What are the best strategies for approaching women at the beach?

[Anonymous]

I have read it's actually a good place to do it, and most guys won't attempt to do that there. Approach one there alone? Approach one with friends? Other suggestions?

[Oliverlogan263]

My advice would be don't approach girls at the beach aggressive like you're "trying to pick them up". That kinda stuff usually comes across too strong and will likely make them uncomfortable.

Some better strategies that could work and won't creep them out as much:

- If you notice a girl reading the same book as you or listening to the same music, you could start a friendly convo about that. Comment on the book/song in a casual, normal way.

- Compliment something specific other than looks, like her cool starfish sandcastle or funny towel decoration. Keep it light, quick, then keep walking.

- Play frisbee, ball, etc and politely ask if they want to join. Makes it social not pick-upy.

- Bring a speaker and play music others can enjoy too. Could meet people just chatting and dancing near you.

- If there's a group of girls, don't hog one. Befriend the whole crew so they feel comfortable.

- Have your boys with you at first so they seem less intimidating and know you're not a weirdo.

Most important is read the vibes - if she's with friends/family or has headphones on, best to just smile and let her enjoy her time. The beach should be relaxing for all.

[CrabCakes11]

1. Almost no woman reading or listening to music at the beach wants to be disturbed by some guy
2. Nobody wants to be forced to listen to your music, and nobody will start dancing or chatting
3. The only thing worse than being approached by one weird guy is a group of them

[NathanDavis]

with the utmost, genuine...

absolute confidence...

[CrabCakes11]

Don’t talk to women who are listening to music, sleeping, or reading. If the woman is giving you short answers, avoiding eye contact, or telling you to leave, leave. Don’t expect this to work very well.

[jennifer_bloom]

A good place to meet people is a tea ceremony or meditation class. The beach is not a good place to meet people.

[Darkchild25]

Have guys done this with you?

[AviatorTom]

Walking usually works... and then say "Hi"

[Part2603]

I would say that pick up theory or red pilled theory would apply pretty much the same at a beach as any other venue. I mean, a beach is a pretty fun social place, I think in comparison to other hypothetical venues the beach is probably more appropriate than others. If the swimsuits is an issue if it makes you apprehensive, I'd say I've been there, but I think that it's just that I was never much of a beach person. I think the girls that are hanging out at the beach are gonna be okay with it, and any anxiety on trying to rizz a girl who's wearing such a skimpy outfit is just gonna be in your mind. Which could come across, if you've never been intimate enough with girls to see them in a swimsuit and you're just staring at their boobs, and you can't be articulate, then maybe get more comfortable with girls first beforehand.

But once you get past that, and if you're in decent enough shape then I think it's totally socially acceptable to pick up girls at the beach just as much as any other public social space. The same principles would apply. Eye contact, smiles, funny catchy pick up line, flip the script and get them to validate themselves to you...

Others have said to not be direct in mentioning their beauty but I think it would okay to sort of use that. "Oh my, you're beautiful." can be an effective pick up line.

I dunno, it's all about finding girls that want to be approached. I think for that reason you're probably better off walking (or skating) through the boardwalk, and approaching women that are walking around with their female friends. Like a pair of them.

But you can do whatever you want if inspiration strikes you. You can take a chance on approaching a girl if she has headphones on or whatever, it's all about being able to project the right energy.

[CourtneyJane2]

Just go out there and enjoy yourself without the intention of "picking up chicks". Be aware of your surroundings and pay attention to the body language of the girls you encounter. If she looks at you more than once while smiling (including with her eyes), orients her body towards you, etc. (Look up "attraction body language" on YouTube) then you could try to strike up a conversation with her and try to get her number.

Do that and you'll have better chances than you would if you just cold approach random girls you think are hot.

[Kiss_Me]

Meeting girls in general is easy. The beach is not exception. Just continue doing your thing on the beach. You will pass girls as you do so. Say hello and find a way to continue the conversation.

It becomes MUCH easier and fun if you have a wing man. As you pass a girl one of you can say something that gets her attention. Something like, "Oh God, not HER again!" She will give that confused, WTF look. Then both of you can laugh and say, "We were just messing with you. Hi, I'm Bill. This is Ted."

hope this helps.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Not for me but for my girl friend who was single at the time, a pair of guys asked us if they can get in on our volleyball game.

Offering a girl some help to learn surfing is another.

I guess you need to have some of those abilities first before you attempt to engage on those activities with someone else.

Meanwhile, dogs were "tools" guys relied on to attract women.

[Jaw2005]

First off understand you’re for sure not getting a date out of this and you shouldn’t be going for that I enjoy talking to beach women but I’d for sure never date since most importantly I’m already taken and at the end of the day I’m just a random stranger I think the most important part is don’t be creep don’t catcall or touch in places where she doesn’t approve some might be fine with a hand shake or if you ask first possibly a tummy rub but that’s really it this really should be common sense not to touch anyone without their permission second look at least someone presentable and smell good I feel like this is very important cause why would she want to be talking to someone who can’t even take care of themselves this goes for anywhere also look confident if you’re too shy it just makes things awkward for everyone she more then likely doesn’t care about your size or weight unless it’s really noticeable I guess this is just my opinion though

[Jaw2005]

I should also add too that groups are very important you’re more likely to get more out of her if she’s with a group of friends plus it exposes you to even more beautiful women then just alone I’m not one myself obviously but I guess this is probably cause she feels more secure and has people who will back her up compared to her just being alone look for the ones playing volley ball with a group of people and ask to join that’s at least in my opinion the best way to get to chat and hang out with them for a good while

[Anonymous]

i don't want to be approached by people i don't know especially when i'm out with my friends at the beach or somewhere, and i don't know many girls who do like this. if a girl wants to be picked up, she'll let you know

[BetaBucks]

I'm not the best person to ask, but if you wait for eye contact, smile and go introduce yourself, then you're better off than sneaking up behind them while they're sunbathing and coming with a "hey!" The first goal should be to not be creepy.

[jeremy554]

Ask them to suck you off and call them a whore when they say fuck you.

[CrabCakes11]

That always works!

[Rangers]

Forget all of that and start studying by language, learn body language, and you'll know what people are thinking long before they open their mouth

[handsomelad70]

Be yourself and be solicitous of your intended lady.

[Sharkstealth]

Say hi. Just do that everywhere. It softens the atmosphere in further interactions.

[NotIrysXO]

Don’t mention her outfit by any means unless you’re complimenting her in a non creepy way.

[Anonymous]

Be ready to be drowned if an anti-rape patrol arrives

[robocop666]

If she is happy to see you she does not care where it is

[Anonymous]

Why do you even wanna approach girls at the beach in the first place? Just leave them alone and you’ll be fine. Mind your own business and theirs. Just enjoy the beach.

[SotiCoto]

Why would you even do that?

[MicahRaine]

Buy a volley ball net. Everyone wins.

[Nifrayu]

I just wait to be approached.

[Anonymous]

Invite her on your yacht.

[Willoughby23]

Have good genes

[LiamJHayden]

Surf.