If someone likes you from the way you usually are should you go all out to try and inpress them/improve things?

[Monalisa77]

[syncheart]

I think loving a person for who they are is important. However I also think that everyone is on a journey, and if we stop working on ourselves we will just end up going backwards.

[Daffotul]

exactly

[Anonymous]

Only if you WANT to. I'm never going to go out of my way to be what i"'m not naturally.

[Monalisa77]

Well i just worry if i dont they will go off me

[Opinion Owner]

There's always a gamble when you play this game my friend. You either accept that or you remain single.

[Moirine]

When you're with someone who like you the way you are, you shouldn't go all out to do anything, everything will play itself out. If you have to mould yourself to become this person that you think your partner wants then you're not being true to yourself. Impressing them? NO, Becoming a better version of yourself? YES.

[Monalisa77]

True but I've not really found out what kinda person i am yet

[Moirine]

It's alright, it's through experiences that we find the kind of people we are. Some find and discover themselves at a younger age and it's alright if you're still navigating this thing called life and still trying to figure out who you, where you from (your roots) and what the future has in store for you

[Andres77]

Them liking you for who you are is the goal, you shouldn’t have to do anything else,

[Monalisa77]

Even improving hygiene /lifestyle? Id hate to xome across boring

[Andres77]

Anyone that has to improve her hygiene, should not be in a relationship. That’s so basic.. lifestyle is an expression of who you are. You should not have to change anything.

[Monalisa77]

Well i struggle with my teeth ehich is one of the reasons y i dont get y guys flirt with me/stare

[Andres77]

Dental work and hygiene are not the same. If that’s what you meant.

[Monalisa77]

Its through lack of brushing as I've got so many other health issues. Every time i brush them im left in pain for days

[Andres77]

Dear, then you need to find a better dentist and brush about four or five times a day until the pain goes away

[Monalisa77]

As i dont want to put him off I've really been trying to make myself look better (i usually don't care how i look but this is different 😂)

[Monalisa77]

Easier said than done 😂i just feel sick all the time

[Andres77]

Then you need to focus on your health first. Make sure you are ok before branching out

[Monalisa77]

Another thing when i can't get him outa my head😂and if he did ask me out im not gonna say no (knowing if he's genuine)

[Monalisa77]

Plus i think someone who actually cares about me and wants to spend time with me would help me loads. I just have to make sure he doesn't figure that out😂

[Andres77]

Don’t forget background checks

[Moirine]

@Monalisa77 use soft brittle brushes, be gentle and slow when brushing.

[Guido]

I am who I am. You need to like me for who I am not somebody you want me to be. I do not pretend to be anything but who I am.

[Monalisa77]

No i dont mean what they want me to be ofc i would only do things i actually like but just to make me more interesting n stuff

[Guido]

If you mean trying new thing and stepping out if your comfort zone then yes it's good. I was commenting more about personality.

[Monalisa77]

Ye that too, i just dont think im v interesting and people get bored quickly, i dont have any friends but people seem to like talking to me just in small doses lol

[Guido]

Good friends are hard to make and take time. Small doses is a good start. Being able to have a good conversation is very important.

Chatting online is never like irl.

[Twalli]

Never act in a way to attract someone. Act the way you are and those who like you will like you for the real you.

[Monalisa77]

Thing is, i dont know what is the real me

[Twalli]

Do what you like. Act the way you want to. Don't think about how others cire that if it's the real you.

[Monalisa77]

Ye i try vut tis difficult when u got a mother telling u what to do all the time

[Twalli]

You're 35.

[Monalisa77]

I need help but she confuses the two

[Twalli]

Treat what she tells you as advice, not rules.

[Monalisa77]

Lol its not even advice when she tells me i can't even walk when i want to. She says n looks as in a strict tone too, but i dont do as im told lol im actually xonvinced if a guy asks me out she would probably bann me from seeing whoever even if they seem genuine and nice and that she actually knows them lol

[Twalli]

You sound like someone I know. It's nearly impossible to help her. Her mom won't let her date anyone but the person she's going to marry. She doesn't know how to find that guy without dating.

[Monalisa77]

I can't go out to persue men, i think id probably find one if i did as i do get guys flirting with me but she's just so over protective. I have to lie or not tell where im going if i:get the chance or they will say bla bla.. Well this was before my dizziness i actually dont think i could do it now, but actually this guy currently i am hoping to see him next Friday if he did ask me out i could probably see him on the Saturday night and theyre out (i was actually going to test the waters to see how he reacted that id tell him, oh I've a free house tomorrow night lol😂😂) i dont even have the confidence to tell her whats been happening as she could end up embarrassing me infront of him and scaring him off (i can imagine her acting like the mil from hell even tho weve not even gone out yet😂😂)

[LiamJHayden]

Nope. I am not going to be fake just to make her like me more.

[Monalisa77]

I ont think wanting to improve on yourself is being fake

[Jennz6]

I just be myself, I don’t go out of my way to impress anyone

[Anonymous]

if you're interested in someone it's always nice to see they want to impress you.

[whistlingwh0res]

think of dog.. what they chase after.. then there is the answer

[serious]

No, you should be yourself.

[NathanDavis]

I just let things happen naturally...

[RavVid]

Save something for the first date :)

[Tharithi]

What do u like about each other

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, just be your usual self.

[Anonymous]

Just be yourself

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Why? What u mean?

[Monalisa77]

If there's things u worry about urself they might b put off by

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

No i be myself

[Joker_]

yes.