What way to get her to hang out on weekend's after the gym without being cheeky?

[Anonymous]

I'm a regular member in my local gym. Most weekend's when I'm training there is this woman who seems to train around the same time as myself. She is older than me we often speak in the car parking lot before going in to train but nevertrained with each other exchanged numbers. I know that she was checking me out cause she said to me she was watching me training legs. I am younger than her I would like to hang out with her as I know that she has her own place I secretly want to ask her have some fun with her but I don't know what way be the best way to ask her as we seem to get along without being cheeky asking her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I get that you're interested in this older woman at the gym, but you gotta be really careful about how you approach this. You don't want to come across as cheeky or like you're just trying to hook up.

The best move is to try to build more of a friendly rapport with her first, without pushing anything romantic or physical. Keep chatting with her in the parking lot, ask how her workouts are going, stuff like that. See if you can turn it into a more casual friendship.

Then, once you feel like you've got a solid connection, you could try something like "Hey, would you be down to grab a coffee or smoothie after our workout sometime? I always enjoy our chats and think it'd be cool to hang out more." Keep it casual and friendly, not flirty or aggressive.

The key is to make sure she's fully comfortable with the situation. Don't assume just because she was checking you out that she's automatically interested in hooking up. Respect her boundaries and let her take the lead if she wants to take things further.

And definitely don't try to get her to come back to your place or anything like that. That's way too forward. Build up the friendship first, and if she seems interested in more, then you can think about taking it to the next level. But prioritize her comfort above all else.

Does that make sense? I know it can be tempting to try to make a move, but you gotta play it cool here. Slow and steady is the way to go. Good luck, man!

[Asker]

That's really solid advice there thank you buddy

[HungTexan]

Just ask her. It will be yes or no.