Do you think people overestimate confidence when it comes to attraction?

[Anonymous]

[inhua]

confidence is a matter of perspective based around the Halo Effect/Devil Effect

handsome + confident = charming / ugly + confident = arrogant and cocky

handsome + unconfident = shy and cute / ugly + unconfident = weirdo

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol.

[EricSummer]

Thanks. I know confidence alone is not enough, but this is a good way to explain how it works.

[Asker]

I will agree that handsome and unconfident = shy and cute... that's probably one of the reasons I asked this lol 😅..

[Anonymous]

If I understand your question. . . I don't think self-confidence can be over-estimated for its contribution to someone's attractiveness. I've seen girls with small boobs who want to leave their bra on when having sex (as if that hides the fact that her boobs are small!) and I've seen girls with small boobs who act as if they are sexually appealing and desirable (which they are.) Huge difference!

[provokeesmokee]

No.

Self-confidence is vital and it's an obvious trait, especially if you have it and someone else doesn't.

It's not only being confident in your looks, either. You can be not confident in your looks, but have confidence in your skills and abilities and that makes a big difference.

Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to true confidence, and that itself is an attractive trait.

[kylee2437]

No, most people show big amounts of insecurity when it comes to attraction.

[Asker]

What?

[kylee2437]

Most people have the fear of rejection when it comes to attraction to another aka insecurities

[Asker]

Yeah but that doesn't necessarily make them totally unattractive... and being confident is not really a sign of anything... I mean , most average people are pretty confident lol

[kylee2437]

I didn’t say it has to do with being attractive lol I said most people get pretty insecure when they see an attractive person they want

[Asker]

Oh okay , I wasn't really asking about that...

[kylee2437]

Well that’s how I took the question

[Asker]

I was talking about that for most people, being confident is like the number one attractive trait...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, they do not. I am totally average looks wise and always dated much hotter guys, because I felt like I deserved the best the world has to offer.

Coming from a family with the sexiest men, I don’t think any men are out of my league, even if I am not as pretty as they are.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

However, at some point you learn that looks are not really that important.

[Nikki1989]

Well, you can spot someone who lacks confidence from a mile away. It tends to repel rather than attract.

[boggboss]

No I wouldn't say it is many people try to get partners whilst coming off as insecure and lack confidence and that lack can be hella unattractive

[ProbablyClueless]

Nah. Insecurity is incredibly tedious to deal with.

[valentina4eva]

not imho🤷🏻‍♀️ for me confidence is like my #1 turn on😅😅😳

[invalid1]

No no no believe me, my anonymous friend. Confidence is the name of the game.

[Anonymous]

Not from a woman's perspective because confidence is an important part of what makes a man attractive.

[Christoff92]

Yes. Because a person finds you attractive doesn't mean that puppy love fever has to come to be. Meaning desperate 😐

[Anonymous]

I don't. If I like a guy I let him know. I don't play games.

[Vegasrunner]

Most men have to little confidence most women have to much.

[Blueeyes81]

I think most people underestimate it.

[clampfan101]

Some do. Some do the opposite.

[CT_CD]

Yes..

[In_Trance]

sometimes