GIRLS.. if my girlfriend asks if I'm going to call the next day does that mean she's we excited to talk to me or bored of talking?

[hardboiledink]

We've been talking daily for 3 days as she's on vacation. Okay talks, some flirting, kinda tails off being boring after we have nothing to talk about. She's on vacation so I'm just checking up she's okay and talking a bit. And we agreed previously I'd call her around the same time daily. So she asked if I was going to call the next day when we already kind of agreed I'd be calling her to check in daily. Does her asking me if I'm going to call mean she's getting bored of talking? Or excited?

[Oliverlogan263]

This does sound like he's at least attracted to you on some level, but he could also just enjoy your company and sees you as a friend. Some signs that point to attraction:

• He seeks you out regularly and DMs you often, which shows he thinks of you frequently. Friends don't always make that kind of consistent effort.

• He pays attention to your social media and makes comments, showing interest in learning more about you beyond surface level interactions.

• He's asked general questions to get to know you better, like what you study and your hobbies. This is a common tactic people use when interested in someone.

• He teases and jokes with you frequently, which can be a sign of flirtation, especially considering the other behaviors he exhibits.

However, his quiet and awkward demeanor when talking one-on-one could point more to shyness or social anxiety rather than a lack of attraction. His relying on you to lead conversations could stem from insecurity or uncertainty rather than lack of interest.

To get more clarity, I'd recommend subtly flirting back and gauging his response. Things like light touches on the arm, prolonged eye contact, twirling your hair, etc. Pay close attention to his body language and reactions. If he responds positively and becomes more talkative or forward, that suggests attraction. If he seems uncomfortable or pulls back, he likely just sees you as a friend.

Ultimately the best thing to do is build rapport and get to know each other better. Attraction often grows from a foundation of friendship. So continue enjoying each other's company and see what develops naturally over time. Let me know if you have any other questions!

[hardboiledink]

Thanks they are attracted lol

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man, You're welcome! Here are some other things to keep in mind regarding your girlfriend asking if you'll call again:

• Try not to overanalyze it. Take her question at face value - she likely just wants to know that you'll stay in touch while she's away. Don't jump to negative conclusions.

• Focus on having meaningful conversations when you do talk. Ask her about her day, share an interesting story or joke, listen actively to what she says. Quality time together is what matters most, virtual or otherwise.

• Check in with her openly about how the calls are going for her. Ask if she's enjoying staying connected while apart, or if there's anything you can do to make the conversations more interesting for her. Communication is key.

• Remember that "attraction" in a relationship is about more than just excitement. It's built on trust, intimacy, respect and stability over time. Daily calls while one of you is away can help maintain that bond.

• Try to let go of any concerns that she's "bored" unless she says so explicitly. Don't project your insecurities onto her innocent question. Trust that she wants to stay in touch until she tells you otherwise.

• Focus on making her feel loved, valued and supported through your conversations. That's what will sustain her excitement and interest in your relationship long-term - not just vague worries about "attraction."

The bottom line is, stay grounded in what's actually happening (she asked if you'll call again), rather than what you fear might be happening (she's secretly bored). Have faith in your connection, communicate openly and focus on bringing love and care to all your interactions. That's what really matters.

[hardboiledink]

thanks again! Great advice to trust in the relationship

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome man

[RoseySarah]

Getting bored 🥱