Would you be hurt if your friend with benefits broke things off with you to pursue a relationship with someone else?

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A real relationship, not a situationship. Have you experienced this before?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

This has happened very strange way I had a friends with benefits and she came over and shoes fideler person or coating everything came over and sat by me we should talk for a few minutes she gets up and goes oh I got something for you that's okay if she walks back and she hands me a card can I open it and it's an invitation to her wedding. And I kind of looked at her and I see what is this and she says I want you to come to my wedding. And I said wedding I said I didn't know you had a boyfriend is she goes yeah for probably about a year-and-a-half and I stood all I can do is kind of laugh a little bit I said what when did this happen she should have been a year-and-a-half ago. I go how come you never told me she goes I don't know this is so all this time we seen each other you had a boyfriend and she said yes. And I said I know why you didn't tell me because you knew I wouldn't do this and she said yes probably and she said it's okay we can still meet up and everything after I get married and I said no no I don't think we can and she said why and I said because you're married you're getting married you have a boyfriend change it around what happens if your boyfriend was doing this to you that was really kind of messed up this is probably about it a year-and-a-half ago and to this day she still calls at this still wants to meet me someplace are coming to my house but I told her no we can't do it she wasn't well if I get a divorce and I said that would be stupid don't even think about that don't even say that

NetSapien · Accepted Answer

I would definitely understand and even support her.

A friends with benefits relationship is founded on the idea that it isn't permanent and it can end at any time. You still care for the person even if you don't want to establish a life long commitment to them.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I'd understand if he wanted to pursue a real emotional type relationship. I can find a new guy easy enough.

RebeccaBI2000 · Accepted Answer

I would be wondering why he did not talk about a relationship with me

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have never had a friends with benefits.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I guess a combination of A, B, and D, really…. but if D, then likely C. Just to give a straightford answer🤦‍♂️😂

I guess I sort of have experienced it, but basically an ex of hers moved back from the west coast and they wanted to get back together, since they only split over the distance. I was just some interim dick, as it turns out, lmao. Luckily, I’m a dude, so we call being used for sex “the luckiest event of our life”, and it doesn’t bend me too out of shape😂 But that chick was pretty hot, so I’d say B for her. No hard feelings whatsoever, but she was easy to look at, wasn’t annoying me yet, and I don’t think I was annoying her yet either, so it was just kind of a sudden rug-pull. But I didn’t go into it with any expectations, I was just riding the ride and seeing where it went, and she said she was in love with this other dude, they dated for
like a year, I think, so bless ‘em🙏

Kaneki05 · Answer

It would hurt cause i am clingy. Even if just friends nvm friends with benefits. I admit that i like to be the one who gets the attention from the girl over any other guy.

But I would have to respect it, if the agreement was friends with benefits with no strings attached. And yes there is the kind of benefits with strings attached then that would be different depending on what those are.

I feel like people should just be very clear on how things are then it shouldn't be a problem.
Annoyingly though people are not honest or clear with it. For example you may get into a friends with benefits with someone but they actually really like you but don't tell you.
It's a thing the other should know 100%.

Anonymous · Answer

All of those lol. Depends how she handles the "break up" also. Example if I'm just ghosted (sadly so common), with no explanation of any kind (which is most likely because a lot of women feel "they don't owe him an explanation") then yep, going to be hurt and angry probably. Just as a woman would be reversed.

DaveJord · Answer

Isn't that expected at some point if your just friends with benefits? I mean if its what you expect then you need to read more and better acquaint yourself with the meaning of friends with benefits. Because if your offend then you to you on some level you where wanting more and failed to capitalize on the opportunity. But you got laid probably more than once so its all good.

najekim · Answer

Happened to me a few centuries ago. A lady that I would see about every other weekend for fun and sex told me when I last went over she was starting to see a guy that could be turning into something more and it was time for us to stop our encounters. I wished her the best of luck, gave her a kiss and headed out for supper. Saw in the paper a few months later they got married.

razzmatazz009 · Answer

I'm not in the situation but I have a friends with benefits who is my ex-girlfriend who I know would be pretty upset if I broke things off with her to pursue a relationship with someone else. That's ultimately where I would like to end up, But I won't feel bad because she put zero effort into our relationship.

NathanDavis · Answer

never had these kind of things but... isn't one of the benefits... of friends with benefits... the fact that you do not bring feelings to it? so they won't be hurt either way?

LikeALog · Answer

No I wouldn't be hurt. It happened to me. A former friends with benefits is now just a good friend. Her and her new guy are a couple. I understand the change she decided she wanted.

DonkeyDan · Answer

No I wouldn't be hurt, it's only a physical thing, as long as they still wanted to retain the friend part of the friends with benefits thing I'd understand completely.

t-8900 · Answer

Yes because I'm a demi and as such I can only have sex with a girl I have strong emotions for and well, love. So yeah it would. And thats why I dont do friends with benefits or Hook Ups.

Anonymous · Answer

It has happened that someone I dated casually wanted to get back with his ex and so he ended our relation.. was a bit of a shock on the day he told me, but I knew it was not forever so I quickly felt fine with it and I genuinely hoped they would figure it out.
I don't stay in such a relation if I have feelings or if it is a man I think has a high potential as a partner for me, so in general I would not be hurt by it.

AndrewMG · Answer

I mean technically my friends with benefits is a robot I've recently purchased/re programmed... I mean if that robotic b@stard is turning against me then I'm truly f*cked! lol

Miristheiss · Answer

I wouldn't have ever had a "friends with benefits"  Girlfriend or wife. Those are the only 2 options there ever were for sex.

JakeS00 · Answer

Of course, it’d hurt if I were doing that stuff. I have a big heart and it would it hurt. (Feelings) I guess you can say.

Stoner710 · Answer

Naw it’s happened she fell in love with my best friend and we’re still friends both me him and her

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Considering I ain't looking for nothing like marriage right at this moment, I probably wouldn't be as annoyed about it, but it's still sucks though.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't have a Friends With Benefits but I don't judge anyone who does so

loveslongnails · Answer

You'd only be "hurt" if you wanted him to pursue one with you, but he didn't and never did, right? Otherwise, wouldn't you just be bummed because now you had to find someone else?

Nazgol · Answer

Yes, it can happen and get ugly. I was in a situation similar, we ended it & later he married. I was very jealous

jasco · Answer

I be sad not having a FWBs but glad cause she found someone.

Still-alive · Answer

It would just be a change and most changes tend to be uncomfortable settling with.

dolemite89 · Answer

no i wouldn’t be hurt, it’s unrealistic to think a girl is gunna be down to just hang out and have sex no strings attached for a long time. 😂

Albino010 · Answer

If you wanted a relationship you should have voiced, the same can be said about him too.

Wester1967 · Answer

Stop having friends with benefits. It's always about the benefits and never about being friends.

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

I wouldn't have one, most people with genuine morals won't have one. I don't advise having one and it can cause many issues. Just stay abstinent

LegendaryIcon · Answer

friends with benefits, is for pathetic losers, with no lives

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No. Not at all. His choice (or hers).

exitseven · Answer

I am surprised this does not happen more often.

ChiPaPa · Answer

No, lol. It's supposed to be a no strings thing.

Slim57 · Answer

A little if it ended abruptly

Agape93 · Answer

Chose A

Wise4myage · Answer

D seems good to me.

Joker_ · Answer

Yeah

Abdulwahh · Answer

No lol

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