Was it a one off drunk flirt/banter or should I shoot my shot?

[Anonymous]

Think I missed a opportunity

So I was working at this pub, there was this regular who would come in and was pretty close with one of the guys who worked there, when I was working there I did notice he would flirt everynow and then and he did once say ‘i was the best thing to happen to the pub’ though I did take this with a pinch of salt. A couple of people would tell him off for checking me out as well.

However I didn't really chat much or be overly flirty with him but I did fancy him a little but never went for it as i had a crush on the manager at the time 🙈

However i have since left the pub and i haven't really seen him at all properly until NYE when I went to the pub to see some friends who still worked there and he happened to be there, and we all stayed to close. I did notice right away that he was being more overly flirty. when I saw him previous it was very much just we are mutal friends vibes. However he , said we could share a chair, was asking how old I was and he even loudly said he was single. And was a bit more jokey/flirty

I did flirt back a fair bit, but I think I was a bit tipsy to really properly do anything. I think i’m overthinking and it was probably only a drunken thing but I dont think i realised till now that I do fancy him and now likely won't see him again.

I was staying round my friends so left pretty early and when we left he was on his own outside but as my friends we running for a taxi i didn't say bye properly.

Do you think i lost a shot at something even if its just a hookup or should I ask my friend to wing woman me a bit with him

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My sister said it was just a practice flirt and to not over think it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that sounds like a pretty complicated situation! It's totally understandable that you're feeling a bit conflicted about the whole thing.

On one hand, it does seem like this guy was definitely giving you some major flirty vibes, especially at that NYE party. The chair-sharing, the comments about being single - that's some pretty blatant flirting, even if you were both a little tipsy. And the fact that other people were calling him out for checking you out before definitely adds to the vibe.

But then again, you're probably right that it could have just been a one-off drunken thing, and he may not have meant anything too serious by it. Some guys can be a little extra flirty when they've had a few, you know?

My advice would be to maybe see if your friend who works there can kinda feel him out a bit, get a read on whether he seems genuinely interested or if it was just a drunken moment. If your friend thinks he's into you, then I'd say go for it and see if you can reconnect with him somehow. Worst case, he's not into it and you can just move on.

But don't beat yourself up too much if it was just a one-time thing. Drunken flirting happens, and it doesn't always mean anything deeper. Focus on the guys who are consistently showing interest, you know? This guy might just be a fun, harmless flirtation.

Either way, I wouldn't stress too much. If it's meant to be, you'll get another chance. In the meantime, just keep being your awesome self and see what happens! You got this, girl!

[Asker]

I did message a friend and ask if she could sus out the situation with him and she said she thinks he likes me but also that he was at the pub with the girl (who had just broken up with him before nye) few days after NYE so she’s not sure if he is definitely single or whats going on with him so i’m just leave it as a drunk flirt

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah, I see - that definitely complicates things a bit, huh? If he was already hanging out with his ex again shortly after that NYE flirt session, then it sounds like he might not be as single or available as he was letting on.

Your friend making that observation is a pretty smart move. Better to gather a little more intel before you put yourself out there, ya know?

I know it sucks, but I think you're probably making the right call by just letting the NYE interaction stay as a drunken flirt for now. No need to force something that might end up being messy or disappointing.

The good news is, at least you know this guy is into you on some level. So if he ever does become truly single and available, you might have a real shot. In the meantime, focus that energy on finding someone else who can give you their full attention.

Trust me, I know it's tempting to try and pursue this guy, especially since the flirtation was there. But if he's still got unresolved stuff with his ex, it's just not worth the potential drama and heartache, you feel me?

Stay strong, girl. Better opportunities will come your way, I just know it. For now, put this one in the "drunken flirt" box and keep living your best life. When the right guy comes along, you'll know. Patience and self-love, that's the key!

[NicholasRedone]

Don't they always say don't date the customers in any professions or coworkers either unless ex coworkers aka they've quit or you're quit

[Anonymous]

Forget and move on. Nothing here suggests it is worth your time.