A girl randomly texts you in the middle of the day asking if you're looking for a girlfriend. Is it obvious she's asking for herself, or just curious?

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Say she's a friend that you occasionally hang out with to share specific, non-intimate hobbies with, but other than that, neither of you tend to text each other much (despite knowing each other for a few years). Then she randomly texts you that question the day after you ask her if she wants to join you when doing your shared hobby.

Kelley1 · Accepted Answer

Typically, women don't approach guys unless they are interested. Furthermore, it is a woman's responsibility to make the first move. That doesn't imply she should ask a guy for a date. It only means she should smile and say "Hi" or something to indicate she is approachable and/or may be receptive to being asked for a date. In this case she is making the first move. Assuming he is receptive, that gives the guy the opportunity to reply, "Yes, I'm looking for a girlfriend; are you available?" In the unlikely event, she is just curious, that reply is less risky of directly being turned down. If she replies in the affirmative, he can safely ask for a date.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

It’s not obvious to me. She could be asking for a friend or just be curious in a friendly way. If I were a guy and I were interested in her, I would say “No, I don’t” and then see what she said. If she didn’t say anything else, I might say “Why do you ask?”

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

I'd assume she is just asking out of curiosity rather than asking me out unless there are other reasons to think that she wants something with me. I've never actually had a woman ask me out so indirectly, so I would generally assume that isn't her intent.

MicahRaine · Accepted Answer

Yeah it's pretty clear

AviatorTom · Answer

I must admit that's never happened to me. But if it ever did, I would respond by asking her out, ignoring her specific question, at least until after the date.

DishLady · Answer

It's pretty obvious... and desperate...

DontAskMePeople · Answer

Yea that would be obvious, and also open the door to further discussion.. confirm it's for you would definitely be my answer But let's get real... This happens to a guy never so

Alli112 · Answer

I mean I don't know if you guys have a mutual friend, but if she's being that direct then it could be for herself, but it could also be because she knows someone else who might be interested. I don't think I would ask in that particular way if I were personally intersted in someone, but I might if a friend was really intersted and I wanted to set them up. (But other people might really just be that direct for themselves, kind of depends on the person.)

MisterWack · Answer

Obvious she is asking for herself, I get this a lot on social media platforms. These women will f*ck anyone and they lay themselves out like vultures circling the skies waiting for you to drop, very pathetic.

P. S. I have a girlfriend, once I mention that they leave…

DJB72 · Answer

Obviaas... My first serious girlfriend did that - although we didn't have cellphones back then...

BTigers96 · Answer

She might be asking for herself, or a friend she wants to set you up with. :)

provokeesmokee · Answer

If she's asking you out, it's obviously for her. But if this really is a rando girl texting me outta nowhere, then this looks like a scam.

Surely · Answer

I would figure that it was a scammer. That just happened to spoof someone that I knew number.
I have been getting text messages from women who accidentally hit my number! Then they want to correspond.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Nothing is obvious where females are concerned anything can mean something different to what's being said and reality has no definite meaning if they don't want it to be it can change, so I don't assume anything for sure

NathanDavis · Answer

" no, Amazon, no... quit it"

andy530 · Answer

Seems obvious to me but I guess it depends on my current relationship with with girl who sends the text

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Not obvious but probable. She could be asking you because she is trying to set you up with someone else.

SotiCoto · Answer

"Hot Singles in Your Area!" ... No. Just no. That is what spam filters are for.

Stef12 · Answer

It's obviously a joke. A random person. Lol.

TallAnon · Answer

Very obvious and we'll probably bang later that evening

Csss55 · Answer

I think it's good to be able to do that

skidawgkc22 · Answer

I'd proceed with caution.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would think so?

clampfan101 · Answer

Seems like a safe assumption.

Jennz6 · Answer

I think it’s obvious

Goahead76 · Answer

Desperation is what it smells like to me.

shortster · Answer

It seems likely that she is asking for money

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It's obvious she asking for herself

grega239 · Answer

Id assume its a lead up to a joke

Wow68987 · Answer

I need to fuck god dammit

impalabill77 · Answer

Herself

eagle1951 · Answer

herself

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