What do you do when you flirt yourself into a date accidentally?

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I was just flirting, I am a flirt and especially good one when I don’t like the guy.

Now, I have these lectures, the owner of the academy has a crush on me, I noticed and I was flirting, didn’t expect him to ask me out.

He said he wants to visit me in Shanghai to take me out on a dinner.

All I wanted was just flirt here and there.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Then you are best to control your flirting desires the best you can , because most people will assume you are into them if you are flirting with them , The truth is , Guy’s and Girl’s think differently when it comes to flirting or just being friendly, That’s what makes Guy’s and girls’ different. You should only really flirt with someone that you are truly interested in to be honest with you , I know flirting can be fun , but it can also be dangerous as well . Because things like this can easily happen. Most people just assume someone else is into them if they are flirting with them when really they aren’t. So if you don’t like that guy that way , you are best just to be honest with him that you were just joking around and being silly and just tell him you are already in a relationship with someone else. Because he is clearly thinking you are into him. Why flirting can be dangerous , I use to love flirting as well , until I realized the danger it can cause. So I only flirt with a girl that I am truly interested in , sadly when I am just being friendly with a girl , sometimes she will still assume I am flirting with her , even though I am not. So The truth is , Guys know Guys and Girls know Girls’ , if a guy is telling you another guy is checking you out and into you , he is more than likely correct , the same goes if a girl tells a guy a girl is into him , she is more than likely correct. When I hang out with my girl friends and we go to a bar or restaurant they will sometimes tell me that girl over there likes you and is checking you out , I am like yea , ok , to find out they were right , So it’s best to take advice from opposite sex friends when it comes to knowing if someone truly likes you or not. We can easily assume someone is into us when really they are not. Again that’s what makes Guy’s and girls different , If you end up in a relationship with a guy , you are best to listen to your partner’s advice if another guy is trying to pretend to be your friend instead of just assuming your partner is being insecure and jealous , and just saying he is just a friend. Your partner knows other Guy’s more than you think you do , the same goes for girls as well. Why it’s best to distance yourself from opposite sex friends when you enter into a relationship , You can easily assume your partner doesn’t trust you or think they are being insecure , but the truth is they aren’t so listen to your partner when it comes to opposite sex people trying to enter into your life , Most people don’t grasp this concept and then they wonder why they keep continuing having failed relationships , so if you want your relationship to survive and for love to grow between you both , you are best to prioritize your partner whether you agree or disagree on what they are saying , stop assuming they are being insecure , they just see what you don’t see. trust me , Now if your partner doesn’t like you talking to any other guys what so ever then he has issues, but if he is ok with some and not ok with others , Listen to his advice , And guy’s do the same if your girlfriend or wife is telling you to stay away from that other girl , She is more than likely correct , It’s called respect for each other.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

Go on the date and, most likely, nothing will come of it and I won't have to go out with her, again.
It's already happened at least once. I met her in an AOL chat room about 22 years ago and things were going great in our flirting and we made a date and I said that I have no way of knowing who to look for because I've never seen a picture of her. so, she sent a picture and it practically scared the hell out of me!! She had very short hair, was a bit on the chubby side and had a "smile" that I could use to post in the basement to scare the mice away!! She looked like a bruiser of a guy with tits! I've seen truck drivers that look like her! But, I made the date with her so, I went and we didn't have a BAD time but, she didn't seem all that thrilled and I certainly wasn't so, my lack of romantic attention towards her probably sealed the deal for her that it was going nowhere, fast!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all you don't really acidentally flirt. Flirty personality isn't a real thing. If you happen to accidentally flirt you notice before getting to the point of a date and you correct the situation. Here it came to you naturally because you liked the attention so much, you just couldn't resist doing it. It's fine but women like you need to stop playing innocent and admit you're addicted to the attention of men who finds you attractive and like doing seduction games. Now either take the date or say no, men are used to attention addicted women leading them on.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I throw keywords out there like “you’re a great friend!” OR “Omg brooo you’re the best”. OR i saw there's no chemistry between us OR start talkin about dudes im into

Andres77 · Answer

Some natural behavior is not productive. With all your discipline and now having realized it…maybe you’ll curb your natural tendency. When you do that it’s like waving bloody meat in front of a beast with no intention of giving it to them. One day that beast might not tolerate being teased.

just a thought.

Guido · Answer

Flirting has consequences. It can be perceived as you are interested which is why you are flirt I ng with him. The result us he thinks you're interested in him and he is giving g you what he thinks you want.

When beautiful woman flirts with a guy, he is excited she is showing interest in him.

Now you are free to turn down the date which will undoubtedly hurt his feelings but you don't have to go if you don't want to. Just know that if you do go, he is going to want to continue to date you if the date goes well.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Please don’t do that. If you’re not interested in the person, don’t give them false hope. It’s okay to be kind, but you have to draw the line somewhere,

loveslongnails · Answer

You flirted your way into it, you can flirt you way out of it.

HiveBee · Answer

What if he was like "daaamn gurl I'm tryna ffffffffffffffffffff-"

soulOnDisplay · Answer

Of course you said yes, because you were too passive to say no.

Pete671 · Answer

If you flirt you are giving out signals that you want to be dated, don't give out false signals,,,

Tstrbrainer · Answer

That was no accident, you purposefully did it whether you like it or not

Anonymous · Answer

Just go for it and see how it goes. Or, make up an excuse to get out of it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

This doesn't happen to men.

eagle1951 · Answer

I never do it by accident

MsElizabeth96 · Answer

Flee the country

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