Why did my friends with benefits blocked me and than come back after few days?

[Anonymous]

I asked my friends with benefits if he is sleeping elsewhere as well, He avoided the topic , he never chat to me he blocked me on whatsapp. He came back with excuses of his cellphone broke and went for repairs. My point cellphone broken what dat got to do with blocking me, straight away he wants benefits. I felt very upset and disrespected when he blocked me out of the blue because he was my friend. This is the first time I am doing a friends with benefits relationship. Can your'll please advice me what wrong did i do? I asked the questions since its my first time , i dont want to be attached , I have being hurt a lot in the past and i am not ready for a serious relationship.

[crsilnnstr]

I have had the same situation with my partner, only I didn't do or ask anything and he just blocked me out of the blue. He's from another country and comes here for work every two months. We hooked up two times before he went back to his country, everything was great, the sex, our talks, we just clicked you know. And I'm not that kind of girl who makes up any illusions, I can always feel if there is a connection between me and a man. So he had to go back to his country and he said he’s gonna text me when he comes here again. I said you can text me anytime if you want and he said he will. Then he left and two days later blocked me 😕 I moved on but in three weeks he suddenly texted me with that casual hey how’s it going. We talked a little and in our conversation he mentioned multiple times that he couldn't wait to see me. Honestly I was surprised and my first intention was to block him actually but he was too good in bed you know 😂 So I decided to meet him and talk about this whole situation. I wanted to say that i’m not gonna play these games, i’m not gonna catch feelings and ask for a relationship, all I need from him is just sex and if he’s not okay with it then we should not see each other again.
So the time flies by, we texted each other a couple of more times with all that can't wait to see you again stuff. And two months after blocking me he comes back and we hook up again. All of a sudden he’s telling me that he had catched feelings for me and he was so confused about that so he thought that we shouldn't see each other again. But then decided to give it a shot because he didn't want to lose me so if I reject him at least we could hook up from time to time 😂 So for now we decided to leave it as it is because I like him too he is a really nice guy but all that long-distance relationship is kinda complicated so we’ll see how it goes.
I would recommend you to talk to him. Not to ask him straight why did he block you. Just ask him how he sees this whole situation, what he wants from you (apart from sex) and just honestly tell him that you’re not insisting on a relationship if it scares him.
In my opinion he just likes you and is confused with his own feelings. I think it's really similar to what I described earlier. But if he is not honest with you and you’re not okay with him just using you for sex and playing games then you should end this because at the end you gonna be really hurt girl! Sorry for the long post, I just thought that our situations are really similar. Good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks a lot hun , this does make sense since his nt from same place as me its long distance we meet up after every 3 months , but the fact that he blocked me... i felt disrespectful... he wants the same as me... but i dont know... he is good in bed so yeah... will take it one thing at a time..

[HollyK21]

I understand not wanting a relationship, but is a friends with benefits situation any easier? I know on paper it’s supposed to be a simple way to have regular casual sex with no strings but unless you are emotionless and cold it’s impossible not to catch some sort of feelings, and that complicates everything. Already he’s blocked you and it is likely because you asked about him hooking up with others, and so you really want someone who’s ready to drop you for showing a bit of emotion? If you are still having a hard time dealing with the past, maybe it’s better to be celibate and single and focus on growing from those situations. Because already this arrangement sounds like it can be dramatic and hurt you more than you are already dealing with.

[Asker]

Thanks this mean a lot

[spartan55]

Why would you ask him that? Not a smart move. You pissed him off, then he realized he didn't want to lose his free 🥧 pie so he reappeared.

[Avicenna]

He was messing around with other women

[Asker]

Lol well I didn't see the need for him to block me if this was the case, i told him its fine he can have others as well but be honest wid me cos end of the day with all this covid situation rising again.

[Pterodon]

Because your dumb enough to allow it

[Asker]

Well I have no control how other people react. If they are cruel , doesn't mean i must stoop to that level

[Guy13]

Needed a break

[Guy13]

You probably were “unintentionally” pressuring him from your posts. Or he’s starting to like you…and after sexual activity conflicting emotions can make a guy act like a woman

[Asker]

If we didn't communicate how can we be on the same page 🤷‍♀️. I dont understand why it is hard for guy to be honest. i have no issue of him sleeping around cos wid my career i am busy and he is always horny if can't make it to meet up , he always wants video calls.

[Anonymous]

He won't tell me.