Would you be OK with your spouse having friends of the opposite gender?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Every single one of us knows that happens every single one of us knows that we might not like it but every single one of us also knows that you don't allow your spouse to go through with a go-to thinking about your relationship with another friend because that's just wrong too allow them to make them have to live through that like I said we all have other friends and we should all be trusted with that but there has been many times where things have gone wrong so that gives everybody good reason you feeling to think with people do I think it's up to that spouse that has the friends to kind of put a hold on it or only see each other once in awhile or hang out once in awhile whenever it's less heartache for the spouse I have tons of friends that little girls and I'm single right now I think that's one of the reasons why I don't have a girlfriend because I don't want to have to go through this I don't want to have to say to my friends sorry I can't come hang out with you because I got a girlfriend now and she doesn't like it which if it was turned around I wouldn't either so I understand the whole thing

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

yes... it is the most normal thing in the world for me

I have friends that have been my friends for 20, 12, 16, 10 years... and it has never been an issue at all

my girlfriends didn't have an issue with them, their husbands didn't have an issue with me all

true friends are just friends and a great thing to have in life

I see that not everyone is capable of doing this so they do not want this at all... but that is not my case, I've always been more normal about these things, lol

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

We are both very comfortable with that situation. Our whole neighborhood is full of sets of parents and we are all friends and we all help each other out doing activities with the kids. None of us go out for drinks with the opposite sex or anything like that, but we frequently team up to go to movies, church, swimming, etc.

I consider it a great benefit, since I travel so frequently. My husband and a couple of the other moms in our neighborhood and dad’s all help each other out immensely.

Faith18letsgo · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. That’s perfectly natural and important. I don’t want to be his/her only friend. And then when we had his friends over for dinner there’d be girls/boys.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

No, my girl should be smart and sassy... Not some girl who enjoys male attention from anyone while also being in a relationship... Mutual friends, work friends are cool as long as there are boundaries... Again, she would be smart... She knows how to keep those boundaries and she knows how to choose the right people to be friends with... Not wankers

smne35 · Answer

Yes if in my heart I feel she has displayed that she's trust worthy, have self control I have no problem with it, I mean we must trust you hopefully it don't happen but she give in and do get involved with him but you must have trust confidence in you spouse

Mansearching · Answer

Yes bc I am. She doesn't care as long as sje gets to know them. If she doesn't like them, then its hard bc of the history that them and I have.

But she has gotten jealous. Only bc of how they look. Told her she shouldn't worry bc she got me not them.

Keepitreal007 · Answer

Like hang out friends or coworkers because there is a difference. And if it’s a long time friend from when they were kids that’s different too. But a friend to just hang out no unless we are all hanging out together.

RealMarek · Answer

With certain boundaries respected. I wouldn’t want them to go on little weekend trips together.

MTC29 · Answer

I'm not jealous by nature, so I'd have no issues. My own SO grew up in this area, so she bumps into people, including men, that she went to high school with.

Crafteroon · Answer

Of course. Who only has friends that are the same gender these days? If you don't trust your spouse with another woman, does your relationship have any trust?

slatyb · Answer

Yes, of course. I have friends of the opposite gender. When my wife is gone visiting her sister, sometimes I have dinner with them. It's not a problem.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Nope. That's why I own guns. She's allowed to have female friends as long as I can watch, and maybe join in. ... don't ask about my friends... she don't need to know those girls. ;-)

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Yes and I have been. My ex worked in manufacturing so most of her workmates were guys. You can't try to dictate who a person's friends should be without the relationship suffering.

Emilyis · Answer

Sure, my husband and I have several friends of the opposite gender. I like getting their perspective on things.

HelloImGoodThanks · Answer

Yeah why not. If they wanted to cheat they are going to cheat one way or another so why stop them from having female or male friends

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Absolutely. They'd best be ok with me doing the same. Also, I'm enby so, like, most people are "opposite" gender, lol.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah but I wouldn't be ok with just the two of them going out or hanging out together

sheikalana · Answer

I'm okay ish as long as I've been introduced to them and there are no other intentions apart from a friendship.

20yearsolder · Answer

Yep, if I trust them then I shouldn't have an issue and I'm talking about trusting myself

Carriage95 · Answer

Unless they’re my friend too, but no. Marriage is already hard enough, no need to add complications to the marriage.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Sure why not and fat friend should be me lol 😈. If i am not her goto friend then i have failed the relationship or she has

PeteBy · Answer

Yes. Without trust you may as well not be together.

exitseven · Answer

As long as she had no dating or sexual history with them.

VforVindication · Answer

Not really. And i don't think men can be just friends with women because unless the guy is gay, something always builds up.

worldscolide · Answer

Why not? Seriously if i felt like it was inappropriate i might say something, But beyond that i do not care who she is friends with.

Andres77 · Answer

To a point. I’d prefer everything be out in the open

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sure, I have female friends, why shouldn't she have friends male or female?

Bubbles16 · Answer

Sure I mean my boyfriend is friends with girls and I'm fine with that

genericname85 · Answer

yeah. cause if i didn't trust them, they wouldn't be my spouse.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Honestly, probably not. I have serious jealousy issues

Neilbud · Answer

Yeah, as long as they were trustworthy. I would dislike it if a girl said I couldn't have certain friends.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am okay with it. I have female friends so why shouldn’t she have guy friends.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I would be okay with it, But it depends on if I like them or not.

itsmegrave · Answer

I don't care as long as they're good people.

Twalli · Answer

Yes. It doesn't mean she sees them in a vf romantic way.

Enbywaffle · Answer

Yes. You can have friends without being attracted to them. I dont understand the idea that they can’t be friends like what?

Guy13 · Answer

No for this reason...

IAteTwoFullHams · Answer

Yeah, she has plenty, and I'm fine with it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, that is not a problem at all.

KatherineJ · Answer

He had female friends before he met me.

glennos89 · Answer

Yes thrust is eveything in a relationship

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Yes, she;s a big girl. She has a life too.

TallAnon · Answer

It would be weird if she had none

Anonymous · Answer

no problem for me

Juan4574 · Answer

Never.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I mean I'm not married, but yes.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Yes, ofcourse.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course.

Smartman5 · Answer

Nooo

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah, no problem

Xtendable · Answer

Totally fine with it

Idkwtfimdoing96 · Answer

sure ig

panamared1 · Answer

people should not limit their friend pool

Anonymous · Answer

no, i would not be

Anonymous · Answer

no she is my slave

Grond21 · Answer

Yes, I would

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yeah.

Thotkiana · Answer

Yeah

LavLavLuv · Answer

Of course

BarryLiverstone · Answer

For sure!

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Yeah

pink-jilly · Answer

Yeah

htmndg183 · Answer

Yes.

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