Just friends or interested?

Question

I saw this guy like last year in an event and we barely talked, then saw him again after 4-5 months, added him on Instagram, cause I thought he’s cute! After a couple of months, he slid into my dms, to the point that he would message me for whatever I even post on my notes. Then we were talking a lot, but it stopped. Just casually asking how he was, he said he’s sorta seeing this girl. We were still talking more or less, but then I saw him at the gym, and we worked out together once. After some time, he told me the girl stopped seeing him. And again, we were talking again. We started reading a book together, it’s 700 pages, and we went out two time to talk about the book and whatnot. And now we’re talking literally every day. He told me he has crush at someone in his department, but when I was like ask her out, he said no and it’s not serious. Then I told him about a guy that asked me out, and that day we chatted the whole day. The fuck is going on? Is he interested or not? I don’t understand the vibes.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

It's kinda hard to say for sure. It does sound like you guys are talking a lot and hanging out pretty regularly, so there's definitely some interest there. But dudes can be kinda complicated sometimes. A couple things could be going on:

1. He might be feeling you out and seeing if there's a real connection before fully committing. Guys can be nervous about rejection too so we move slow.

2. Or he could still be a little hung up on that other girl he was seeing and isn't totally over her yet even if they're not dating.

3. It's also possible he likes the attention you give him but isn't ready to fully label things or make it official.

I'd say keep talking to him and see if he starts making more of an effort to hang out one on one and get more physical/flirty. Pay attention to how much he initiates contact vs you always having to message first. If it seems like it's not progressing after some more time, you might need to have a chat and get clarity on where you two stand. But for now I'd say there's a good chance he's into you even if he's being a little hot and cold about it. Just don't wait around forever if he's not willing to commit eventually. Hope this helps - let me know if you need any other guy advice!

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

It can mean anything and everything :)

So you can ask him, more or less openly, what he thinks about the relationship you share, about you, etc.

Or you can shut down your expectations and just enjoy the unknown.

Hardshell1234 · Accepted Answer

Build the friendship. Let it grow some tension. Sounds like he is def interested in you. If you are both single and willing, let it flow. Have fun with it.