Did I look too desperate?

[Anonymous]

Flirting, sexual innuendos... back and forth flirting... then I went full speed. And then he ghosted me.🙃🥶

[Summeroflove]

He isn’t interested. If all you want is sex…. Don’t expect anything. Maybe you got too sexual….


If you show interest and someone runs off. Then they didn’t want you. But also… he shouldn’t ghost you he. He needs to express his feelings.

[Asker]

He ghosted. I feel so dumb smj

[Asker]

Smh****

[Summeroflove]

Asker. When someone ghosts you…. Usually they’re the problem. But again some people do get uncomfortable when it gets too sexual.

[Asker]

I understand. :(

[Summeroflove]

If you want a real relationship. Save sex for marriage. Otherwise you’ll only find guys who use you for sex and only care about their own satisfaction…

And any other guy. Well. They’ll stay far from you because they know you sleep around

[Asker]

Doesn't sound like the life I want to live. If one man isn't for me... next... my best friend is celebate off and on for YEARS. She's yet to meet a great guy. Super intelligent too. Men are mostly dogs. I'm not sure what she's looking for. She's super beautiful too. But I like to have sex and meaningful relationships. What if I wait around and it turns into dust. I waited 4 years before and bled to death the next time. That waiting until marriage is long gone for me & it's just not for me. What if I marry the dude and sex is fucking trash. Sex is very important to me.

[Summeroflove]

Well saying men are mostly dogs. That sexist behavior will chase any self respecting man away.

She’s been celebate off and on you either are or you aren’t.

Also…. Sorry only caring about sex… welp. That’s why men who aren’t all about sex don’t want you.

If you really love someone and create a strong bond that matters most

[Asker]

I'm not all about sex... I'm just saying sex is important and celebiacy isn't for me.

[Summeroflove]

Well asker then you get the kind of men that you are. That’s why you’re always with men who are dogs

[Asker]

Not necessarily. Everyone doesn't believe in saving sex for marriage. All men have dogs in them. Depends when you met them and if they are the ones you truly want and they will act right for you. I see what you're saying but there are millions who've had sexual committed monogamous relationships... got engaged to be married... etc. like I'm still not living my life sexless. If a man's not acting right... next

[Summeroflove]

There a lot of bad women too…. Doesn’t mean all women are bad. You seem to be the person whose not acting right… to be honest and I think that’s why you get rejected a lot

[Summeroflove]

That’s probably why he quit talking to you in the first place. Because you’re not acting right and all you want is sex.

Obviously he wasn’t flattered….. Bur we’re getting far away from the matter at hand

[Asker]

It's usually the ones I really want don't want me. But only have been 2 men like that. The rest. I reject because they are lame

[Asker]

The play games to get me hooked I'm not interested in that

[Summeroflove]

That’s exactly right. Because the type of men you want are probably decent men…. Who don’t want a woman like you. Who sleeps around and just wants to have sex.

Those men don’t want that

[Asker]

Nope you're probably right. Bit idc fuck it. He's free to do whatever he wants

[Summeroflove]

Yeah… well. Seems your pretty lame too. All you want is sex so you attract the same men as you are.

[Asker]

That's not all I want.

[Summeroflove]

If he ghosts you. he's done. You probably creeped him out sexually harassing him

[Summeroflove]

You want you cake and to eat it too. You wanna have sex. But you also want commitment.

If you want that. Sex comes later. You’re sexually flirting with a dude you’re not even in a relationship with. Sexually harassing him

[Asker]

Whatever you want to call it he was reciprocating for the longest. Now I understand and was trying to change my ways. He's not for me that's why he ghosted. Moving forward I'll take it easy. Sexual harrasment is a stretch but alright

[Summeroflove]

Well. If he was sexting. He was probably using you for sex. Found someone else… and moved on.

That’s why you always seem to choose the wrong men.

[Summeroflove]

You don’t want the right things. You’re acting like a slut…. Men who don’t sleep around and use women for sex don’t want that.

Also… hating men. Any self respecting man will just ignore you.

[Asker]

All you are is assuming. No one was setting. Just... compliments

[Summeroflove]

What does sexual innuendos mean?

[Summeroflove]

Because you said that in your question.

[Asker]

I don't Hate men?
You are really irking me right now

[Asker]

Just like dang I'd tap. Lol

[Summeroflove]

You say all men are dogs… Yeah well. Seems it’s just sexual. Either he was using you for sex and found someone else or wanted something more.

I really try to give people the benefit of the doubt…. People are hurting and I want to assume they just haven’t found the right one.

But the more I talk… the more I see why nobody worth their salt wants them.

[Asker]

I'm mostly just hurting so my mind isn't right. I know I've done my wrongs. But when you accuse me of things and or say not have sex. Like that's not for me. And I would hate to get in a marriage and sex is trash. If I waited for sex till marriage and he cums in 2 seconds like I'd die

[Summeroflove]

Asker that’s why you have to care more about sex. Sex until marriage it usually gets better as time goes on.

But you talk about how men don’t act right. So you leave them…. Yet you’re not acting right

[Asker]

Look the guy I like has professed he's not a good dude anyway and he's always on the chase and all he does is talk about sex. I was just thinking with my not my heart a bit. So it is what it is

[Summeroflove]

Then why even pick him?

[Asker]

He's been through a lot. And again he's a beautiful person inside and out. We all have our flaws. It is what it is. He's an amazing guy.. still. don't be jealous lol

[Summeroflove]

You say he’s horrible and he’s also a beautiful person… It’s not both

[Asker]

I didn't pick him. I found him. He's hot. That's it. I got to learn about him but he's closed that door..

[Summeroflove]

I’m not jealous. Lol. One second you tell me he’s horrible and the next how great he is….

But. You pick the wrong men on purpose and say all men are bad. LMFAO

[Summeroflove]

Then he’s not beautiful inside and out…. If all he is a hot.

There is girls I find hot. Wouldn’t date them in a million years. Because they’re not good people and to be honest without makeup they’re not that hot

[Asker]

I never said he's a horrible person. Maybe the way he ghosted sure. But to me he's a good guy. He's just a player.. a bachelor and he has many many options. So I'm no one. And I'm not surprised he did what he did.

[Asker]

He has many women after him. He's not publicly fucking girls left and right

[Summeroflove]

Your not consistent and you did say he’s bad. Obviously he has a lot of options and isn’t interested in you anymore.

If he was this great guy you wouldn’t say all that and frankly he would have told you he lost interest

[Asker]

Alright

[Summeroflove]

Asker the problem with people like you is. You ask questions and don’t want honest answers. You wanna argue…

[Asker]

I have no more fight in me

[Summeroflove]

Alright asker maybe you should look inside yourself instead of trying to pick fights online. Because I’m not the one to give in and tell someone what they want to hear just to shut them up

[Asker]

I. wasn't fighting anyone. I've tried dealing this conversation you still want to go back and forth. Let it go. Thanks for helping

[Asker]

Deading*

[Summeroflove]

Your welcome. Im just responding to what you say. But whatever. You asked the question

[MrCommodore]

Full speed? 😂 I don't think that would make you look desperate, just that you're open to having fun.

[Asker]

I wish he ghosted me worse than Casper:(

[MrCommodore]

😂😂

[MrCommodore]

Sorry that it happened that way

[Yannishka]

Full speed?

[Asker]

Annoying.

[Yannishka]

Wouldn't you want to run from an annoying person? I sure would. Being forward is okay, being annoying isn't.

[Yannishka]

But if he ghosts you he wasn't a good enough guy to begin with so you're okay. Or you are crazy. Either is possible.

[Asker]

I am crazy. I feel hurt. Because I couldn't help it. I care about him too. I hope he is happier somewhere else😭

[Yannishka]

When flirting just leave the ball in his park. Knowing you like him is enough for him to ask you out. Unless he's really shy.

[Asker]

Nah. He can get any lady he wants.
He's a bachelor

[Asker]

I was just feeling him the moment I saw him