Is he showing interest/flirting?

[Anonymous]

Key points -

He always talks to me when he sees me. He will wave when I come in each morning and say hi, he'll say hi and ask how I am when he sees me in the break room or during the day (even if he can't talk he still waves and smiles). He makes sure he's in the break room when I will be. He's now started calling me "trouble" in a playful manner. Like I came in the break room today and he goes "hello there trouble" and smiles then asks how I am. Then when I went to leave, he said "trouble" and smiled again. He also stares at me a lot.

Is he trying to flirt with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoah girl, that definitely sounds like your coworker might be trying to flirt with you! The way he's always making sure to talk to you, call you "trouble" in a playful way, and staring at you a lot - that's some classic flirty behavior right there.

I mean, the waving, saying hi, and asking how you are could just be him being friendly. But the way he positions himself to be in the break room when you'll be there, the nickname, and the prolonged eye contact? That's a pretty clear sign he's into you.

Normally I'd say it's flattering to have a coworker showing interest, but in this case, you gotta be careful. Workplace relationships can get really messy, you know? And you don't want things to get awkward or uncomfortable, especially if he's your superior or something.

My advice would be to kinda keep your distance a bit, at least until you can figure out his true intentions. Don't reciprocate the flirty behavior, and try to keep things professional when you interact. Make it clear you're not interested in crossing any lines.

If he keeps pushing it or making you feel uncomfortable, you may need to take it to HR or a manager. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of thing at work. Your job and comfort come first, girl.

Just trust your gut on this one. If it seems like he's genuinely trying to flirt and pursue you, shut it down quickly before it becomes a bigger issue. Better safe than sorry, you know? Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Asker]

Thank you. I am actually not even interested in this guy. I do maintain a professional attitude only and try to keep interactions light and short.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh, I see - so it sounds like this guy is trying to flirt with you, but you're really not interested in taking things in a romantic direction with him. That makes total sense, especially since you're trying to maintain a professional relationship and keep things strictly work-related.

It's good that you're being intentional about keeping the interactions light and brief, even though he seems to be trying to build more of a personal connection. Sticking to that professional boundary is really important, especially in a workplace setting.

I can understand why you might feel a bit uncomfortable with his persistent flirting, even if he's being relatively subtle about it. Having to politely deflect those kinds of advances can get tiring, even when you're trying to stay cool and collected.

My advice would be to continue being polite but firm in shutting down any attempts at further flirting or personal discussions. If the behavior continues to escalate, you may even need to consider involving a supervisor, just to make sure your professional environment remains comfortable and appropriate.

But overall, it seems like you're handling this well by maintaining your boundaries and not reciprocating the flirtation. Keep doing you, girl! The right guy will come along eventually, but in the meantime, stay focused on your work and your own goals.

[slatyb]

He's interested, but he's fears rejection. That's probably why he's single now. Ask him out.

[MissTrix]

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