How would it affect you if a member of the opposite sex were nicer to you than they are with others?

[Bethany22]

Not that they are mean or anything, just neutral. Would it endear them to you that they are nicer to you than others, or would you be worried that eventually, once their attraction towards you dies down, they'll become just as lazy as they are around everyone else?

[DaveJord]

If they are nicer to me than other, it would endure me to them obviously. Now it all depends on if it would worry me or not depending on why I thought they were doing it.

So, in work environment I am more skeptical because you have to wonder what their motivations are.

In a relationship then better damn well be nicer to me than everyone's... and I have no skepticism about that it.

Now as far as you say about being lazy... I mean let's not be naive about it. People obviously will work hard and try hard to build a relationship with you in the beginning. Over time the focus of the relationship will become more about maintaining than building. So, call it lazy or call it complacent... but it's part of the nature order of things to become more complacent with something over time. And that generates it level of comfort and openness with another person, when they do not feel that they are under the gun and can be more themselves with you. But if you see that as lazy... then I think that's unfair... because they had to put a lot of work into the that relationship and now you want to say they are lazy? Well, that's a very dismissive prospective.

I was married for 24 years... first 5 years of the marriage were amazing. But over time life added more and more stress and burden to our live together. I went from getting sex daily, to weekly to monthly to maybe 5 to 6 times a year. Was she lazy?

On some level I guess you can say that, but how many dinners did she make for me? She gave me two children, and she was always there for them. She eventually got a job, and between that with two kids and husband... there is nothing lazy about that.

Yes, in the beginning I was the sole focus, and she was mine. But as my career took off and she started to things for herself and trying to grow not only within in the marriage but outside if it... I mean that's a lot of work.

Now over time she became less and less nice about it... and honestly that's when it started to fail. Because the more she did for herself, the less appreciative she became of me.

[Joshydavid25]

I would probably find it endearing and not think too much about it on the surface.. Although in the back of my mind I would wonder when she is going on to the next.. Or probably think she found me attractive..

[Joshydavid25]

Thanks for MHO!

[Anonymous]

One of my younger ex gfs was very bitchy to everybody but treated me like a king. As good as her affection felt (especially coming from a hot girl in her early 20s) deep down I was nervous. Sure enough after a minor argument she ghosted me and never looked back.

I was very hurt from that of course (dated 9 months) but also semi mentally prepared for it. Doesn’t make her bullshit okay but I knew that was a risk.

Anyway if you want to have a short term fling with someone like this (and make it clear it’s nothing serious) maybe it’s okay. But how they treat other people will be more then likely be how they will one day treat you after the attraction wears off.

Huge red flag.

[Altheavas]

I think of it as neutral, people connect with other people differently. We vibe differently with energies and attitudes. Attraction I think can come in all aspect and it’s not always romantic. It might just be a good vibration, and it’s like ooh I want to know this person, or I can lower my guard down a bit, and I don’t have to feel uptight around that person. Vibration is also subjective it might change at anytime, that will depends if you care enough to try to understand the other individual.


However you call it; 6 sense / smell fakeness,
Feeling one’s vibration can’t be fake’n. Also,
Vibration is different from intuition.

[RavVid]

It would please me. Truth is though you may only realize she likes you when she stops liking you.

[Bethany22]

That's interesting 🤔 I will try not to let that happen to me!

[RavVid]

It is quite true. I thought the girl was nice and liked me as a person. Then she snobbed me and I realized that she didn't like me but LIKED me. There is no way back from missing the boat.

[Monalisa77]

Its recently happened to me, i only started liking him when it was too late now he's ignored me:(

[RavVid]

@Monalisa77 Subtlety is a buggar.

[MissStrawberry912]

Depends… if I’m into him, I’d wanna feel special and would feel like I stand out to him. Like a warm fuzzy loving feeling that I could like him more if he continue to treat me well than the rest. If I’m not attracted, but he’s friendly… I appreciate it and be friendly in return. But keep abit of my space lol.

[aceleon]

i would asume they like me in that sense and if i find them attractive i would sleep with them.

[NathanDavis]

it doesn't affect me like that, no...

different people just connect a bit differently, that's all...

[FunkyMonkee]

Most likely, it'd increase my affection for her.

[lightbulb27]

I'd assume she liked me. I wouldn't project more into it.

If you are projecting into it, that is coming from you... from your emotions. So you have to examine yourself.

[TightLipps]

A human being will never do anything unless there is some form of payoff. Whether it's internal or external, that person is after something.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

thats so pessimistic! Trust me, I've flirted with plenty of girls at bars, roadshows, and tomorrowland, while expecting nothing in return. You're too young to be that jaded

[Lisia]

I actually quite enjoy that 😊 but I would be worried if they would stop being as nice as before

[Monalisa77]

The current guy i like didn't really spesk to me, he fljrted etc which was strange xos he's so talkative with everyone else!

[grega239]

At best, It wouldn't affect me.

At worst, i'd be questioning why they are being nice to me.

Im paranoid so being nice to me makes me wonder about peoples intentions.

In dont believe theyre nice for no reason

[JacobJordan]

to be honest I don't really pay much attention to how people treat me unless they are disrespectful. then I pay attention and I respond.

[serious]

Well, I would enjoy it as long as they continue doing that and I will appreciate that.

[rigmarole]

It generally would cause a competition between other girls.

[Billlewis]

I actually prefer that she's nicer to other guys than she is to me.

[Kingofkings1992]

@Billlewis stop cucking

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it would make me, look into her more.

[AlexEfron]

Yep, attraction does out. I'd wait it out

[exitseven]

I think I would like her better.

[DJB72]

I probably wouldn't notice

[Anonymous]

You over think things, woman.

[Danny_dan92]

I’d immediately think she wants to grip my pipe

[Sasha0426]

I would be very suspicious

[Nifrayu]

I probably wouldn't notice.

[nawtee_me]

Nice is nice…. lol

[HouseMoat]

I would wonder why

[Caramelpie]

Nothing. I would thank him & move on.

[LemiaOfThunder]

Make me interested

[ThrillSeeker01]

I'd appreciate it.