Guys, be honest, how many girls do you flirt with online when you have no intention of taking it any further?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Well according to what I say zero. But according to women, a lot. The same happens in the work place. I have a co-worker, female, easy to get along w. She’s about my age, maybe a few years younger. But over time we developed a good work relationship. So people would say she’s my work wife. She usually knows where I am just as I know where she is. We help each other a lot owning in the hospital. She does a lot of my assignments as I do for her. We laugh, joke. I can be me w out having to worry about being called into the manager’s office cause she’s fun like that. She jokes w me, tells jokes that others may think is inappropriate. But then I get these other women saying wow she likes you, you like her, you’re always flirting w her. No I’m not. I’m being me. Hard to find women in the work place these days who are cool, who don’t get offended by every little thing. It goes for men in general. Look at how many questions women post asking what does this mean? He smiled at mean what does that mean? He opened the door for me what does that mean? He said hi what does that mean? Women seem to turn everything into something. So the fact that I talk to one girl more then the other implies that I’m flirting w her.

[Asker]

In social/ workplace settings when you tend to give more attention to one person consistently then yes, people can assume you are flirting, but in my opinion as long as you both are clear about your boundaries, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. For them it’s just gossip

[DishLady]

The thing is in having this sort of association you're effectively "cock blocking" one another from finding another person who is, in fact, girlfriend/boyfriend material for each of you. You're taking up her space and she is taking up yours. The "work wife"/"work husband" scenario is often potent enough to make an ACTUAL spouse or SO feel insecure about their relationship with a person. It's important to have a line of professional demarkation.

[DishLady]

(You need to raise your EQ a bit... and apparently so does she.)

[Opinion Owner]

@DishLady lol ok

[Orion84]

Zero

If I actually do flirt with someone online, which is exceedingly rare, then I am serious about it. The amount of times I've done so can be counted on one hand.

I mean actual flirting, though; the kind with intent. Not just being nice, or making jokes, but real, genuine flirting.

[Anonymous]

An awful lot of guys flirt with me online for all these guys saying they don't ever do it.

[Nikki1989]

Guys, be honest?

Some wishful thinking right there.

[Asker]

Haha true that, don’t know what I was thinking

[warlock83]

Seems like you have had some bad ones on your end. It is the opposite for me, as a guy, I've been lied to by women, but I do not think all women are liars. I just have that type of magnet.

[HawkPerception]

I don't flirt with girls online. I do compliment their opinions or intelligence when I see them make an opinion that I agree with or was highly intelligent. I don't think that counts as flirting as I do it to both men and women.

[DishLady]

In your case I'd say you aren't flirting when you compliment, HOWEVER others are. The difference is in the tone and wording used.

[Summeroflove]

Most people flirting online are either people who struggle getting someone in real life…. Or are just doing it for attention and to feel validated.

Both men and women doing it

[Alex_Bright]

One, if I don't have a relationship and am not too busy. Two just makes me forget if I already said something or not, and it takes too much time. I'd rather do some hobbies then. I'm fully aware that some younger guys do end up with multiple online flirts, and I'm sorry for those that need to go through that.
One can be nice if both are OK with it, it feels more personal. Even if it's 'only' online, you're still being appreciated by a real person and someone appreciates you, which feels nice.

If I have a relationship, then it would be wrong and just feels bad. There would also not be a reason to be online.

[MannMitAntworten]

Zero. Being friendly is one thing, but with most of everyone online being states away, why would either have expectation of things going beyond friendly messages? It is completely unrealistic. Very few will actually hop on a plane or whatever and travel hundreds or more milds away just for a face to face that likely will go absolutely no where. So why does either sex even build up hope for some sort of mythical love affair developing? Be realistic…

[MannMitAntworten]

Miles*

[Asker]

Not building any mythical love affair, both are practical enough to know better. Sometimes, it’s not planned, things just go there when you’re vibing with someone

[Anonymous]

Well, considering the lady who you are flirting with most likely doesn't live anywhere near you, it makes it difficult to take it further anyway. Online flirting is just that. It is possible to lead to more and I'm sure it happens, but mostly just flirting.

[rtj1211]

I tend to think that flirting online happens with an open mind, but as you learn more about someone you may realise this isn't a long-term prospect. If it happens several times, some women may think you were never open.

[WhitneySnow]

Players flirt with a lot of girls and have no intention of going further. Regular guys don’t usually do that.

[Asker]

Very true

[andreasderjuengere]

I "flirt" often. But always in a way to make it obvious that it's rather a compliment than an 'offer'

[RavVid]

Every interaction with a girl is a chance to practice

[Shiprex]

None.
Girls online tend to be scammers so get blocked

[Anonymous]

Not a single one. Besides dating apps, which are completely useless, I have intentionally only flirted with one girl online.

[warlock83]

I have flirted and met two (which became relationships).

[MJVillarama]

Haha, guilty as charged sometimes. but honestly, it’s mostly just harmless chatting, no real plans behind it. You?

[Anonymous]

^^^^^^^^^

[soe11]

• Personally I don't.
• I got gorgeous stable relationships.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t play those games I would like to have a keeper in my life

[RedInnocent69]

To be fair, online can be anywhere. Maybe not really even girls

[warlock83]

I make sure with pictures and video chats.

[RedInnocent69]

@warlock83 sounds like you wait around not flirting a lot

[warlock83]

In the current day, I don't flirt anymore.

[RedInnocent69]

@warlock83 he who’s not busy flirting is busy dying

[warlock83]

Or working on myself instead of wasting time on women who I'll never meet or date.

[Anonymous]

Zero (0), I'm too shy and I don't know how to flirt.

[Anonymous]

Zero, still a violation of MeToo statutes not getting executed or going to jail for that

[serious]

Honestly I never flirt.

[OlderAndWiser]

Zero. Nada. Zilch.

[sinestro23]

online? none cuz that's cringe af

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't really flirt Im just not an asshole

[McSteamy]

I did it often. But it's just harmless flirting.

[Staximus]

I don't flirt with women who live far away

[Anonymous]

According to them or according to me?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

It means I don't flirt, with anyone. But talking to a woman, cracking wise and whatnot, because that is my nature. Doesn't mean she doesn't consider it flirting.

[Asker]

Oh no, I meant actual flirting, like compliments and suggestive remarks

[DCVsMarvel2]

every one of them

[foxsquirrell]

All the time. lol

[Knightwatch27]

Define "further"?

[Pohjolan]

Why would I waste my time on that?

[cavedweller1973]

Only one at a time

[Kaneki05]

None?

[Alex-Snow]

Just one at a time

[SotiCoto]

Zero.

[Stefan04]

None

[dragoblack]

I don't.

[Asgard356]

I'm serious

[qwerty2469]

I dont flirt online.

[robocop666]

none

[nojdug76]

Not many

[MasterKS]

Unlimited.

[Anonymous]

Zero