppy eyes and just something hit my mind that I should have stopped that elevator and kissed him and did just that.

One of my proud kisses. Confused the heck out of me too to be honest haha.

But yeah, I decided I couldn’t just be a friend, and also couldn’t just keep dating him because I wasn’t emotionally available at that time.

[ohsheeT]

Well he has two options he can either be insecure for good reasons Maybe or he can start doing what you're doing and be happy

But he doesn't feel the need to do the things that you're doing he doesn't understand why you're doing what you're doing even though it might be friendship but still you're doing it with somebody else

And he knows that he really doesn't want to go out with his friends like that and if he did he wouldn't want you to think or feel things so he's being more respectful but maybe one day he might just say the hell with it and just go out whether it's with his friends or just to go out

[OneViewpoint]

I have a bunch or married women who insist on hanging around me. I'm single so no partner to worry about. But their husbands run the gamut...

• Friendliness (real or faked).
• Indifference.
• Jealousy
• Quiet Sulking
• Fear
• Anger
• Trying to pick a fight

In most cases these women are fully aware of their husband's reactions and don't really care. They don't like and/or don't respect their husbands. They can be pretty open about it. Just one of the reasons I usually try to keep most women at arms length and take a long time to get to know them.

[Agape93]

Most of my friends offline are men. I don't date anyone that I don't trust and doesn't trust me.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode love drama and turn red flags into real talk 💋

Yes, I have opposite-sex friends, and my wife’s totally fine because there’s trust, boundaries, and transparency. An insecure partner often views any opposite-sex friend as a threat, which usually means deeper issues.

You deserve friendships and freedom, not walking on eggshells because of his insecurity.

[nolabels]

I do have a few opposite sex friends.
They're cool.
Really cool.
The insights to be gained by having opposite sex friends can be eye-opening and valuable.

My wife very recently passed away, so I currently have no partner, not in my physical world, anyway.
She was anything but insecure.
Nope, there was absolutely nothing about her that was insecure.

Cheers!

[Bricealan]

@thelovelywoman I have had opposite sex friends, and always wanted to get in their shorts, but never told my girlfriend.

[brezzybaby]

Yes i do all of my friends are men. And my boyfriend/fiancee gets sometimes jealous and asks if im sleeping with them but he knows better so why is your husband insecure about it?

[slatyb]

I have one and my wife is very jealous, even though she's an ocean away.

[soe11]

• I have as well as my girlfriend got her Male friends too.
• We both have no problem whatsoever.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

I have an opposite sex friend, and I don't have a partner, but I know I wouldn't care if my partner did have opposite sex friends

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well i do have opposite sex friends but there have to be boundaries in place. Your husband doesn't trust you cause he knows you and the things you've done to him in the past

[David318578]

Aren't you fucking thoes other guys? So seems your husbands insecurities are warranted

[Grond21]

One of my closest friends is a woman. But my wife has zero insecurities with her.

[msc545]

If I were your partner, I wouldn't just be insecure about you. I would actually actively leave you because you're not trustworthy.

[AgentG111]

Yes I do and ify partner is insecure then, They aren't a partner I want.

[DarKnight36]

Those who lack self-confidence always lose; that's a fact.

[Daytoday79]

Sigh, insecure partners can be a bit of a drag. Guys competing with other guys.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I'm single so I don't have any problems with an insecure partner.

[Anonymous]

Can't blame him for being insecure when you're going around entertaining other men leading them on manipulating them

[NathanDavis]

they were not insecure about it

[queenofcardio]

It's never been an issue