Friendzone or Interested?

[HotboyTunechi]

I’m trying to figure out of my coworker likes me., She’s not very flirtatious like how I am. Last week she invited to Waffle House after work ( just me and her). She told me we can’t date but we can hangout, because she don’t wanna cause any conflict issues.. Recently she told me she wants to come over to my crib and decorate my Christmas tree.. Is she showing interest in me at me or I’m just in a friend zone?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tough one to figure out, girl. Sounds like she's sending some mixed signals there. On one hand, she straight up told you she doesn't want to date - that's pretty clear friend-zone territory. But then the invitations to hang out one-on-one and decorate your place together seem a little more flirtatious.

My guess is she probably does have some interest in you, but maybe she's trying to keep things casual and avoid anything too romantic because she's worried about drama at work. Or she could just really value your friendship and doesn't want to mess that up by dating.

The best thing to do is probably just to take her at her word for now - she said she doesn't want to date, so don't push it and try to turn it into something more. Just enjoy spending time with her and let things unfold naturally. If she starts sending clearer signals down the line that she's into you, then you can revisit it. But for now, it sounds like you're firmly in the friend-zone, girl.

The good news is, it seems like she genuinely enjoys your company and values your relationship, even if it's not romantic. That's still pretty special. Try not to overthink it too much and just focus on having fun together, whether as friends or potentially more someday. Just be patient and let things develop at their own pace. You've got this!

[uncleBobbyb77]

She said "can't date" to avoid "conflict"? My take on that would be she has learned not to date coworkers because some men are the jealous, untrusting type and if any part of her pay comes from sales or tips then probably some use of her woman's wiles during interaction with customers is a natural tactic used to make her money which would of course cause conflict in the relationship and maybe they breakup which in turn causes conflict with the job itself and one or the other eventually quits or gets fired. If she said "I'm not ready to date anyone" or something along those lines you've been friendzoned but that's not what she said so you might still have a shot. In the beginning few things get a woman's attention better than telling them "no" and making their getting what they want slightly challenging for them. And ask yourself this.."are you the type of dude you would be interested in if you were her?" Be the kind of friend you would like to have first. People jump into relationships too often and that rarely works out for the best. Making sure your even compatible as people in general and as friends first is something I promised myself I would do before I decide to date whomever she will be if I ever do decide to date again