Why do women give up on potential love interest if they don't get the approval from their friends?

[Anonymous]

I find women care a lot more than men on what people think of them. They often when picking a potential love interest factor in too much of what their friends/family would think. I've found for example if a girl really likes you but her friends don't give her the validation that he's a catch or approval that he's good enough for her and can hang out with them that she will quickly dump him for another male who gets her friend approval/validation.

Example:

Let suppose we have Jane who are friends with a bunch of hot girls who as a collective group are snobby and only want to go out with hot and/or rich guys (semi decent) for relationship/boyfriends.

Jane is in college and meets a guy at a bookstore who works during the summer in college or maybe she met him on the subway and has chemistry with him more so than she does any of the other guys she went out with. She is interested in pursuing a relationship with him but is not sure as yet because she hasn't got the approval of her friends.

However, whether through introducing him to her friends as a test and them putting on fake pleasantries and tolerate being around him only to talk shit about him behind his back, telling Jane to dump him because he's a "loser" or her telling them about him in casual talk. More often than not girls will give up on being with a guy they like and give into the pressure of group approval by their friends.

While it's not exclusive to women and weak minded men cave into their family/friends on choices of mate too. I find more men are willing to tell their friends to fuck off and still go after the girl they like and pursue her even if it damages their group standings. If their friends are really good mate but don't like her, they'll just separate hanging out with their friends and girlfriend separately.

Yet, I find women need their man to be accepted and cool with her friends to be given a chance as a potential mate. Why is that?

[karahiri]

I think women tend to be more... socially linked. We place a great deal of value on what our friends think of who we are dating because we want to integrate our partners into our social circles. I'm not sure how important that integration is for guys... it seems like it's less important. Also, women tend to be very competitive and prone to... comparing lol. So we want to be with someone who we know will 1. fit in with the social circle 2. will endure all the comparing.

You wrote "I find more men are willing to tell their friends to fuck off and still go after the girl they like and pursue her even if it damages their group standings."

I think because women value their friendships so much and have put so much time and effort into nurturing those friendships, they are unwilling to choose the guy over their friends.

Of course, these remarks don't apply to all women or all men.

[Amanda2]

Because no one likes it when the relationship they were warned about ends disastrous and their friends and family points can say " I told you so""

[oilverwilliam]

Hello

[Itsasecret74]

So friends are screening or qualifying their friends decisions for them? No free will. Its actually disgusting. Thinking that their friend is incapable? insult.. I'd rather love and lost than ever love at all..