Aside from physical appearance, how charming do you think you are?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I'm way more charming than average.

I'm slightly more charming than average.

I have an average level of charm.

I'm slightly less charming than average.

I'm way less charming than average.

Not sure,

[WhiteSteve]

I can definitely be charming when I want to. I’m pretty outgoing, and I’m polite and friendly, so people tend to like that, I think.

Although I do have a clam-up side to me, if I’m in a situation I don’t want to be in. Like my girlfriend’s sister is kind of….”alternative”, I guess? Like tons of tattoos, ear gauges, etc, and her friends are kind of the same. Like for all the GAG Conservatives out there…. these are the archetype of the “short purple-haired lesbian” (some are men, and a couple are trans-men) that doesn’t really exist in that great of numbers, but they live right in that specific pocket of the country where they congregate, haha.

And they’re cool people, but I don’t know most of them too well, and I’m kind of in “their world” when we hang out, this off-beat, kinda hipster crowd. And here I am, I look like the bully from a 1980s teen movie, lmao. Mainstream white jock. So we’re kind of natural enemies in the wild, not so much me personally, but other guys who typically fit the same profile. I don’t really fit in with them, and they don’t really fit in with me. No animosity, but we just live in different worlds, plus we probably have each other stereotyped.

So, my girlfriend’s sister says that some of the times I’ve hung out over there, particularly if it’s a party situation, I kind of stand off to the side with my drink, alone, and she says I come off like I’m “too cool for this.” That’s not how I feel, but she says it’s like Jon Favreau’s character in the movie I Love You, Man😂 Don’t remember meeting people, probably not hiding it well when I don’t want to be there, lmao

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gBzFRgvAatw

[mandyfire98]

I think you're very charming sir

[WhiteSteve]

@mandyfire98

[mandyfire98]

That's why I rented you for one penny.

[exitseven]

not very charming. I am quiet most of the time and do not engage in a lot of small talk.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[midnightmoon05]

I am pretty outgoing and have no problem chatting up with strangers.
when I was single and going out on dates… I was the one who opens up to the guy… like asking them questions… getting to know them…
pretty charming… 👍🤩

later… out for some hours..

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

The impression I have is that you were strikingly attractive when you were in your teens and twenties. Maybe I'm wrong about that, but if you were a gymnast in college, at the very least your body was impressive.

I think a lot of guys were "charmed" by you just standing there.

Do you ever miss the "fun" of being single? Going out on dates with new people and all that?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I have a hard time believing people WOULDN'T miss that.

But maybe there's something I don't get.

[midnightmoon05]

Take your time to go through life.. you will find what you are looking for…
When you have never had… you fantasize… reality is where we are.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Hmm.

So you don't fantasize ever?

[midnightmoon05]

When I dated… it was always a one date… then I know if they will get a second… most didn’t pass the first interview…
Ever had an interview?

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

I don't think I've ever had like FORMAL interview like you're talking about.

At my age, everyone wants to experiment a little, and we're mostly not really sure what exactly we want.

I guess when you were dating, guys didn't get to make out with you unless they passed the interview. But where I am now, making out is kind of PART of the interview, you know? So like we're all figuring stuff out together.

Maybe it was different when you were my age.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Did I answer your question? I'm not sure.

[midnightmoon05]

Yes you did.
Agree
Experimenting is not part of the 1st interview for me. May it was like that when I was dating… however, I take control so I ended it before it can get to the next level.
The guy has to prove himself to me … like build trust etc… otherwise he would be a stranger to me.
At 16, I had guys who were interested in me… but I wasn’t interested in boys 😂

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

At 16, were you interested in girls instead? Or were you not interested in sexual stuff at all? Did puberty hit you sorta late.

So you didn't do any experimenting until you were like in a committed relationship? Or moving in the direction of having one?

Have you ever been curious about messing around that was just... messing around? Like not really an emotional connection, but two bodies doing what bodies do?

I am more and more convinced that you were "the hot chick" that all the guys were after.

[midnightmoon05]

Correct … at 16 I was still a kid.. i enjoyed my freedom of having friends, families, going to school, working part time… liking girls that way? Never! Ever!
Again even with boys… they had to earn my trust. And took time to build emotional connection in order to get to the physical level… which generally took 6-8 dares…about 2 months.
I’m sure there were guys who were interested … but I had no interest.
I get to pick them out. Or toss them away. 😂

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

How old were you when you lost your virginity? You don't have to answer if that's too personal.

Do you think you were asexual or anything like that? Or like maybe your urges didn;t start until later. Or do you think you were always just really really picky?

[midnightmoon05]

I met my first boyfriend in college at 19. So I had sex with him the first time.

Not axeaual 😂…
You are correct… I have high standards/picky… when I meet them… I know.

At 16 I worked in a supermarket… one of the stock boys took me out on a date 😂 I was so clueless… no idea what a date was…
I wasn’t interested… so he smattered to date someone else… didn’t bother me much.
I didn’t want to have a boyfriend so young or date a stock boy.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Guys have been begging you for attention for a long time. I have more and more reasons to suspect you were ridiculously hot.

Do you still get male attention? Like when you're at work or the grocery store or whatever? Or maybe people your age don't do that kind of stuff.

[midnightmoon05]

I think it’s harder for guys when it comes to dating… maybe not so much nowadays.. more girls are more aggressive? Do girls come to all to you?
When you go talk to girls do they engage with you?
Are you charming lol?

[midnightmoon05]

I chat up with a lot of people… but never flirting sense… I am happily married to my hubby.
But I do enjoy talking and making other peoples life a little guys by giving them some attention..

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Guys are still expected to do the work when it comes to taking the initiative and all that. Or maybe guys just want it more?

I think most girls WANT to be the one who's pursued, not the pursuer.

Most girls that I've talked to were nice enough to like have a conversation with me, even if it didn't go anywhere. I don't know if I'm charming exactly, but I'm acceptable.

And I think most girls are more curious about the physical stuff than you were when you were 16. Not so curious that they want to go all the way with anyone, but they want to try a few things, you know? See what things feel like.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

No offense, but that's the sort of thing a hot girl would say. Making someone's life better by giving them some attention.

Did you ever model? Just a guess.

I'll mention you messaging me again, but it's fine if you don't want to. It might be time for me to ask another question.

[FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa]

Hope your New Years went well.

[Flower7]

Slightly above average, especially when I put effort into it. Usually I don’t care about charming people though.

[LiliTyaka]

I voted for the first one, im open and easy to talk to but depends on the Situation but if its correct then i can be very charming and if i get interested in someone i ask a lot of questions cause im super curious and want to know a lot about him re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[7Phoenix7]

I wouldn't say i am "charming" lol

[NathanDavis]

but, you are...

what would you say that you are?

[7Phoenix7]

@NathanDavis I've heard quirky more than charming lol

[IslaTheWitch]

charming, quirky, and beautiful

and never forget that

[7Phoenix7]

@IslaTheWitch 🤗😊

[mandyfire98]

You're charming and sexy and funny

[7Phoenix7]

@mandyfire98 😘 💕

[mandyfire98]

I think I'm fairly charming

[NathanDavis]

if we're going to be fair... then you're way beyond than just charming...

[7Phoenix7]

*Overwhelmingly 😍

[NathanDavis]

I've never heard "you do have a charming body... " lol

personality, I've heard of that before

[IslaTheWitch]

more than I actually need :D

[7Phoenix7]

Give me some, I could use some lol

[IslaTheWitch]

@7Phoenix7 on its way :D

[katiesmuff]

I'm going to go with average level of charm.

[Circushowcowboy]

Basically Prince Charming