If most if not all of the people that you know from the opposite gender, saw you as a nice person/friend, and nothing more, would that bother you?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, kinda

Yeah, I would want to figure out why they don't see me as more than that

No, I would be very pleased with that

No, being highly thought of, but not in a romantic way is what I want to be thought of

A total of 67 votes were cast: 31 girls and 36 guys. See detailed results

[Anonymous]

Voted "No, I would be pleased."

After all, there are far worse things than being thought of as a nice person. Particularly in this era when, and here I admit that I may sound like a grumpy old man, good manners and a cordial sense of friendship seem to be increasingly the exception, not the rule.

Besides, and I grant this goes outside the parameters of the question, being thought of as a nice guy can sometimes evolve into something more. What begins as a friendship can, in time, come to be more valued and if you are there for someone, in time they will likely come to value that and see it as something more.

Not always, to be sure. Indeed, perhaps not even often, but sometimes. In any case, the flaw in the question is the hidden presumption that friendships and relationships are static. Once a friend, always and nevermore than a friend.

Human beings are not that way. However, if all else fails, to be surrounded by people who think well of you is not the worst fate. Friendship - genuine friendship - is to be valued in its own right.

[TipsyFr]

The thing is you only need one girl to like you, that’s the one you’re really interested in. Ideally the rest want to be friends in which case you have lots of friends. 👍

[Cynicaldreamer]

No, that means you're a nice, friendly person- hence why I have friends.

It DOES bother me when a guy I'm attracted to sees me as just a friend, but not a girlfriend. Which yes, is usually what happens the majority of the time.

[jennifer_bloom]

Some people say I'm single cause nobody wants to date me but the reason I'm single is that I put more effort into eating a cheese burger than I did into finding a boyfriend or husband. I'm not desperate cause I have God in my life.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t believe in male-female friendship apart from very rare exceptions, and if I make effort to stay in touch with someone, I most likely don’t see him as just a friend.

[catarecute]

some people think they are too good for their own ass so they reject everyone. its not personal to you. They will soon realise their delusion and find out they are not that special but in the mean time find someone who appreciates you. this person exists.

[Sweetsurprize]

It would depend, but yeah, I may be curious. Especially if what I am looking for in life is to settle down and have a family. I would want to know if there was anything that may be a barrier for people not wanting to see me in that romantic, husband and father role. So it would depend on who it is who is looking at me only as a friend in my opinion.

[Pacquet]

That's really interesting. Is there people in your life that you wanted more than a friendship with and if so did you try to progress pass friendship with any of them?

[Rei13]

I would rather the majority of people think of me highly but not romantically. You can just enjoy each other’s company without worrying about it being anything more

[provokeesmokee]

Lmao, damn, so you spoke to a handful of girls and now know the opinion of 4 Billion people?

Damn man, you overthought way too much.

[rosemilk]

no it'd actually be relieving because then no one would hit on me. plus because i already am in a relationship so what do i care

[Miah05]

That's mostly how it is irl.

Usually the little sis of the group

[Pacquet]

Does this include acquaintances? I don't think it would bother me, feels like a waste of brain power to even wonder about it honestly.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why should it? It's been that way all my life!!

[Lady_Heart]

I haven't thought of it lol but i don't thk i would be.

[Staximus]

Pretty much all the women I know think I'm a good person but not all of them think I'm a nice person haha

[aquamarine321]

Yeah, it would because nice means different for different people

[clampfan101]

As of right now, no. But I need to find one to be my girlfriend/wife eventually so ya, kinda.

[msc545]

Nobody wants to spend their life and somebody else's friend zone

[Danael31]

We all want peace, why would anyone be bothered lol.

[Nikki1989]

I have many friends like that.

[boggboss]

Why would that be a issue

[CoolCatMar1]

No i would love that

[LiamJHayden]

Most, no, all, yes.