I like a guy. He owns a suprette so I shop there everyday. Is that desperate?

[DermalPunch]

There's a guy who owns a little market in my neighborhood. We have a nice vibe going. I could shop elshwehere but I go to his shop because he's cute and we always laugh, smile and flirt a bit. There's tension but it's all g-rated.

I go everyday because I simply enjoy his company and he has nice produce. I also need food.

He seems tense a bit when I first step in and I sometimes think he is unhappy to see me. But then he will try to find things to talk about and ask me about myself.

Is it desperate to go so often? I have a legitimate need and he's pleasant company. How would you feel about it if you were the guy?

Updates

+1 y

So I went in today and my friend layed it on thick. Asking me if I had sister he could marry. Anyway, after a lot of chit chat he says he is "never getting married".

Anyway, this is code for we can smash but that's it. Got my answer and now I an move on! Not looking for a hookup. Thanks for all the answers 🙏🏾

Updates

+1 y

GOOD NEWS! Supreme boy and I dig each other and we will see where it goes. Thanks @msc545 for the tough love.

Updates

+1 y

Well... it didn't work out. It's all good.

[BillyBass23]

Based on the information provided, he's may be shy. Find a topic he likes, I'm sure he'll open up. I'm the same way, but talk about Baseball & I'll talk for hours.

[DermalPunch]

Sure thing. We'll se. Do you think it's desperate behavior to go everyday?

[BillyBass23]

No, I wouldn't say so. Honestly, I'm sure he likes the company. I know I would!

[DermalPunch]

Thanks!

[coachTanthony]

Sooner or later you need to make a move if he isn't. Probably against rules to hit on customers.

[DermalPunch]

Why is no one answering my. question? My question is does it look desperate if I shop there everyday?

[coachTanthony]

Yes it's desperate unless you make a move.. sorry I assumed you would just put that in front of my comment but I guess you didn't.

[DermalPunch]

Oh, but I like shopping there and it's convenient.

[coachTanthony]

It's desperate to the person who thinks you are interested in them. Imagine saying to that person if they come up to you and say hey do you like me and you say no it's convenient and I like shopping there? This is why you need to make some kind of move.

[DermalPunch]

Oh I see what you are saying. No, I think it's nice like this. Little shopping. Little chit chat. Little attention. I think we both are happy with that. I will still go becaise I like shopping there regardless.

[coachTanthony]

Are you worried at all that he thinks you like him and are desperate for shopping there?

[DermalPunch]

I don't mind if he knows I like him at all.

[coachTanthony]

Then let me ask why ask the question here on GAG? For fun? or are you really concerned?

[DermalPunch]

Inhear you. Well, I asked because I want to determine whether my patronage will be considered desperation showing interest. Regardless, his produce is of higher quality better than the other suprettes in the area.

[DermalPunch]

Desperation or showing interest.

[coachTanthony]

lol okay fair enough

[Anonymous]

The problem with these is when it doesn't work out you've got to find a whole new place to shop.

[DermalPunch]

See. I would rather have a cute flirtationship than a dumpster fire relationship. Also, he lives above the store so it would become neighbourhood gossip fodder.

[serious]

It seems you genuinely like him and you enjoy being around him. You enjoy talking to him. It is all good.

[DermalPunch]

Yes, absolutley. But I am looking for something seruous and he is lookong for sex and /for papers to North America! 🤣🤣🤣 We want different things. Anyway, he asked if I had a sister meaning... I'm not interested in you that much.

[serious]

@DermalPunch

I understand. Unfortunately your thinking does not match with his.

[DermalPunch]

It's very fortunate. Last time, I let my attraction and lonliness cloud my judgement. I won't let it happen again. At least this time I wasn't used and abused and I was patient and was able to get him to spill the beans in his plan before getting my heart involved. Now that the lines have been drawn, we can keep it cordial without expectations.

[serious]

@DermalPunch

Very good then. You know better.

[NathanDavis]

are you buying stuff you actually need?

or are you buying a lot of stuff you don't even need...

[DermalPunch]

No, essential food stuffs. It's very convenient for me too and his stuff is nicer than thebother markets.

[NathanDavis]

there you go then... it is convenient, not desperate

[Stevefiveo]

No, it doesn't look desperate. But, ask him when he gets out of work. Tell him that you really like talking to him and ask him out to coffee. Good luck.

[DermalPunch]

I may tell him I like talking to him but I won't ask him out.

[Stevefiveo]

I would suggest to make a move soon. Otherwise you are going to get stuck in the friend zone. He can't make a move because he is the worker in the store and risk offending someone. Also, if he is great as you say, then there are probably lots of women giving him their phone number, etc.

[DermalPunch]

He seems more polite now than flirty and he seems active on his phone. He would have made a real move if he was interested.
Surely, I'm one of many and I don't feel like being put in someone's rotation. He was likely contemplating if he could get me into bed and has likely decided to not bother. If I make yhe move I will surely be put on the sex list. I'm bubbly but shy when it comes to romance so I suck at flirting.

I'd rather be disappointed then get deceived again.

[Stevefiveo]

You don't know any of that for sure until you go out with him and actually talk to him. You can make excuses if you want, but you never know unless you try.

[DermalPunch]

please see my update. as soon as I walked in hebhad the charm turned up to 10K.

then he starys askong me abiut ifnInjave a sister that he can get married too.

then he asked me if i was married. i explained i wasn't. Then he asked me why.

i just said it didn't work out. then he said he is never getting married.

before that I asked if he had brothers and sisters and hr made a point of saying they are all married.

I don't think his flirting was 100% genuine. He's a man so if I offered sex he'd take most likely but I don't think he is into me.

I'm just happy I played it cool for once and got a guy to show his hand first.

[EaterPeter]

He is making money and you are spending, now you do the math.

[DermalPunch]

Sure, no doubt.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Marked_Man]

Yeah it's desperate if you keep lurking but don't actually approach him. He, being a business owner, is unlikely to hit on you so make your interest clear.

[DermalPunch]

Lurking? I'm shopping for things I actually need and I choose to give him my business because he's pleasant and I know him. It's also on my way home. Very convenient.

[Marked_Man]

Then if you're only shopping, how would he ever know you're anything but a customer?

[DermalPunch]

Because we flirt with each other and are attracted to one anoher.

[DermalPunch]

He liked me first.

[strlb]

I wouldn't say desperate but I would definitely give him your #... you never know until you put yourself out there and be vulnerable

[DermalPunch]

Oh that would be a terrible idea.

[strlb]

You asked

[DermalPunch]

i asked nothing. he peppered me with a ehole bunch of questions. i did get my answer though.

[DermalPunch]

he asked me if i ha e a sister to marry. then says he is never getting married. CODE for I'd like to smash.

[strlb]

That was not included in your initial post hence the confusion. He sounds like a douche. Asks if you have sister to marry to him saying he is never getting married. Perhaps he's just looking to get laid. Move on

[DermalPunch]

I put a bit of it in the update. Yeah he's just looking for sex. He'll have to look elsewhere. I sense he does pretty well.

[legalboxers]

I use to do this to see someone I was into, she wasn't interested

[DermalPunch]

It happens and probably for the best. Do you have an answer to my question, though?

[msc545]

he likes you - ask him out!

[DermalPunch]

Yeah, I know. It's nice like this. Don't want to ruin a nice acquaintance-ship.

[DermalPunch]

He was being polite I think and has a lot going on woth his phone. I think I was wrong

[msc545]

ok. Although, if it were me, I would far prefer you to my phone. Talk to him!

[DermalPunch]

Well I do but he asked me where I got my wallet. You know just banal stuff.

[msc545]

FFS - ask the man out!

[DermalPunch]

Read the update. He made his "move" today. I was equally flirtatious. We were asking about our situations he was telling me about himself etc. For sure for sure for a fun hookup we would have a blast but this isn't an option for me. He asks me if I have a sister to marry, I said no. Then he goes he's never getting married. 🤣. I know that I would be playing myself if I proceed so I will stop here. He's hot a as 🔥. So am I and I will wait for a relationship that serves me. Done with doing for others at the expense of my mental and emotional health. I will still shop there though just to rub salt in the wound. I suspect the sunny demanour will shut right off next time I go in. And anyway I heard him talking on the phone about some Asmaa. He's a playboy.

[AMS700CX4u2]

No it is not.

[DermalPunch]

Cool. I don't feel desperate. He really has the best produce in the area.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Ask him out.

[DermalPunch]

Complicated. No. This is nice.