How do you attract a man older than you?

[Anonymous]

I'm interested in a man who is 15 years older than me. He started talking to me and showed interest but not for a serious relationship and even for a fling he isn't showing that much interest. How do I attract him? He is single and in his 40s.

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some tips for attracting an older man:

• Be direct and confident. Older men often appreciate when a younger woman knows what she wants and isn't shy about pursuing it. So be bold and make your interest clear.

• Focus on commonalities, not differences. Talk about shared interests, values and life experiences that transcend age. Emphasize what you have in common, not your respective ages.

• Show maturity beyond your years. Demonstrate that you're wise, self-aware and emotionally intelligent. This can help alleviate concerns about the age gap.

• Share stories and experiences that highlight your life stage. Talking about things like work, independence and goals can make an older man see you as more of an equal.

• Ask for advice and his perspective. Flatter his wisdom and experience. Older men often enjoy mentoring and guiding younger women.

• Dress age-appropriately. Wear styles and make-up that complement your age rather than try to look younger. An older man will appreciate you embracing who you are.

• Show enthusiasm for his interests. Learn about his hobbies, passions, preferences and sense of humor. Relating to the things he enjoys is attractive.

• Compliment him genuinely. Older men aren't used to as much attention, so sincere and specific compliments can really catch his interest. Focus on his personality, not just looks.

Ultimately, the key is placing value on who the man is, not how old he is. Focus on relating to him as an equal, radiating maturity, confidence and genuine interest in him as a person. I hope these tips help get the conversation started and attract his attention in an age-appropriate way! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[Anonymous]

The best thing you can do is be yourself. If he likes you the way you are then he likes you. Don’t try to put on a “front” just to make him like you when you’re really not what you’re portraying yourself to be. Honestly if you’re cute chances are he likes you. I’ve never gone after younger women, doesn’t mean I’ve never found some attractive. But the ones I did like I liked that they were nice, smiled a lot, easy to talk to, joked around w me, etc.

[_Maya_]

You can't attract someone that isn't attracted to you. Maybe you are reading this wrong and he is not interested. That is how I take it seeing as how he doesn't want a relationship or even a fling according to you. That means he just isn't intereseted in you romantically. There is really not much you can do. Not everyone is going to be attracted to everyone else. You just have to move on and find someone that is attracted to you.

[Asker]

He actually asked me out on a date first. We live in different cities and I tend to travel to his city a lot. First two weeks went great but now he just acts weird. He's giving me mix signals I don't know what to do now

[_Maya_]

Maybe he went on the date and then figured not worth the distance or whatever.

[Asker]

We haven't been on the date yet. And he is still up for it anytime but why the distance then

[Nikki1989]

Most men are not worth your time and effort, even more so if they show no interest.

[Apple1996]

Old men are desperate so can't be that hard to catch their attention and flirt

[Senator754]

The age difference between the two subjects is fair. However ladies and gentleman, set boundaries for yourselves and discuss them in a quiet setting so as not to be distracted or disturbed. If either of you do not agree to agree, it’s best to not allow sex enter the picture as you’re at the age where both sexes can wander off. Trust your gut (ie anxiety). This is not easy but courageous and respectful to yourself.

[mandyfire98]

Normally just by talking to them. I've never had an issue attracting older men. It's specifically what I'm attracted to. I just talk to them and flirt with them.

[chrissykerdock]

wear a short dress older men love that... smile at him... flirt with him do whatever you have to do to excite him.

[Wonderingguyy]

I recommend you listen to Lana del Rey’s unreleased music.. that should tell you

[Wise4myage]

I hear older guys love girls who are mature for their age and have direction in their lives.

[strateguy632]

by exhibited maturity and seriousness

[Iron_Man]

Just be yourself

[TheMan35]

Just be yourself.