I don't feel a spark with my boyfriend, he is so nice, loving but I don't feel the same way, advice?

[Anonymous]

He is like the perfect guy, so nice, caring, loving... Treats me like a princes, spoils me a lot..We been dating for 2months. He likes me more then I like him, he is falling for me. But I don't feel the spark anymore... I was confused today about what to do, break up or just see how it goes. We had s...E.,'x today again for 2nd time. He is amazing but I don't feel the spark. When I saw him today I started crying a little bit, tried to hide it from him. I just feel sad that I don't feel the same way about him... What should I do.., what you think?

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Do you think that beeing friends would work with him? What would you do if I told you that?

[Dragondude42]

Love isn't something you fall in and out of, its a choice. Sometimes the choice is made subconsciously (which is what people call "falling in love").If you want to stay with him and feel that spark again, make the choice that you'll feel it.

He could be giving you too much attention, or spoiling you too much. Think about how you two acted around each other when you still felt the spark and start acting like that again. Flirt with each other and stuff, like you just started to date.

It's worth a shot at least.

It might also be that you two had the s-word too soon in your relationship. Depending on how much emotional value the individual puts on it, having it at the wrong time can really mess things up. If you think that's the case, kiss, cuddle and such but don't do "it" for a while.

[Asker]

Your advice means a lot to me. Thank u:)

[Asker]

It might hurt him more if I'm still with him trying to get spark back. What is if I don't gett it? It might hurt him more for leading him on:(

[Dragondude42]

You'll both be hurt if you end up having to leave him. Just that fact that you are worried about the lost spark shows that you have feelings for him. I'm sure he would appreciate it if you give him the chance to help you get the spark back.

Take care to not act rashly, make sure that whatever you decide to do feels like the right choice.

[Asker]

Should I tell him that I lost a spark and I'm trying to gett it back?

[Dragondude42]

That does come down to a personal choice, so in the end its your decision. I personally try to be as open as possible and would want my Girlfriend to be open with me. It builds trust and overall helps things to run smoother. That said, If I was in your position, I would wait for a little bit before telling her. Just to give me a fair shot at working it out on my own. After A week I would probably feel the need to tell her.

[Dareon]

You've heard people saying that love can't be bought by money, and it's true! Although there's nothing wrong at all to treat a girlfriend like a princess, it just can't replace mutual attraction.

I think the best for you is to put an end to it, in long-term it will be better for both of you, you know that you're giving him false hope by staying in and not saying a word.

Poor lad is trying so hard to impress you but it's all in vain! I don't blame you at all, such things can happen, but if you really feel that he's not the right one for you, don't force yourself to stay in a relationship you ain't really happy with.

Glamour and luxury not always are all we need to be happy.

[udolipixie]

Your options:

1. Dump him

2. Stay becaise he's a good guy

^ plenty of girls I know sacrifice attraction for a good relationship. lol

3. Force yourself to be attracted to him

^ rarely works in my observations

[alice4hatter]

Go with your gut. I think deep down you know the answer. It won't steer you wrong if you really listen to it.

[Musical546]

no one here can decide that for you. just remember that a relationship is about two people, in equal roles.

[Asker]

True, I don't want to hurt him:( I know what would be the best thing to do in this situation but it is not that easy to do...

[Musical546]

lol. before you break up with him (if that's what you think you have to do) talk to him and see you can get that spark back... I'm warning you though... he may take it badly. if you cant, then follow your heart.

[Asker]

U really think that I should tell him that "I lost spark between you and I and that I'm trying to gett it back"?

[Musical546]

frankly... yes.

guys are crap as it comes to picking up clues... straight out saying it so he knows what's going down is the best.

and yeah. soften it up a little from that and yep =P

[Asker]

What would you think or do if your girlfriend told you what I'm about to tell him?

[Musical546]

if I really liked her- then I would try to work it out with her... sit down for awhile and just talk about it.

if it doesn't work afterward, it doesn't work. but hey- we tried.

if it was a girl that I was dating that wasn't my normal good girl type, and she said that, I would get the image that she wants ro break up with me.

[Asker]

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