Do I seem desperate?

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Use to date this guy, met up a few times enjoyed each other company. So we texted again and was talking fine.. he said he “I guess we can be friends again.” So things went fine.. I asked “how’s things with your family?” He ignored this.. so after an hour I double texted him “don’t u wanna talk to me anymore, be honest?” Does this seem desperate? With me I’ll just say things how it is, and it’s best for me to just know and move on with my life that way.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Sorry for the super late response. I'd been sick for the past few days and work was tying me down lol but I'll make sure to reply as honestly as possible.

Before asking others, ask yourself honestly first. Do YOU think you seem desperate for this guy's attention? If you answer yes, then you probably are. Double texting isn't as big of a sin as people make it out to be, but there's still a fine line between acting a certain type of way towards someone, and just being dumb. Like if I'm texting to my best friend late at night and in between an ordinary flowing conversation, he disappears or leaves me on read, I might say something like "hey b*tch, we were talking. Get your ass back here!" and then continue spamming him with stickers or emojis until he responds.

As for this guy, if you had sent him "how’s things with your family?" and he didn't see the message, then that just means he's either busy with something else and you should leave him alone for a while. No use double texting him here. But on the other hand if he saw your message and he's deliberately not responding and ghosting you, then he's just being petty, and by double texting him, you're not only seeming desperate, but you're also giving him an unnecessary ego boost. Just ignore him and move on. No need to even respond to such a petty person like that. He's clearly shown you he doesn't want to talk to you anymore, so there's no use asking.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No, its not desperate to me. I mean I personally am so tired of the games, I am pretty much the same way. I just straight out ask, and I can't get a straight answer I move on. I just don't have the same level of tolerance or patience with other peoples level of indifference any more.

I am tried of guessing, or gauging their level of interest. I don't know anymore if they are just playing games, insecure, or sincere. If you're interest then act that way. At some piont if truly unsure, then let's talk about it. Let's just get what ever it is out in open and see if its worth figuring out.

But if you're one these people that want to act like a simple direct question, is desperate, too pushy or provokes higher levels of anexeity fir you... then fuck it, you're not worth my time to only find out weeks later your a joke.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

It's not desperate, but it's a bit aggressive and too dramatic. Most guys don't like this and wish women/girls would just chill.

Maybe he didn't want to talk about his family.

Maybe he's busy or distracted but would have got back to you.

You immediately default to the skeptical stance of him not wanting to be friends or friendly. You can chase people away by being like this. I'd advise to cool your jets, just let things flow more.

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Double texting within an hour looks desperate. At least text about something else other than asking if he's still interested in talking

Summeroflove · Answer

No. But. If he isn’t interested in having a relationship again. Let it go. If he’s willing to be friends but that’s it… Seems like he isn’t into you anymore.

If you have asked him and he rejected you let it go. If he gave you a indirect answer. Then if he’s into you. You left the ball in his court.

Don’t push it.

SnowedIn · Answer

The followup after an hour does seem, I admit, a bit desperate. Be patient. Everyone has lives and stuff and messaging immediately isn't always a thing.

Here's the other thing, either you like him in which case this is worth talking/working through, or you don't and then, yeah, move on.

mickmrly · Answer

He could be distracted by something else and not able to text back right away. Even if he is taking a while, you shouldn’t be too worried about waiting for his response. Rather than desperate, you do seem a bit anxious about him talking to you again. Perhaps try waiting for a day or two, and if he still doesn’t answer by then just don’t try and talk to him again. Some people just like to string other people along for no good reason.

BigschlongEnergy · Answer

Well Being Desperate Is a feeling if you feel lonely and wanna be seen & Heard then your Desperate Take a Buddhist monk for instance the monk isn’t Desperate To be seen or heard it doesn’t give a shit if you die why well because The monk is at Peace and ain’t gonna trip out if you die.

20yearsolder · Answer

You should have moved on and got the hint when he said, I guess we can be friends again. Definitely desperate. You shouldn't have to try to coerce conversation out of someone

RealMarek · Answer

Imagine you the guy was driving or working when you texted him, so he couldn’t use his phone. Then you seem to flip out and confront him about why he didn’t text you back. Don’t be that girl.

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah.. It kinda does.. In fact double texting within at least hours of not texting is always desperate.. Since you are young and I assume the pretty girl in all the pics is you, I think you should be fine.

spartan55 · Answer

An hour? Ugh... desperate? Lol no. Impatient, entitled and high maintenance? Oh yeah.. .

bubblegunnn · Answer

Dont rush it.. make urself busy with some useful things rather than hoping him text u back.. just act dgaf

PamelaRivers · Answer

Was just an hour. You think he may have been busy and not able to answer?

Stevefiveo · Answer

He could have been busy. Texting is a message that you will get to when you can. I would avoid double texting and ones that are negative like that.

innerman · Answer

Girl, take a soda or watch some Tv, U gonna run crazy obsessing about this muff

peedy · Answer

No seems to me you just want answers to why he's giving you the cold shoulder

Cedman · Answer

Yes sending a text is fine but two with in an hour seems desperate. He probably busy and not looking at his phone.

andre-48 · Answer

Probably should have been more patient with his response. He might of been busy or something. Don't do it again

TheAfrikan · Answer

Chill no need to push him on into talking to you if he does not text back.

glennos89 · Answer

No its a normal thing to ask in this situation

hafinjun · Answer

No, you seem frustrated more then Desparate

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Nope... Just not the right set of words

LazerBean · Answer

Yes.

Sixgunsound · Answer

A bit, tbh.

In_Trance · Answer

yeah

Anonymous · Answer

A little bit

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