I have a guy I've been in a friends with benefits situation with for 7 months now. This is my first friends with benefits relationship. At first things were going just like they should- we'd hook up and then go our own way. We also agreed that we were not exclusive to each other, and it was okay to see other people. But then we started texting daily, then calling and talking on the phone for hours. I love our talks, and they are usually serious. But If I don't text him right away he texts where are you? What are you doing? He gets angry when I don't text or call him in the morning, and threatens to cut me out. When I hang out with any of my guy friends he accuses me of wanting someone else, and tells me he doesn't want seconds. I explain over and over again they are just friends and I will never see them as anything more. He says I can only see him or we are done. Things also changed in the way we spend time together. We went from spending a few hours together, to spending the night. Now he is staying at my place almost every night, even during times when sex is not an option. I tak to his mom on the phone whenever she calls him and she always asks him how I'm doing. He asked me if I wanted to go to his old hometown 2 states away, and told his family we are both coming to visit. I got him to open up about his past, which was pretty bad, and he even told me all about his son he has that he never gets to see. We buy each other gifts all the time, and take turns buying each other dinner. He asks me every time we see each other if I love him. He even told me "I love your ass, and can't leave you alone." He asks for my opinion on marriage a lot. I ask him what we officially are and get two answers- sometimes it's just fwb's, and other times he says he has deep feelings for me. His actions say one thing, but his words another. I really do love him, but I'm so confused about us. He's been through a lot and has a hard time trusting people. I don't want to hurt him but I want more.
Is it time to let go of my confusing friends with benefits relationship? Is it more, or am I overreacting and wrong?
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