Why are men who can't get laid so bitter and catty towards women?

Question

They should be mad at themselves not women. Not our fault you aren't appealing to us.

EnglishArtsteacher · Accepted Answer

To give a premise, I used to be this same type of guy between the ages of about 16-21ish years old. When I was 21 years old, I worked at McDonald's at the time, and a co-worker of mine was an 18 year old guy, and he called me out on my sexism, and bitterness. I was used to women calling me out on this, but to hear it from an 18 year old high school male student really did make me realize how much of a fool I was. From that day on, I worked on improving my attitude, and I grew out of that negative, and bitter attitude quickly. Maybe women are still being too picky, and superficial, but there is just as many superficial men, even if they aren't quite as picky. Maybe women are dating guys who treat them like crap because the men manipulated them when they first began dating? I started seeing things a different way. After all, the only reason straight women tend to get laid easier than straight men is because men are usually so desperate to have sex with anything in the first place.

From experience, the reason why I was bitter (and I suppose catty) towards the entire female sex is because I was angry at the fact I couldn't get laid, and I wanted to get laid. I blamed girls because they were being too picky, and rejected me countless times. There were also several times I would see the same girls who turned me down date men who treated them worse than I ever would be, so this would just escalate my bitterness more. I don't think my experience is unique, and they are often the same reasons so many men are bitter about not being able to get laid.

With that being said, none of it justifies their anger. I would say it's not necessarily their fault, but just because it's not their fault, doesn't automatically mean it's the fault of women.

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

for the same reason women that are often betrayed or abused by men get bitter towards men. negative experiences build negative prejudice.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

Apparently, they feel like women are obligated to be attracted to them.

JustRollTheDice · Accepted Answer

They want someone to blame besides themselves 🤷‍♀️

cth96190 · Answer

The often vicious rejections were difficult.
What pissed me off the most was that after she rejected a decent man, who had honourable intentions, the female would throw herself crotch first at a worthless POS because she thought that he was ‘exciting’.
It is not possible to observe this self-destructive female behaviour for years without forming an unflattering opinion of female cognitive process.
I set out looking for someone to love and to make my wife.
The female population crushed that naive fantasy of me.
It is difficult to express how much pain is inside of me.
Last year I saw a female experience the pimp hand of her ‘exciting’ bad boy.
I could have intervened. I could have sent him to the ER, or the morgue, with one strike. Serious students of karate can do that.
I kept on walking.
Why should I care? She picked him. Let her experience what comes of her choices.
Women in my age range come sniffing around often, especially when I do security at weddings, or black-tie events.
When the were 20 they would have told me to FOAD. Why should I be interested now?
Why should I be their golden parachute, to escape the consequences of their self-destructive choices?
I go home, snuggle with my cats and want to die.

Oigit · Answer

I think it could be due to insecurities. Simply because insecure people tend to tear others down in order to keep themselves from recognizing and dealing with their own issues. Making someone else the issue seems to be a go to way to cover up insecurities in general.

Insecurities can make people do screwed up shit in general. Trying to ignore them and cover them up can very much cause a person to never find their true self. Living without knowing and being your true self isn't a life worth living. So you end up making a bad life worse by not facing your insecurities and fixing them.

Jersey2 · Answer

I think they lack energy and focus in getting a woman. There are many women out there looking for a good guy, be one and find her. This will take effort so get off your ass and invest in yourself and get out there. There are short ugly poor guys that are shy and still getting a girlfriend... but they actually try hard or at least do something positive.

Get in shape or better shape, buy some good clothes, have a direction in life and better yourself by honing in on a good job opportunity or start your own company, even lawn service. Have some hobbies, even just hiking, river rafting, something other than video games. Do something outside. Stop jerking off, it drains you of sexual energy. Try going to a bar. Take dance lessons 🤢, but do something to better yourself. Get your ass in gear and get some. Make it a goal, a mission. Earn that pussy. Once you have it, you got it... just keep at it. In short, be a man.

Bluemax · Answer

Not going to address the main part of the question because so many other people have correctly responded.

"They should be mad at themselves not women. Not our fault you aren't appealing to us."

You seem big on assigning blame, not unlike the very people you're asking about. Then again, the internet is big on assigning blame.

I would say in most cases, and we're talking about 90% or more, NO ONE is to blame when someone is rejected. I've never blamed a woman for rejecting me, and I've never blamed a woman when I rejected her. Nor have I blamed myself. It simply is a case that someone doesn't meet the other person's desires, and that's nobody's fault.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Wouldn't really call myself catty. But then again i will got 10 cats if i don't get laid in the next 20 years lmao.

Jjpayne · Answer

I think it's simply blocking or avoiding to meet a guy based on preassuptions. They don't have a job currently so they are a low life, they play video games so they sit on the couch all day. All I'm saying is stop coming to harsh conclusions and at least text a guy to see what he's really like

mich15smith · Answer

It is probobly not just not getting laid that makes some guys bitter I haven't gotten laid and I don't hate women. Maybe they got sucked into some incel website/cult and think all women are whores even though average number of sexual partners have been going down or that men are screwed by divorce even though divorce rates have been going down rapidly from 50% to 39%

AndrewM96 · Answer

Most guys are softies that depend on the opposite sex to feel like they have a reason to live

I'm on the other side of the spectrum

All I care about in my life are my own selfish needs & desires & suprisingly many catty females have taken notice in me & tried to get my attention

Woman can't be trusted... people in general but you get my point

SirRexington · Answer

Easy for you to say. You're a woman. You don't know what it's like to have to try and appease you, to get you to even notice us. It's very easy for the privileged to blame those who have to do all the work, ie men.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Because they feel it is your "duty" to have sex with them. You are supposed to take one for the team and date an incel. The funny thing is, if you did they would immediately turn into a jerk and start bragging about how awesome they are with women.

JPrez · Answer

They have probably gotten their hopes up with girls in the past, only to have been let down. Nobody likes rejection so rather than moving on and accepting defeat or even trying to improve themselves they blame it on all women.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

The question is: "should men get laid without marriage?" My opinion is: "i don't think so..." unless he wants to pay a hoe for her services...

I never looked at women as sex dolls, cause anyone can get sex in a way or another but yo get real love ia something veey hard alao to earn the trust of someone!

t-8900 · Answer

legalize prostitution and the problem goes away. Everyone gets laid and nothing changes. We're already paying for the shit either way. At least you dont have to BS to get to the only part you care about.

connythebaker · Answer

Why do you care? I do get laid and still you ladies are a PITA more than often... ( Fucking be careful when you push that fucking vibe in my butthole FFS !!!)

SCRUMPSHUDILLIOCIOUS · Answer

Same can be asked of feminist towards men... Their personal traumas has more to do with them than the other gender.

SherryBomb · Answer

Naw, those are just incels. Me I never had a chance with women and im not mad about it, im just kinda sad tbh

TallAnon · Answer

Same goes for women, to be fair 😂 Turning a woman down that wants to have sex with you can turn really dark, lol

jirwin7979 · Answer

i think a lot of women have very high standerds when it comes to men i can care less what a girl looks like but a lot of girls want the guy that has a flat tummy and huge member i dont get why looks even mater i blame hollywood and social media

Makeushiver · Answer

In an actual court of law, that question would not be permitted by judge since it is "sked and answered in the same question. As to why we don't realize any part of the unllattering cx

AndrewMG · Answer

You answered your question with your question! (that's an impressive skill lol)... because they can't get laid lol.

Tunasub · Answer

Ego... men can't stand to be turned down... some take it personal and don't understand that women have preferences unlike some men who just want a hole that's wet...

Sevenpointfive · Answer

wtf i got this dad bod because you bitches said it was hot. now i'm called tubby and can't work it off because i can't get laid

centerline · Answer

and the more bitter they become, the less desirable they get... its the same with women.

Dulecadelecha · Answer

It's not even that they're unappealing to women, it's that don't even try to get laid and bitch about women.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's the same thing with race. A lot of white kids who grow up in majority black schools end up really not liking black people.

slatyb · Answer

They are so insecure that they can't admit that the problem may be with them.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I wouldn't know! :) :) :)

worldscolide · Answer

because they are idiotic enough to believe they are owe something..

Wise4myage · Answer

They've probably had bad experiences with women to the point of making them feel jaded.

peedy · Answer

But it is your fault for rejecting us, being shallow not looking past the outside to see the beauty within, you judge the book by the cover

Mehzmeh · Answer

Because, they want to blame females for them not having any luck. And not the fact they don't have enough confidence to get laid. Lol

Gedaria · Answer

They are blaming women because he cannot get a woman. He may need to think it's him...

MannMitAntworten · Answer

HA! “Catty”. Best part of reading this :p Perhaps because even their hands turn them down now too?

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Pussys should have a warning label somewhere that says "pussy, either get back in one or turn into one"

msc545 · Answer

If you got repeatedly rejected by arrogant and entitled men, you too would probably feel angry and bitter.

OddBeMe · Answer

You hate what you don’t understand. I keep telling them to befriend as many women as possible. It’s the only thing that got me laid. Trust me.

In_Trance · Answer

People commonly deflect their own shortcomings (no pun intended) and insecurities to others.

Nice222 · Answer

Umm you answered your own question. They are not getting laid. Also since Prostitution is illegal in most places, it is even harder for them.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Sometimes it isn't their fault at all, just the way things are

legalboxers · Answer

*shrugs* never did.. never have.. probably an ego thing...

SissyFrenchMaid · Answer

Happily I don't fit that category and I am very respectful towards women

brownguy · Answer

Guess they just feel that women are unfair in their judgement of them. Not entirely without reason?

6suejsjsj · Answer

That happened to you in real life?  I don't know if I believe that.

donald85 · Answer

testasterone brain back up !

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I'm thinking sexual frustration.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Easier to blame others

Agem123 · Answer

Frustration does that to you, lol

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Haaa... Wasted. Like their souls...

Protein_mate · Answer

Because they're too fixated on sex

GreenGold1992 · Answer

They'd rather shift the blame

Gripper1970 · Answer

Because they are dicks.

startingfitness · Answer

why is water wet?

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