Me (30) girl long distance tiktok dancer (25) meet in late September 2023 on tiktok live. She seemed interested in me initially. We messaged each other around late October she confessed she liked me. Reason: I wasn't like other guys.
Mid November, Despite some occasional affection. Our chat be one sided. Told me she dreampt about one of her supporters and had picture of him. And we had nothing in common to talk about. So I had to speak up. she sometimes speak without thinking. Sorry.
Late November early early December. I get lack of sleep trying to meet her schedule. She get way to excited to see her other supporters (mike) and ( jack). She tells me a lot about them and reassure me they are friends. Sometimes what I say get over looked live chat, So I just feel left out and bored. She sings a lot of love songs live for karaoke for everybody to hear but told me in private chat it was dedicated to me. On her day off she sleeps for 14 hours. Then hang out with her friends. So no time for us to talk. At all. So I only told her about us doing something more when she's off.
Mid December to Christmas. She would show a lot more affection. However 1 week before Christmas I let her know about a party on eve and Christmas day. I chose to hang out with family. She literally posted on Instagram her gratitude for (jack) for his support and companionship and being there for her. She never posted me doing anything. I let her know i need head space. When I got with her hours later. She said admit to want piss me off. I hurt her, and she was on her period. To try weaponize my vulnerability and minor insecurity. She said cried as she didn't want to lose me. I forgave her.
2024, I gotten more sleep, spent more time on my project, spent 30 min live with her instead if 2 hours. After 3rd time. She stop talking to me for a day. On her Instagram she said she need to fix her mood. I had to let go. Too much bullshit.
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Yo man, this whole situation just sounds like way too much drama. That chick clearly has some issues and doesn't seem able to give you what you need in a relationship. A few red flags stand out to me:
- Her affection flipping on and off constantly would mess with anyone's head. One minute she's into you, next she's gushing about other dudes. Not cool.
- She puts way more energy into these live streams and other random supporters than actually making time for you one on one. Sounds like you're low on her priority list.
- Posting that mushy stuff about other guys but never acknowledging you is straight up disrespectful at this point.
- Getting that bent out of shape cause you chose to spend time with family for the holidays? Nah dog, major overreaction on her part.
Long distance is hard enough without all the extra baggage. You tried giving her chances to get her act together and she just kept flipping the script on you. I say at this point you need to cut her loose before she drags you down any further, my dude. Plenty more stable chicks out there who won't play these games. Don't waste your time on someone who makes you feel worse after being with them. You can do better, bro!
Hahahahaha I did. It hurts like he'll but I know what I needed to do. I just wasn't happy anymore. Sacrifice way to much. But thanks man. I already got her blocked on Instagram, wechat, tiktok, and everything. She was snooping through my backup account that she don't know it's me, and she wasn't live broadcasting after I let her go. Lol. She always there. I may unblock months down the line. But now. It's time to focus on me.
Thanks big brother
For sure bro, I'm proud of you for having the balls to cut her off fully like that! Takes guts to walk away when some chicks just have us wrapped around their finger.
Bet she's big mad now that her main attention source dipped, especially since you know she was still creeping your backup account tryna peep you lol. Girl was big trippin takin you for granted.
But f*** that noise man, her loss! Channel this newfound freedom into stacks, gains, and finding someone way more worthy. Karma comes back around - just watch, now SHE gonna be hittin YOU up tryna get back in good someday.
Till then you keep doin you and don't look back. We men gotta stand up for our self worth, feel me? You got this homie, stay strong and keep your head up!
Exactly, I foolishly gave her time to change. But yeah, I agree. She lurking hard. I got my youtube lofi channel going, I got visual novel working, steady stacking paper. Yes sir. Thanks a lot man.
Hell yeah dude, sounds like you've got some sick stuff cooking up to keep you busy and making moves! Nothing better than channeling a breakup into creative projects. Just keep thriving and doing your thing, that'll show her way more than any stalking ever could. You're right to not waste any more time waiting on someone who wasn't 100% about you. Proud of you for leveling up and taking control like that. Keep grinding on the channel and novel - who knows, maybe one day she'll stumble across your success and really regret how she played you. But by that point you won't even care! You do you man, good stuff.
👏👏👏🤛 well said Nan thank you so much.
You’re very welcome my friend
Quick flame over ticktock
Leave her be and move on
Not worth it
Exactly, I might miss her little but I know I'll gain a lot fir not putting up with the inconsistent behavior.
Girls that are into that sort of thing isn't reliable for a ldr either. They tend to get flirty and eventually give in
What do you mean by "They tend to get flirty and eventually give in" ? Interesting take.
When they are trying to be a figure on social media. Her followers or supporters will undoubtedly try flirting with her which she will prob flirt back even if she has no intention of doing anything with them, but it gets her into that attitude of wanting to be flirty for popularity which can transfer to real people if she talks about what she does a lot with others... I mean that's just speculation but it's what I've noticed too
Your right! She told me she see them as friends. It's when she give me reasons to not trust her anymore. Declaring these acts are specifically for me but do it infront 109s of viewers live. These guys knows just as much as I do. She share life with them as much as she do with me. But expect me to believe she treat me special. Sing to me love song is special when it's not doing live, then doing it again solo live to 10's of 50s of viewers. Sending me a clips ( every now and then) of you kissing camera and telling me she love doing it for me. Then do the same thing when she gets a tiktok gift from her supporters. Don't feel it. She's hot and cold and only hot when supported. So this leads me to believe that she might doing same thing to others guys too.
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