A married man is attracted to me, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So there is this married couple who are in the same religion as me and attend meetings twice a week. They have a 30 year age gap as well. They have been married for 7 years. He added me on Tiktok first, then facebook, instagram and lastly SnapChat. I thought that was strange, he also goes to the same gym.

I felt something off about him adding me on everything, even though I had only talked to him a couple times very briefly. But I just ignored it, and tried to act normal. Then he started watching my Twitch gaming streams. But he never commented he just watched them. Thought that was a bit strange. He is friends with my sisters boyfriend, they had a drink together recently and that is when he told my sisters boyfriend that he was attracted to me, and didn’t know what to do about it. My sisters boyfriend got part of it on video. I never hinted that I was interested in him either.

Should I confront him first or go straight to his wife?

Updates

25 d

So I unfriended him on all Social Media, he added me back the next day 🤦🏻‍♀️
I met up with his wife’s best friend as the wife did not want to meet up with me personally.
I told her friend that the husband of her best friend is attracted to me, and unfortunately the wife has known for a long time but didn’t want to confront me about it as he hurt her too much. The wife's best friend also told me that he has been trying to stop liking me and they have been trying to work on their marriage.

[Zoeysiren]

This can be a tricky situation. A married man flirting is disrespectful to his wife and can be emotionally messy for you. It's best to avoid getting tangled up in it. If he makes advances, shut him down clearly. You deserve someone who can be upfront and honest about their feelings. Focus on finding someone who's single and available!

[AmyHew1tt]

Go to his wife. She deserves to know. If he's flirting with you, he'll flirt with others, so confronting him alone won't do much about it.

[Asker]

The wife won’t meet with me

[AmyHew1tt]

Can you message her though? Or find some other way to contact her? Maybe through a friend?

[Asker]

I messaged her this “Hey, can we meet for a coffee next week? Just a few things i wanna talk about”
And she said “Sorry i can’t, maybe another time” so i messaged again and said “what about the week after?” And she said “sorry no” so i messaged her best friend and she said, tell me about it and ill tell her, but i dont wanna do that. I am kinda stuck

[AmyHew1tt]

I totally understand. Do you know the wife personally? I wonder if she knows what you're going to tell her and is trying tp put off confronting it.

It's your choice, of course, but I do think you should tell her friend.

[Asker]

Maybe she is afraid to hear it. I have asked the friend to meet up and she said yes

[Asker]

I will update on what happens

[AmyHew1tt]

I hope it goes well. I honestly admire you for doing this in the first place.

[jahaims]

Cut contact with him and tell his wife. Let her know you thought he was just being friendly then you found out he is into you.

[Asker]

I’ve texted her to meet up but she said no, I don't know what to do now

[Fukaroo]

Married you say? You know the answer you silly ass... but actually what if... outcome doesn't look good. God bless.

[Asker]

I need other people’s opinions or suggestions

[Fukaroo]

It's really not fair to his wife. Does he have kids?

[Asker]

Na he doesn’t. She can’t have kids, i think that is why he is attracted to another person cause he wants kids

[Jamara]

If he’s married leave well alone. Even if things work out between you it’s at the expense of a wrecked marriage and someone getting hurt.