What do you do when someone is being 'clingy'?

[RowenaRavenclaw]

He's being clingy like we're together.

I mean, we said we thought the other was attractive and I pecked him on the lips once.

We aren't together and I didn't even like him like that, so now I don't think I ever will.

...

But we're close friends (and in class together) so I can't 'ghost' him, what do you suggest?

What do you usually do in this scenario?

[overthinkergirl]

i like some clingyness but my friend was once too clingy and i just started to distance myself from her. now we’re okay again:))

[Still-alive]

have you tried just being straight and direct with him? i agree with @petitedollbabee you are kinda giving him mixed signals.

and don't ghost the poor guy for god sakes. thats terrible. he hasn't done anything to warrant that.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

of course I won't, he's a great friend and I wouldn't want to ever lose him... especially because we're in every single class together! I kind of figured I was giving mixed signals, it was just hard to figure out what I wanted because for a while, it depended on the day. I always loved his friendship, but sometimes that was all I wanted and other times I felt like maybe I wanted something more. When I kissed him, the latter aligned more with what I was feeling. The problem is that it comes in waves and I feel like the clingy-ness is making me just want to be friends

[Still-alive]

well yeah just be straight up with him is my advice. it may hurt but ghosting him would hurt him even more in the long run believe me lol

[RowenaRavenclaw]

I never planned to ghost him, I appreciate that advice though. I think being straight up might be helpful, I just don't want to lose our friendship as we have it now. It just kinda sucks that our friendship may be driven by his ongoing want (since like March) to be in a relationship with me (something which is one sided). I don't want him to be sad that I only want to be friends and stop talking to me as much as we do right now.

[Still-alive]

he might distance himself from you for awhile... so you;ll have to just let him do so until he either gets over you or gets with another girl. then hopefully you can be just friends again. cause it sucks being friends with someone you're attracted to. you keep hoping the other will give you some signs they want more when really you just meant whatever you said or did platonically.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too. Thank you!

[petitedollbabee]

Does he know that you don’t like him in that way? You’ve told him that you find him attractive and you’ve kissed him. You’re sending mixed signals.

[RowenaRavenclaw]

I told him I think it's best that we stay just friends (and later amended that to mean for now and see how things go). The reason I'm sending mixed signals is because sometimes I find him attractive and want something (I don't know what yet) with him, and other times I don't think he's attractive and I think that we should be just friends. I kissed him when I felt like the former, but it wasn't a real kiss... it was just a quick peck (and then I literally ran away because prior he was like "haha do it you won't" and ofc I had to do it then). I just don't want him to be sad because I don't want us to not be friends like we are right now... but I also think we're only as close as we are right now because he wants a relationship with me (something 100% I don't want with him). helppppppp

[Simslover92]

Tell him the truth.