If a girl texts you after 12 AM while out and in the conversation she says "I was thinking about you" is that a green light to flirt or suggest plans?

[Anonymous]

[InknKink]

Yes, it is... but don't respond back until the next day during normal hours. If you make yourself readily available to women at all hours of the day and night you'll decrease your value to them.

[Asker]

What if she didn't initiate with "I was thinking about you" and it came in the midst of the conversation after I asked her what made you text me? Is it still a green light?

[Nikki1989]

@InknKink - Jeez - clueless. Thanks for the giggles.

[InknKink]

@Nikki1989 I understand where you're coming from nikki... a lot of male dating advice is cringe to women.

I'm not advocating the guy ignore her, I'm simply saying that he needs to put boundaries in place. He should respond back tomorrow at a reasonable time.

You said it yourself, that she is bored and has too much time on her hands.

What message does it send if he answers and begins a tor**** of text messages at an ungodly hour? It says he has nothing going on in his life and is desperate for any and all interactions. It'll be internalized as a negative in her mind in spite of the short term dopamine hit she may get from it.

You're the clueless person in this scenario.

[Cormac995]

Yes she's interested in you that's about as blunt as women get

[Asker]

What if she didn't initiate with "I was thinking about you" and it came in the midst of the conversation after I asked her what made you text me?

[Cormac995]

that changes nothing in this context. She's interested.

[Asker]

Why would she be interested just off that text?

[Cormac995]

Bro it's not that complicated. The only reason you'd be on a girl's mind at midnight is she's into you. Are you thick in the head? Even I can read this sign and I'm perpetually single!

[Nikki1989]

That would just mean she is bored with too much time on her hands.

[Anonymous]

Usually at that hour she’s thinking other things.

[Asker]

It was a friendly check in?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know but at that hour she probably sees u as more dude

[Asker]

You don't text guy friends late at that time?

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes but I don’t say I was thinking about you to a guy at 12 am unless I wanted that dude

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[serious]

No that is not flirting. That is a really serious thing for a girl to say so I will ask her what it was and why she said that.

[Asker]

Why is that really serious? It's just words

[valentina4eva]

🟢🟢🟢

[Asker]

Why?

[valentina4eva]

- late night text
- WHILE she’s out!!
- literally says she’s thinking about u!!

could it be anymore obv?🤔😂😂 if she wasn’t interested she would be doing whtever she was doing instead of txting u while she’s out💃🏻

[Asker]

It should be obvious but with young girls in their early 20s you never know

[valentina4eva]

okie sozz😅 imho here’s the reasons i would text a guy, late at night, while i was already out (now or when i was still in my early 20s😅)
1) i wanted him to come out and meet us
2) i was interested in him and wanted him to make a move

[Still-alive]

Simon says go! hehe

[valentina4eva]

lol yessss @Still-alive now im invested!!😂😅

[WhitneySnow]

Yes!

[Asker]

What if she didn't initiate with "I was thinking about you" and it came in the midst of the conversation after I asked her what made you text me? Is it still a green light?

[WhitneySnow]

Yes.

[Asker]

Since it was late she could have been bored, lonely or drunk so does that takeaway the meaning of the message?

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe. But still a green light. Talk to her. See what happens.