Who mistakes friendly as flirty more: girls or guys?

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Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I don't know probably guys? Cause their ‘friendly’ looks different and they have sexual prospects in mind too.

I was going to say girls because they’d see guys being hardcore and then if they’re dialed down and socialize with the lady, the lady may find THAT to be a flirt because for him it’s ABNORMAL behavior.

BUT truth is he probably could be flirting than just being friendly. Guys are friendly with other guys and their friends. It’s rare they are just friendly exclusively and platonically with females. It’s either respectful/cordial/formal, or flirty. There’s still chance for friendliness but it’s probably rare.

I’d say overall guys misread female friendliness because they’re not used to that level of sensitivity and such. The friendliness with the bros consists of more extreme stuff, so for a lady friend to give a soft hug could be seen as a flirt maneuver. It’ll be confusing for him cause in his mind none of his guys friends give him hugs.

This is extreme level stuff though. Some guy friends do hug and some youngsters do grow up co ed and families get along so it’s easier to be friendly with each other and not misread it. Lots of exposure and respect. Etc.

I think overall it depends on person and the interaction. 🤷‍♀️ maybe even how well they like the person. In a friendship if one is crushing they’ll probably most likely misread friendship because of hopes for something more. It’s certainly possible.

It really just depends.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Guys, no contest. Sometimes men can misread a simple hello.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Girls hands down. They tend to think guys are into them for the smallest things, like just because you made eye contact with them a handful of times or spoke to them in passing, or thinking some statement you made means you're attracted. This is because girls are taught that they are men's desire and that all men are constantly after them, even when we aren't, so they assume things to be something that they aren't. This creates a lot of unnecessary friction and awkwardness too, especially if she chooses to make something into a big deal where it shouldn't be.

No doubt that guys can sometimes think a girl is flirting, but I don't think we think that very often. Because we are taught that women are not desperate or that they are "less obvious," so most guys don't expect girls to be flirting that much.

bowenw · Accepted Answer

It's impossible to know for sure, but from my observations it seems like guys do.

ShellyB · Answer

I think guys do, however I am a girl so guys are mostly the people who MIGHT misinterpret in my case so maybe I just see more of it for that reason. But I feel like probably it’s guys.

mandyfire98 · Answer

From my experience it's absolutely men. I can't tell you how many times just because my personality is outgoing and extroverted that men thought I was flirting or coming onto them.

Anonymous · Answer

All I have is opinions based on anecdotal evidence.

"She's being nice. Why is she being nice? What's her angle? (And they always seem to have one). What does she want?" Because, with a few exceptions... the only time women are kind to me is when they think I'll do something for them, or I might be "useful" at some point. I don't quite trust it because it's unusual... and... when they find out I won't just stupidly do what they want (because they batted those eyelashes a few times, or got really close) then conveniently that "kindness" seems to disappear. If they're kind because it's for manipulation, I'd argue it's not really being kind. It's being kind for a reputation, or because it's kind of expected (up to a point)...

I figure kindness is often fake (usually the case, but not always)... but I will patiently wait to find out if it's genuine. Last option is they are just one of those kind, genuine people. I would assume THAT before I'd assume flirting, though.

When I DO see flirting (very unusual), again, it's usually FOR something. or to try to mess with me. If I ever flirted back in response (because I'd stupidly think that it was real, or that it was ok because "that's what we're doing right now" and they're showing that it's ok), then all of a sudden, they're angry.

I have had several girls who flipped out when I was just being kind. Usually, they'd be able to see me just being kind to others in the same way. Then, they'd suddenly flip out at random and say "I'm not interested, you ugly freak" kind of thing... and I'd get confused because it came out of nowhere and made no sense (because I had never shown any sign of that kind of interest AND it was always so random)... and they just suddenly got angry or insulted me after a kindness... ("You always hold the door open for me!" "yes, and that little old lady, and that dad and his kids...") and either they'd flip out out of embarrassment that they thought I was interested (when I never showed romantic interest) or they flipped out because they still didn't believe me (I don't know which). But it'd go from sometimes what I had thought was a pretty genuine friendship by then, to them either being openly hostile, or suddenly making it weird and acting like I didn't exist... silent treatment, roll of the eyes, a sneer, blatantly ignoring me if I said "hello," or tried a conversation... the usual. I quickly leave them alone.

Anonymous · Answer

Men, and here's why. Women are not straightforward like men, at all. If they flirt, it's generally very subtle. So we men are left to guess whether a woman is flirting or just being friendly, because with most women it's impossible to tell the difference. Sorry ladies, but we still can't read your minds.

Half of women complain they can't be friendly with guys without them thinking it's flirting, and the other half complain men don't pick up on it when they flirt. And the reality is, they are often the same women.

This is a problem women have created for all of us.

Anonymous · Answer

I know women will disagree, but I'm going to say women are more guilty of this...

Men might take compliments as flirting, but to be fair, women usually don't compliment men unless they are indeed flirting.

Just the other day I said "hi" to a woman in passing. We ended up making awkward eye contact so it felt like the right thing to do and she immediately told me (kind of aggressively) that she has a boyfriend. I have found myself in similar situations with women more than a few times, but this was the most recent.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I've seen a lot of chicks categorize some dude that obviously just wants to fuck her brains out as a friend.

At the same time I've seen tons of dudes not take blatant signs of sexual advancement as non-sexual advances... or out of sheer fear they will not accept the invitation.

Anecdotal observation is telling me something, but the way the question is worded forces me to decline to answer.

Plus I just found out techno Viking went gay. I suspected it to be honest. But it's like when you find out one of your best friends went gay... it sort of hurts my pride. I will not be listening to techno for a few days... it just sounds gay to me right now. This must be what depression feels like. That guy is probably pretty scary if he's a top, so I hope he's just a bottom and a non-threat.

incorrected · Answer

Women are more likely to flirt when they have no sexual interest. Both genders do it, but it's almost never just being friendly and I'd say that for men it's never, except maybe very rarely. I would advise women never to do this unless they mean it, it's confusing and more often hurtful than healthy.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Every time im nice to a girl she assumes im flirting with her

It wasn’t always the case, definitely became more of a thing when I gained in attraction points

And I know guys do it too

I think it comes down to this: if you secretly wish someone flirted with you you will make that conclusion in the face of a harmless comment

BetaBucks · Answer

Girls interpret it more, guys act on it more. That is, girls are hyper sensitive of thinking guys are into them (mostly in a defensive way) and guys occasionally think girls are into them, but almost always act on it.

Darwin_n_chill · Answer

Definitely men, it is called sexual overperception bias and has been demonstrated in experiments. The logic behind why this is the case is simple and almost undeniable: If some men had this tendency and other men didn't, which ones would have bred more? Obviously, the ones with this tendency, and so the genes which produced this tendency were passed on more often, and so most men have this tendency. Simple evolution.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Women are usually more into networking and bonding. But they are also less likely to approach men they are interested than vice versa.

So this can go either way. Men are being told not to quickly assume woman who approaches them as her wanting more. Yet when a woman does approach a man (which is less common) it can also be a sign she’s very interested.

Anonymous · Answer

It isn't about mistaking. Guys are much more likely to seize the smallest opening unless they are not interested, not in a position to pursue or just really lacking in confidence.

Women think because they have an u sightly mole behind their left ear that no guy could possibly want them so they downplay obvious flirting.

Women don't know how to respond to a guy showing interest in a respectful way since crude behaviour is so prevalent.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Depends on the person , sometimes it's hard to tell between the two. :(

Dan_Juliet02 · Answer

I feel it’s we ladies tho I feel it’s both party

robertc13 · Answer

I know that I have often misread signals. Unfortunately, that has made me extremely cautious around women because I always assume they're just being friendly when there may be occasions that they actually are flirting. Suppose I got tired of feeling stupid even though I may be missing out on occasion.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Girls. Just because you like them and just wanna be their friend, they think you just wanna fuck them.

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

Guys big time, most girls are just being nice, guys will flirt as soon as she's being nice

alice55 · Answer

i would say guys in general but women also mistakes it too

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Girls tend to but ultimately it's the guy interpretation that usually starts something... It's complicated.

lin123_ · Answer

Guys in my opinion. I always hear or read the phrase "she was leading me on...".

Pohjolan · Answer

Guys. Thing is that men are way less subtle about their flirting and at the same time cockteasers are intentionally trying to make guys get the wrong idea.

LiamJHayden · Answer

In general, guys. There are guys who think a quick smile is an invitation.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Guys in my opinion. What do you think?

paledreams · Answer

Women for sure - silly women ♀️😄😄😄

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

OMG, Guy for sure they seem clueless, I'm at work smh, get a clue

Shy_Steve · Answer

Definitely us Guys because we are usually not looking for friendship.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I think guys majority of the times

JoeRob67 · Answer

Guys of course.

BCA6010 · Answer

I would say guys.

Flower7 · Answer

Guys make this mistake more.

NathanDavis · Answer

men... lol

Starrrboy · Answer

We all know the answer lol

elizamichale1 · Answer

Men ofcourse

ThebestIndian · Answer

As far as I see, it is guys.

elaphe1 · Answer

I would have to say guys.

CountryWanderer · Answer

Guys

eagle1951 · Answer

girls

Notherndude84 · Answer

Men do for sure.

Wise4myage · Answer

Probably guys.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Guys 🙂

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Guys.

Stu234432 · Answer

Guys all the time

plundo · Answer

guys, definitely

In_Trance · Answer

Equal

Dongie · Answer

Girls, by far.

Amur8711 · Answer

Guys

CubaPirate · Answer

Guys id guess

Sadia26 · Answer

Guys for sure

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