Would This Come Off As Desperate?

[Astrocake]

yesterday, a guy that was interested in getting to know me called me. It was a voice call and then end up being a FaceTime call. We stayed on the phone for 39 minutes , for the voice call, then my phone died and I called back and we ended the conversation with another 49 minute facetime call (2 separate calls). But today, which is the next day, he hasn’t said anything at all. he hasn’t called again or texted me at all and I’m wondering if I reach out. Would that make me seem desperate? Should I just wait on him to reach out again? What should i do? Thanks in advance.


(I placed a poll in case anyone who sees this, doesn’t feel like typing. But I appreciate all personal responses. Thanks.)

Wait For A Response

He isn’t interested.. Move On.. He would’ve spoken to you by now.

Reach Out. Say “hey”

[Guy13]

If you contacted him after all that attention needing more then I would feel like I could never meet your needs. No puy does what he did. He likes to talk deep stuff. By Thursday reach out if no contact is my suggested route of activity.

[spartan55]

You girls and the fear of looking desperate... so ridiculous. So was that desperate because he called you yesterday? Call him.

[Astrocake]

No , he’s a man. I’m not. I don’t want this to be one sided because he didn’t call back. I’m basically waiting for a confirmation , to see if this is something we both wanna do.. does that makes sense? 😭

[spartan55]

What does being a man have to do with it? How would it be one sided when HE called yesterday? So, no, you don't make any sense.

[Astrocake]

because he’s a man. men chase , men hunt , me go after what they want. i don’t want to seem desperate. and yesterday was our first call so maybe he didn’t like me?

[surebruh]

This is nonsense, obliviously you're interested, your efforts play a role too.

[spartan55]

@Astrocake
Wow, really? You believe in lots of myths when it comes to relationships. Did you not listen when I said it is never desperate to show a guy you are interested. You are coming off like all you have to do is show up and the guy does all the work. Why should he keep chasing you around when you aren't doing a thing?

[Astrocake]

because i don’t want to be a burden. i’m not acting as if i’m on a pedestal, i just don’t want to bother anyone who doesn’t want to be bothered.

[spartan55]

That's the lamest excuse ever. A burden? I wonder you had some of these ideas put in your head... 🙄 Well then don't be surprised if he doesn't contact you.

[spartan55]

Why would he not want to be bothered when you spent several hours on the phone last night? Makes no sense.

[Astrocake]

i’ve kinda already prepared my self for that but thank you for your advice i appreciate u

[spartan55]

Considering you aren't wiling to do anything to move things forward you shouldn't be surprised.

[Astrocake]

there’s nothing i can do. all options will lead to this

[spartan55]

Wrong, you could contact him which would show him you are interested. But you won't do that.

[Astrocake]

and say what?

[spartan55]

I don't know, what did you talk about last night?

[Astrocake]

mostly his goals and our similarities

[spartan55]

Don't call him then... whatever. But don't turn around and blame it on him.

[Astrocake]

ok. thanks again. i appreciate everything

[spartan55]

Good luck.

[Astrocake]

you were right i think he was expecting to hear from me. ended up taking ur advice. thanks a lot

[spartan55]

You called him?

[Summeroflove]

If someone’s interested they want you to seem interested not seeming interested will probably chase them away faster

[Shamalien]

Reach out. Be an adult and stop playing games

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.

[Astrocake]

thanks

[spartan55]

Yeah, listen to this guy... 😂 😂