Is it inappropriate to be married and hang out with your friend of the opposite sex without your spouse?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Only if your spouse is ok with it , if they aren’t ok with it then you are best to respect your spouse over choosing some opposite sex friend , you have to ask yourself would you be ok if your spouse was hanging out with an opposite sex friend? If the answer is No , then you are best to do the same, Just because we know in ourselves that we aren’t going to do anything stupid , you have to remember you aren’t single anymore , your spouse needs to be your number 1 priority , if they aren’t, then your relationship is doomed because you are only thinking of yourself , making you a selfish person , A loving partner doesn’t need opposite sex friends in their lives , it’s ok to have opposite sex acquaintances but when an opposite sex friend becomes more of a priority over your partner, you are destroying the relationship you both choose to be in , Just because we think something is ok , it might not be ok to your partner and that’s where so many people make this mistake cuz most people are selfish and only think what is best for them , it has nothing to do with insecurities, it comes down to respect for each other , if your opposite sex friend respected your relationship they would understand , if your opposite sex friend tells you your partner is just insecure and doesn’t trust you , why would you want to be in a relationship like that? That opposite sex friend isn’t a friend they want to be more than friends with you , plain and simple , A true friend will support your relationship a toxic friend will not. Your friends should never be a priority over your partner , it comes down to respect for each other

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's a hard and fast answer to this. But largely, I think the requirement should be that everyone has had a few chances to get to know each her.

Ideally everyone has eachother contact info / social media. You've all hung out together, maybe had double dates and stuff.

That way the partner understands the platonic value in the relationship their SO has with this other person.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Question, does the spouse know? And is the spouse okay with it? If you have to do it on the down low, hide it from the spouse than yes it’s inappropriate… or if it’s causing issues in your marriage… but if the spouse is okay with it then that’s for that couple to decide… But I guess another question I’d have is why can’t you hang out with the friends AND the spouse… have to be honest, if my spouse has a female friend and they only hung out when I wasn’t around but not when I was, I’d start to question if it was really so innocent, just friends🤷‍♀️

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

What did she say when you asked your wife? Or this is about someone else?
it would not be appropriate in my relationship unless I know them really really well and I trust them.

but either way…if communication is not open…it’s a formula for breaking trust in an intimate relationship.

KBird · Answer

Not at all. Your "friend of the opposite sex" is your  friend . Unless you both flirt with each other, its not inappropriate. But then again if your spouse is uncomfortable with it, maybe keep a bit of distance from your friend. I don't know

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I could never imagine being so insecure with my partner that I couldn’t trust them to have certain friends lol

What about people who are bisexual? Would y’all not allow them to have friends at all since they’re attracted to both genders? 😵‍💫

aoihewgf · Answer

A woman who respects the hell out of you, wouldn't even consider such a thing to begin with.

If she and another guy are going out together, she's either not great relationship material or she already lost a noticable amount of attraction and respect for you from where it was before

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

If you believe it's not possible for a straight guy and a straight woman to be just friends no matter who the two poeople are then do you believe the following
1. It's not possible for lebians to be just friends with other women regardless of sexual orientation.
2. It's not possible for gays to be just friends with other guys regardless of sexual orientation.
3. I'ts not possble for bisexuals to be friends with anyone regardless of the other person's sexual orientation.

AliSulayman · Answer

Depends on how those friends are and the type of activity.
For example: if the friend is married and they’ve been friends before the marriage and both have zero attraction towards eachother and you guys love eachother so much that you won't cheat or even consider it then it’s fine.
While if things between you are not great and she’s going with her “single” friend to a club then you should worry.
The type of friend and the place and time determines the situation.

Anonymous · Answer

A marital relationship needs constant management to be effective and that include transparency in behaviour. You have responsibilities over and above you own whims.

Hanging around with opposite sex friends can act against this and is bad practice.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No.  Are you really that stupid to believe in female male friendships?  Male and females can’t be friends while they are in the age of reproduction.

EmmaMary · Answer

For what reason would there be for doing this?

Miristheiss · Answer

It can be. There need to be strong boundaries.

Capricornunicorn92 · Answer

As long as she knows about it and is okay with it, I see nothing wrong with it.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I didn't think it was a problem... until it was a problem. By that point it's too late.

Anonymous · Answer

i think it's odd. i don't go hanging out with anyone, regardless of gender, without my partner. just weird...

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Think so! Don't need my significant other to hang out with a friend.

ColHathi · Answer

No. As long as you aren't cheating or hiding that you're hanging out with them ofc, but that's a given.

Gentleman900 · Answer

Yes, it is. If im hanging out with a friend that is a girl I ALWAYS let my wife know everything.

Anonymous · Answer

No. My two best guy friends are married. Their wives are not insecure. I’m not a home wrecker. It works just fine and has for years.

Libarena · Answer

I have friends who are guys. A couple are married.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Not at all. My wife knows nothing is going on between us. We're like brother and sister

In_Trance · Answer

Ask your spouse. They'll tell you if it's ok What if the roles were reversed? You ok with your wife hanging out with another guy?

JonesT10Apr · Answer

when you married your spouse should be in first place. she's your homemaker. she should be with every happier moments

nawtee_me · Answer

It depends on if they know about it or you are hiding it behind their back...

WonderSadness · Answer

For Muslims yes it is. When there is a girl she has to look down. Not look at other men especially

BigManSAB · Answer

Absolutely not!!! If she’s even considering it then the relationship is doomed

noohair · Answer

Most women would probable not like that, and you will get that message one way or another.

ZanPiece · Answer

No. If your married there should be enough trust and security in your relationship that it shouldn't be a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

I am not going to stop hanging out with friends just because I am married.

Dreamclouds · Answer

Is this even a question? This should be common sense

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No... That sounds like childish jealousy

elizamichale1 · Answer

I dont think so... why would it be

Akam93 · Answer

No it's not. If your not attracted to each other.

LuukeStarkilller91 · Answer

Why not? Just friends right?

Mangospacho · Answer

Yes, and also weird.

brandon1122 · Answer

If it's a lot, then yes

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

FifiJones · Answer

Probably

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Yupp

marish01 · Answer

Inapproprite

osoli · Answer

No i dont think so

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