What's the real reason women treat a man differently, coldly even?

[NicholasRedone]

My suspicion sometimes if, women my age or 20s in the past even ever seemed like they treated me or served me coldly or oddly than others (yes, I'd see that slight eye roll turn of the head even when they thought I wouldn't) it just go me thinking looking back at memories as I near 31 - why would these women treat me differently? Surely, surely they're not suppressing feelings of - attraction? Lol 🧲 😆 I just would notice things like they'd be tense during and after interacting with me, and sometimes I'd wonder, either I'm really that ugly, really that annoying or off-putting or someone's a really good poker face - goes for a handful of women in my lifetime this far. Lol 😆

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I always like hearing insights lol 😆 surely I can't be that ugly however I'm often taken aback that anyone would find me attractive to be cold, let alone to be cold just to be a cold person. I mean I consider myself upbeat and not death stare like like some are in this world 🌎🌍

[Joshydavid25]

Usually if a woman treats you coldly, she don't wanna be around you at all.. Might even be a little repulsed by you.. Unfortunately..

[NicholasRedone]

@Joshydavid25 hard to say- though I note such women in my past, they've all been different - they tended to "take out" though it on others or objects nearby in the sense of yelling at coworker or something but not me. But not me. Their look to me and calm was more like neutral 😐😐😐 and it's intriguing. Yet they'd smile to coworkers when I wasn't around or or others. Somehow ladies always seemed to be odd around me when I'm just going about my life but the roles are like, I guess cust and server lol 😆 what is it in my eyes lol 😆

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah some women are really funny like that..

[NicholasRedone]

@Joshydavid25 I welcome further elaborations or views or your experiences ; sometimes I struggle to read people. Some people I read well or my stomach is 50 percent right of the time. Or my feeling of " a gaze of attraction receiving versus a gaze of disgust / neutral gaze" - I tend to be right. Sometimes though I have to pretend I don't notice because I'm not wanting the advances. Go figure, lol no wonder I can empathise with women when they feel like a price of meat

[NicholasRedone]

And a piece and a price of meat lol

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, it's usually not too hard to tell.. I think most women are neutral or maybe they're just distrustful of strangers (usually men) they don't know..

[NathanDavis]

what did you do...

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis sometimes I think women are just either finding me disgusting to look at ahahaha (hell if I was fat, or obses, understanding) lol but I'm fairly ordinary just lanky and wild haired. Lol 😆 maybe they're not telling me something on the inside aka 'he's so hot, X and doesn't know it, x lol they think

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis usually I'm just going about my existence lol 😆 I'm not even giving anyone any looks other than "waiting waiting neutral or polite smile to avoid conflict" whether men, women, whomever even a cat lol or window reflection

[NathanDavis]

I think some context is missing here... are these people you actually know?

[NathanDavis]

I just keep walking... lol

I got things to do, and places to go to

[NicholasRedone]

Insights are welcomed please 🥺

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis Strangers, aka just random women and I have been reflecting memories lately. Lol 😆 because other times my interactions with other women and it's like hmm, maybe some people I just uh rub the wrong way somehow lol 😆

[NathanDavis]

well, I don't really experience much of this... the women I talk to, are women I already know, lol

and for those who approach me, well... they obviously have an interest or an intrigue and they are not "cold"

I'm not really the type of guy that approaches strangers just because they're attractive or something

[NicholasRedone]

Or vice versa - they don't like nerdy white guys lol 😆 but for some reason, the women. The men I've ever been interacting with like strangers like servers or whatever random jogger, are cool - women always seem odd is all to me, not always - sometimes it's like "they're either finding me hot or they're finding me so so not," and even then my brain whirls thinking "but why should that affect how a stranger merely is politely to toheer strangers as I try to be, x lol 😆

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis likewise, it takes me aback though looking the way I am if they were cold or weren't cold, women I mean. Sometimes it's just a curious thing in my brain thinking "hmm, that was odd" you know. I mean the ones who stand out as like, why was their interaction different than my expectation or usual thing. Like think of it like man, when you talk to your friends or strangers, you usually are good at picking up as a human changes in vibe or senses right, that's what sometimes feeling wise I'm like "hmm, what is this I'm sensing but can't put my mind on it in words or understanding, but it's something" and then bemused amusement where it's like "if it's what I think, that lady has no taste in desiring me, who'd Desire me in their right female mind," - is it the hair - Brice almighty quite lol "is it the hair" I love my spiky hair - rare a woman should though "I love Keira in love actually "but you never talk to me... you don't like me" lol 😆 more matter of fact like lol

[NicholasRedone]

Hooray for one liners. I'll shut up now. Ah well. Mysteries will always be mysteries "I guess some folks just find me worth being colder to whatever cold or this 😐 could be

[NicholasRedone]

5 seconds before or after sometime else doesn't someone doesn't get 😐 if anything 🫠

[NicholasRedone]

Anyways I'll shut o hahahahaha

[NathanDavis]

maybe you're overthinking a bit too much about this?

[Anonymous]

I guess lots of modern women lack empathy.