What do you if you found yourself attracted to someone and it was not intentional?

[Justneedtokno]

It was not intentional.

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9 mo

How to get rid of the feelings

[Nikki1989]

Attraction is an automatic emotional response; it's not a moral choice. What you do with that attraction is where intention and responsibility come into play.

[Jennz6]

I just go with my feelings

[ArrowheadSW]

Do you mean that the person who is attracted to someone doesn't want to be attracted to that person? And they want to get rid of the feelings?

[Justneedtokno]

Exactly , naturally draw them but want to stay friends

[RHK36]

Nothing. I keep it inside and go on with my life. Women ain't worth disturbing my peace nowadays.

[RHK36]

Get rid of the feeling by doing healthy distractions like hobbies. Other than that it's finding someone new who's right for you.

[Finchie40]

Ignore it for the most part and not say a thing

[Summeroflove]

Well if the persons compatible see where it goes.

[genericname85]

acknowledge, that you have a desire for connection, belonging or other mental or physical needs that your mind is trying to motivate you to fullfill. Notice that you've subconsciously picked romancing him as the "satisfactoion mechanism" for these needs. that can help you rationalize your feelings and in consequence that may help getting over it or redirecting these feelings towards someone or something more appropriate to fullfill that desire or to delay the satisfaction of your needs till someone more fitting is found.

or maybe just go for it and try to get with them if that feels right.

[egan3141]

As the chick that always uses italics implied, you can't control your feelings. There is nothing to do with them. If you want to be friends with the person just don't do more than friend things. Just because you find someone very appealing doesn't mean you have to have sex with them. If you don't have the self control to not have sex with them... you kind of have a bigger problem, but if it is super important to you not to have sex with them, such as already being in a relationship, then you have to just stop interacting with the person. That, or make sure you only interact with the person when your partner is also with you. That way you can't cheat.

[KBird]

I think that happens all the time naturally.

The time my current boyfriend and I first met was on our orientation day at University, and I was trying to flirt with someone else first, but he swooped in and stole the guy away (we're all close friends now). But I had no intentions on being with him initially. Its just funny how things work out. :)

[Purpleronnie]

Usually I ignore it …… im only interested in being attracted to the woman I’ve chosen to be in a relationship with

[Wiredone]

Im married so that thought doesn't even enter my mind. Im only attracted to my wife

[serious]

That can never happen. I have my standards and for my standards are more important.

[NoOneEver]

Just don’t act on it. Eventually you’ll get the hang of your feelings if it’s truly something you don’t want.

[MJVillarama]

It happens! Just roll with it, get to know them, and see where things go, no need to overthink it.

[Tinselbread]

Try to not focus on them if I don’t want to be attracted

[krin_m]

If there are no obstacles, tell them that you are attracted to them.

[Justneedtokno]

Easier said than done

[krin_m]

True! But better than letting it fester in my opinion.

[Bloodparadise]

How is it not intentional.. you either like them or not

[Braylee]

make them a shrine in my closet, duh?

[RedInnocent69]

That’s my vote for MHO, right there!

[Justneedtokno]

Dangerous combination

[RedInnocent69]

Not much, usually. It happens a lot

[RedInnocent69]

It’s like trying to not think of pink elephants when you’re told not to. You can’t. It just inly makes it worse

[Justneedtokno]

Acknowledge them

[WhiteThought]

Ignore it.

[Nice222]

It happens. But I just moved on.

[wkhan_87]

I will keep it to myself

[Dazlaar81]

Sexually or mentally?

It's a big difference