Married and a guy hit on me. I want to have an affair. I like him?

[Anonymous]

a guy at work likes me and has been playing a flirting game but he doesn’t give me anything in terms of affection validation of physical. it’s just a game of flirting. I know he likes me and wants to be physical but we’re both married. He sexts a lot with me though. How can I get him to break his boundary and pounce on me and reach out me?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Just tell him you want him to pounce. He's not doing it simply because you haven't given him the green light.

I'll spare you with my own moral hangups about this because everyone has their reasons. Maybe talk to him about "what if you two started secretly fucking" type of stuff, work out a deal. Closed mouths don't get fed. Also you know how things are for me right now, he's probably not going to go for it unless you give him a clear green light.

[Asker]

I gave him recently a clear green light I even met up with him in my car and put my hands on him. He pulled back. He seemed either scared to go forward or unsure if he wants to do this game. i really want.

[D_Bone_Steak]

He might just be scared... or he was just fucking around and didn't think it would get this serious. All fun and games until the game gets real for some people I guess. Some people do all that flirting shit just because they like the attention or the tease, and that could be him or he could be thinking that could be you still.

He sounds scared to me... shit got too real too fast for him. If I'm in a car with a girl I've been flirting with and I'm still unsure... I would just ask if it's okay if I pull my cock out. But that's just me, I don't flirt with girls I don't want to fuck.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Wait a mintute... you two are sexting... just text him and ask if you can play with his cock.

[Asker]

we sexted for many months on and off it seems like he is scared and unsure if he wants to go forward because we are both married but it also seems like he likes me and does want to have fun because it feels good. Last I spoke to him. He said it’s not a good idea for us to move forwardand said we will talk more in person. What does it mean on his end and how do I get him to change his mind and to be OK with it? Just have fun.

[Oldschool1981]

This how my wife met her current boyfriend. He's also married with kids. They just let it happen organically. Since he's also happily married, I'm okay with it.

[Danny_dan92]

I hope your husband finds out and divorces you

[Asker]

Why would you say that

[Danny_dan92]

Because you deserve it

[zombiewoof]

If you are sexting you are talking, ask him