Girlfriend had a friends with benefits that she told me she wasn't talking to, but turns out it wasn't true. Am I being stupid here?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend work and met in the same store. She told me once we started dating that she used to have a friends with benefits that she didn't talk to anymore.
After 1 year I found out the old friends with benefits was another coworker, and she told me that she decided not to tell me because "what good would it do".
They were still in contact, and when she said "they didn't talk anymore" she ment that she didn't knew where he lived now etc.
I found out who the old friends with benefits were through another coworker.
I feel kinda bad that my girlfriend wasn't open about it, and decided that she would not tell me.
Im not sure if Im being too much, but it just hurts and I feel like I can't trust her somehow.
What are your thoughts?

PS. even though he quit, she invited him to our Christmas party, and was laying her head against him while I was there looking at it.

[Anonymous]

She lied because she did not want to face any consequences for her past choices. Ultimately you are committing to, dating, and being loyal to her... while the other guy was just getting his needs met with no strings. That in itself should serve as a wake up call. She has showed you who she is... a liar through omission and has taken you for a complete fool.

Men, stop putting up with this sort of behavior. Do not accept it, do not make excuses for it, and do not continue associating with any woman that does it. Do not let your sex drive make you put up with this crap!

The only question that remains is whether you have the self control and discipline to leave.

[litty]

Yeah, you don't lay your head on another guy that you aren't dating, much less someone you aren't friends with benefits anymore. I'd rather be alone than with someone disrespecting me. I'm sure other people were wondering wtf she was doing too.

[ritz_]

while reading your question, I thought that you were over reacting but it was genuine. Then i read about that Christmas party, and no its not okay unless she does that with her other guy- friends

[In_Trance]

yeah you are