I don't get this guy? just a friend? potential interest and bad texting?

[ZS007]

So basically I talked to this guy twice in group setting. He was handsome to the point I thought he was out of my league at least appearancewise. Somehow I ended up getting his IG. He replied to my story one day and I did too on another day. He also started liking my selfies on my stories. There is no flirting going on. But for some reason weve be been having meaningless chats or attempts of chats for almost a month. He would send a reel I would send one back I would comment on it etc. but we are not friends I at least don't see us as that. I've only seen the guy twice. I know nothing about him. I put effort in my texting try keep the Convo going but I don't know what is in his mind. We might have a little chat then that ends and he asks τι νεα what's new. he asks what's new every single f time. and when I answer what im up to he would say nicee or have fun instead of asking a follow up question like I would do to keep the convo going. He never asks anything specific. He would also leave me on read after a convo ended instead of liking a message. He would read a message and answer wayyyyy later. I'm I friends with him? Is he a really bad dry texter? Is he kinda interested? I have no f idea. Personally I wouldn't like a guys selfie on IG if I didn't like him I only like my fem friends selfies, scenery pics, quotes or groups pics but never selfies of guys or strangers. And I mean why would he reply to my stories in the first place. I don't really think guys and girls can be close friends if they are not in a group of friends. Basically I don't really get why he would even send me a reel or reply to my story if he is not gonna open a conversation.

[Anonymous]

Well, you could be upfront and ask him out or tell him you find him attractive to get the ball rolling. However, his actions towards you are very telling. I’m not going to speak for him and say whether he is or isn’t into you, but in my eyes someone who’s interested would put in some more effort. I mean you’re doing it, so you know it’s true. The fact that he doesn’t really engage to me shows he’s either uninterested in you or just generally isn’t looking to invest with any woman, and that could be for numerous reasons, like he’s got a woman (or women) in his life rn, he’s focusing on other areas of his life and would rather not prioritize a woman at the time, or who knows. The outcomes are endless. Regardless though, you should figure out directly if he’s also interested or what his intentions are so you can know whether or not to keep trying. If you don’t wanna do that then I would just back off a bit and put the ball in his court. If he makes effort outside of sending reels then engage, otherwise I’d say leave it.

[ZS007]

Well said. I don't initiate really cause I wanna see what he is gonna do. It's like playing chess but sometimes he plays twice I a row. But I also can't just leave it because there is absolutely nothing between us. It's just weird. I'm definitely not telling him he is handsome if he doesn't make a move.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don’t want to make a move that’s totally fine, I know it’s not for everyone. But if that’s the case then I would step back and give him the opportunity to do something substantial like telling you he’s interested, asking you out for a drink, something of that nature. Otherwise I wouldn’t engage anymore, because what’s the point? As you said, there’s nothing between you so there isn’t anything to save or salvage. You also can’t keep being the one to put effort into a conversation or initiate it in the first place (not saying he doesn’t ever begin conversations, but probably not at the capacity that you do).

[ZS007]

I guess time will show. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Yep! And if he doesn’t put in effort then please dismiss him lol, you can do a lot better than a guy acting like that.

[ZS007]

thank you and Merry Christmas 😁

[PeterLegg91]

Just ask him do you like me? Want go on a date? Lol 😂

[ZS007]

I don't wanna scare him away 😂

[PeterLegg91]

Just ask lol least you'll know 😂