This girl flirts with me and my best friend. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

What to do when u like her but it she's showing my friend attention to

Maybe just forget her

[Finchie40]

Just be upfront and honest with her that you like her but you don’t like that she is flirting with your friend as well , and tell her that’s what’s been stopping you from asking her out. And then see what she says, and then take it from there. Have you talked to your friend about her? How does he feel about her? Tell your friend as well you like her but you know she flirts with him as well, so ask your friend what his intentions are with her and ask him if he would be upset if you asked her out? And see what he says then take it from there. At this point , that’s the best thing for you to do , to get answers

[Asker]

Ya she was flirting with me then he got involved but she giving him attention also

[Finchie40]

It sounds like she is just weighing her options and she isn’t opening up either about what she wants. Girls’ are good at doing that , most females’ act like we are mind readers , they will hint they are interested in you but not be clear about it. So if you really like this girl , you are going to have to open your mouth and tell her what you want with her. Most females’ love a guy that takes lead and pretty much demands what he wants with her. Most females’ are naturally submissive to a male , that’s what turns most of them on , so just have a talk with her and tell her you would like to date her but you will only date a girl that chooses you the same way you choose her , tell her you know she has been flirting with your friend and that’s why you haven’t asked her out and see what she says

[JohnWalker]

Don't do that.

The correct answer is that you should make a move.

What that move would be would be different depending on the context of your existing friendship, but in most situations, I believe that the move you should make should be a physical one. Grab her by the hands, pull her close to you and give her a smooch.

It's actually kind of rare for the situation to arise where a woman only has eyes for you. In fact, I'd say that a girl flirting with somebody else right in front of you is pretty much a tell tale sign that she's into you.

She's communicating with you. She's saying to you, "Hey, I'm a hot commodity, I won't be on the market forever, you should make a move on me."

The think this is a good idea because if it turns out you're a non assertive pussy, then she can just ret con it that she was never into you in the first place. She wins either way.

She either seduces you a great guy that is willing to fight for what he wants, or she gets with the other guy. You know?

[hahahmm]

Nothing. Why? Because you aren't sure. When you run into a woman who really triggers that "I want her" drive you will know and there will be zero questions in your mind.

Guys who are shy don't like this advice because they get frustrated and act like they're starving to death & going to die without a random woman showing interest in them or something. They're wrong.

Anyhow, the more you know about what you want, the easier life is. Then you can easily ignore/reject what you don't want and go for what you do.

Never 'pick' a woman just because she picked you first. You better have a better reason than that.

[SleepingHazard]

Flirt back if she's flirting with you. Don't get discouraged, just because someone else is getting attention too. Show some confidence.

[Asker]

But why flirt with best friend makes me wanna ignore.

[SleepingHazard]

It makes you look insecure if you don't. It might just be her way of conversing without actually meaning to flirt.
That said, if you don't feel comfortable doing so, just don't do it. You don't owe anyone.

[laraWM]

Only attention? I guess you should tell her how you feel

[Asker]

But why flirt with best friend makes me wanna ignore her

[laraWM]

I don't know, do you like her?

[Asker]

Yes she's cool but not cool flirting with friend lol

[laraWM]

Tell her how you feel, and you'll see

[Asker]

You sound like it will work?🤣

[laraWM]

No, but if you say nothing to her, she won't find out you like her

[Asker]

But I'm confused she's receptive to flirting with me and then goes flirt with friend also so pisses me off

[laraWM]

Maybe she didn't realize you were flirting, you really should talk to her 🙂

[Asker]

We hooked up years ago she knows I like her I think

[laraWM]

Oh you didn't say that earlier, did she stop it?

[Asker]

No we just hooked up years ago and it was really hot then we never met again for ages

[KrakenAttackin]

That is terrible advice and guaranteed ticket to the friend zone.

[hotsteve]

Hi how are u

[serious]

She is playing mind games with both of you. Simple. Hence such a girl should be ignored outright

[Asker]

The confusing part is she's doing this online while keeping trying to meet me and pass me in real life bump into me

[Asker]

Like her actions are showing she wants me but online is joking

[serious]

She is playing mind games. From what you are saying it seems she is trying to make you jealous. Don’t tolerate her mind and never give into that.

[serious]

Imagine she is doing this now then even if you get into a relationship with this girl, her mind games won’t games and all this will always continue.

[Asker]

Ya man especially when I always behaved like a man so it's disappointing

[serious]

Yes. That is why I am saying. Never tolerate women who believe in playing mind games. You really don’t need that kind of woman in your life. There is enough stress in life already.

[Asker]

I'm doing what your saying I blanked and ignored her online when she try make me jealous... but will she choose the guy who keeps texting her or me

[Asker]

I want her but don't tolerate shit. ,,😎

[Asker]

Anyreply

[serious]

Well, if she chooses the other guy then it is good for you that you got to see her immature and childish side of playing mind games.

[serious]

On the other hand after playing all the manipulative mind games even if she does choose you, then you need to ask yourself this question. Do you really need all this drama and mind games in your life, you said you have always behaved like a man but when she does not behave like a real woman then do you still want her despite the fact that you have to put up with her mind games, her childishness all the time? Ask yourself is such a woman worthy of you?

The answer should be No. Hence it does not matter whom she chooses. If she chooses you then it is my suggestion that just outright reject her.

[serious]

Exactly you should never tolerate mind games and nonsensical things.

[serious]

Replied to all your messages.

[Asker]

Thanks dude 👍

[Nikki1989]

Is it genuine interest in both of you, or is she playing games? Pay attention to her behavior with each of you individually and how it differs. Most men tend to get this entirely wrong.

[Flower7]

Yeah, forget. It seems that she’s not truly interested in either of you. And if she’s already flirting with two people, imagine how it would be to date someone who shows too much attention to other guys.

[HungTexan]

Some girls just enjoy men and enjoy flirting. If you’re seriously interested, just ask her out on a date! Without your friend!

[lightbulb27]

tell her you like her, talk to her, and go from there.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If a girl flirts with you & your best friend & you like her tell her your best friend is gay & see if that changes her game & who she flirts with.

[This_Boy_Here]

You can take things in a light-hearted manner, and have fun and see where it goes. While remaning zen with the whole situation. Or you can just move on man. There's too many fish in the sea for you to be stressing over one girl lol

[Anonymous]

She probably flirts with a lot more than just the two of you. She sounds single and happy.

[Pete671]

Maybe she wants a threesome? ask her on a date with both of you lol,,,

[chrissykerdock]

tell your mother immediately before anything happens

[DrPepper12]

Ask her if she's ever been to Paris 🇫🇷🥖💦♀️🥖💦

[TheSpaceGnome]

You should ignore her, women who flirt with multiple guys at once are cheaters in the making.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is building a "simp zone bench", move on.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she really isn't interested in any of you for a relationship.

[blackeagle007]

Flirt with ur best friend. See how she reacts

[RedInnocent69]

Flirt back. Compete for her, and see who wins.

[Crazzyyworld]

3 some and dump her

[Elliegirl]

Since you like her, flirt back!

[Nothingfree]

Maybe she wants to experience both of you!!

[beefcakebradybatson]

Ignore her;she's an attention ho.

[AviatorTom]

Ask her out

[Angelalopezzzzz]

I don’t know just be yourself

[zagor]

Draw lots to see who gets the back door.

[BigTex53]

She may like you both. Ask her out.

[princeofromance]

Flirt with her as well.

[GlowUpGirly5]

Mind ur business

[AnonAndrew]

Share her. :)