Would this make me look desperate?

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I’m thinking about texting this guy I use to see and speak to everyday! So we haven’t spoken in 2 months, because I posted on my story how I cancelled on a date! Bare in mind I didn’t even know what me and him was. We’d see each other and make out and like each other company but I didn’t know if we was dating or not. So after I posted that he deleted his message to me, I asked him why he did that, and he was like “cause ur dating now so dw.” I tried to explain how I cancelled it and I’m not interested in any other guys, but he kept on ignoring it and being bitter. Now it’s been 2 months we haven’t spoken.. but he’ll watch my story really fast still. Abd I do miss him a lot. Should I send a text to him saying “hey hope you’re good.” ? Or would that seem desperate? Cos last message was me saying to him “you know I’d rather see you, stop.” And he ignored that.. but then adds me to his private story. However this happened 2 months ago we went without speaking.

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

My honest opinion might sound bad!! OK if you do not text him most likely you will never see him again. It is possible he will text you but you can't count on that. If you do text him, it sounds to me like there is a chance you could see him again but not a really high chance maybe like one out of three. If you do see him again, you are kind of at his mercy he has more leverage bc yes it will seem desperate. Is it worth doing, I don't know it depends but, I have to honestly say it is not how I would want to renew a relationship. Sorry that is my opinion :(

CA4444 · Accepted Answer

Id say try to be as upfront as possible…Just a text « hi hope you’re okay » doesn’t actually convey a very clear meaning or give any clue on your intentions or feelings for him… i would be a bit annoyed by such text. You don’t need to worry too much about sounding desperate if you are not desperate, and if you are yeah better to way until you’re not….

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

If you’re getting physical with someone whom you don’t know if you’re dating or not, that is already its own issue. If he had his chance to shoot his shot neither missed or never took it in the first place, that’s not your problem that’s his, and I wouldn’t waste my time in that situation with someone who pretended to enjoy your company but wouldn’t commit.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

I agree with @leighbee. DM him and say you want to talk. I don't think it looks desperate. If he doesn't respond or if he say "no" -- then let it go/don't dm back. THAT would look desperate.

Bethany22 · Answer

It's up to him now to reach out to you. You've done all that you could. If he still likes you, he'll be desperate enough to assume that that message you sent was enough proof that you want him instead of the other guy.

Summeroflove · Answer

If he rejected you. Then leave him alone. If he wants you the balls in his court now. If you keep at it. You’re just going to annoy him and he definitely won’t.

I say. Move on. Find someone else. Easier said then done. But. Just drop it.

JPresidente · Answer

If he’s looking at your stuff online then he’s hiding some feelings and pretending not to care. He’s crying out for you to reach out to him even though he pretends to be hurt. I’d say go for it and send him a message.

RealMarek · Answer

I imagine he wants an apology. He clearly thought that by making out with you he was more than friends with you, and seeing that you were dating upset him. In other words, I suppose he thinks you led him on. He might also dislike the fact that you would post about how you declined a date. I wouldn’t like it if I woman did that to me. As for whether it seems desperate to reach out to him, I don’t know.

Stevefiveo · Answer

It is not going to make you look desperate. It would just seem friendly. You would need to be move bold and tell him how you feel before he knows what you are thinking. You're not going to know how he's thinking until you ask him. Maybe suggest meeting for coffee and talking. Good luck.

tonamimargaux · Answer

Ummm 🤨 if ignored you for months prolly he’s not that interested in you. I don't know whatever, I think you should just ask him directly. Problem will be solved.

nunsaymoo · Answer

You already looked desperate when you said, "you know I’d rather see you, stop," and he never responded. Any further attempts to try to get him to stop ignoring you will only lower your value even more. And honestly, his passive-aggressiveness is a red flag anyway.

jennyjenjen98 · Answer

If you want something to happen between you two, message him.

hafinjun · Answer

If he is so inflexible that you violated his... hell I have nothing, but in my mind I'm thinking he's that possessive over what's apparently a secret relation ship, imagine what would come of being in a real relationship. Good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Message him anything so he knows you care about him. I bet he wants a small apology from you, no need to overdo it. It's been two months, so he probably thinks you don't care about him anymore. Maybe he moved on already. He felt hurt at the time, he thought he means more to you. So he didn't message you, but i'm sure he was or still is waiting for you to message him, since he watches your stories.

faithgrace4u · Answer

Yeah be like hey how're you? i miss you wanna meet up for coffee

spartan55 · Answer

You girls and this desperate nonsense... 🙄 Just message him, otherwise you will overthink yourself into a sailor's knot.

slatyb · Answer

Just ask him to meet you somewhere. There are only two possible outcomes -- yes and no. If it's no, you haven't lost anything.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Sure, write. Worst that can happen is he still ignores you. At least you will know.

Staximus · Answer

How about call him in the phone like an adult

KrakenAttackin · Answer

He thinks you want to get his attention just so you can curb him again.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Clearly write him, that you love him madly and cannot live with you, so surely he was contact you

leighbee · Answer

Just dm him saying you wanna talk

Smilessavelives · Answer

Check on him and see how's he's doing  It never hurts to ask

Jordan_112 · Answer

I think he won't want you like he was before you should go for another one

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