Does this sound desperate?

[Anonymous]

Guys does this sound desperate?
We are not together, we were in the talking stage online (long distance), but we clicked so much & then we both went out of sync & just drifted apart for 10 days now.
Let me know if this sounds sincere/genuine or just desperate?

Sounds desperate & needy

Sounds okay! You can send him that

[PeachyPie93]

Never double or triple text it makes you seem absolutely desperate. The first text is okay and if he doesn't respond, he isn't interested. Don't send the other two they are just over kill and make you sound super pathetic.
A guy who likes you will hit you up, if not sadly they aren't for you.

[Asker]

I honestly think I am internally. This dude's been on/off with me. Withdrawing for days & sliding back like nothing happened. This time it's taking longer, so I'm assuming something happened & want to address the situation to get it done with.

[PeachyPie93]

Trust me I have been on the side of being in love with a dude not actually feeling it and I been cringy. If he is going days without talking for whatever reason he just isn't feeling you. I had a guy literally telling me he loved me but would be "going through something" or "busy" and not talk to me for 2 weeks. The thing that used to piss him off is when I would message him he would ignore it for a few days or a week I would delete it. He would message me almost instantly which showed he seen it but was just ignoring me. If he really wanted to talk to you or really liked you he would be messaging and feeling the same way as you. If he isn't he doesn't feel the same.

[Asker]

Yes! I think I'm developing an anxious attachment dynamic with him & really am desperate for him to say that I did something that hurt him so I can make it up & proceed with whatever it is. But really thinking there's no point in it now that you put it that way... I think he will never be on the same wavelength or intensity with me as I am with him.

I think I know what to do now. Thank you🙏🏼

[PeachyPie93]

Plus that guy I liked would never admit he didn't like me I told him like if you don't like me or don't want to be with me just tell me. Yet he never admitted it, I think just because he wanted to have sex with me so had no problem leading me on. Luckily I realized before that that he wasn't into me and as painful as it was for me I blocked him everywhere.

[Asker]

I'm so sorry for that girl. I hope you find someone who genuinely loves you.
This whole thing has become torturous for me to handle. It's been 6 months for me already

[PeachyPie93]

Same it took me 8 months to realize. I also really hope you do too.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound affirmative enough u are making them seem like the problem. people don’t drift away because there’s a problem, they drift when u are the problem. So stop making it seem like their life is bad and they drifted away. Ask them why they are not talking to u and if u did something wrong. Apologise

[Asker]

I'm trying to make sense of what's happened. But thank you for this though. Could you give me an example for a more affirmative & genuine text?

[Opinion Owner]

Retrospect what u did understand where u went wrong , apologise for doing it

[Asker]

I promise I have no idea what have I done wrong for him to pull away! That's what I'm trying to understand. He gives me the silent treatment & I spoke about this before & now I'm trying to approach it calmly & with reassurance & encouragement to speak up because I am clueless & want to build with him 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Build what , are u even understanding what u want? There’s a lot of lack of accountability from your side. Understand what u did wrong and apologise. If someone has to communicate what u did to u , the relationship is not worth it for them

[RavVid]

The second screenshot is gonna guarantee you'll never hear from him again.

The third screen short is almost as certain as the second in getting him out of your life.

The first screenshot is OK and delightfully light on the passive aggressive

[KrakenAttackin]

He rid himself of a parasite.

[RavVid]

@KrakenAttackin :) I think if she just said she was missing him - which seems to be the case - it would go better.

[DarkLegacy]

Nope you sound desperate and needy and that sets off alarm bells. No guy wants that

[Asker]

Thank you for this! 🙏🏼

[KrakenAttackin]

You know exactly what you did to him.

[Asker]

Huh 🙄

[Plugs]

Exactly

[Plugs]

And she dares to ask that to them. It’s gaslighting at its finest

[KrakenAttackin]

@Plugs I am willing to bet he is a solid "friend zoned" guy and she was out with him and went on to describe a hookup in great detail. Women do this clueless shit all the time. This time the friend zoned guy realized (correctly) he needs to permanently eject her from his life. Good for him.

[Plugs]

She tryna lead him on without commitment I know. Mostly guys do this. I think it’s a blue pretending as a pink

[Asker]

Y'all stop making false assumptions. We are LONG DISTANCE & we've never met. I was planning a trip to see him in October, and he's NEVER been consistent with communication with me AT ALL. & left me on read for the past 10 days. That's why I'm assuming something has happened on my part because he switched up on me REAL fast. & I am willing to solve whatever that is.
Also it's very serious. His mom knows me well & she set me up with him.
Stop assuming stuff