Is my flirtatious coworker actually interested or just being friendly?

[Anonymous]

So, there’s this girl I work with , and our dynamic has been throwing me mixed signals lately, making it hard to tell where I stand. We’ve had quite a few playful, high-energy interactions—she'll do things like compliment my cologne, initiate conversations by showing me things on her phone, and engage in some pretty theatrical, eye-contact-heavy banter that definitely keeps things interesting. On the flip side, though, she's also casually mentioned having a boyfriend when others were around, which adds a layer of ambiguity to the whole thing. I can't quite figure out if she's genuinely interested or just likes playing games and keeping me on my toes for attention, so I'm curious what you guys think is actually going on here. (For context, I have autism, so understanding body language and social signs can be really confusing for me—I tend to overanalyze things and then completely miss actual signs of interest.)

She likes you

She doesn’t like you like that

Misinterpreted the behavior

[Abbycado]

This is simple. Doesn’t matter since smart people don’t date coworkers.

[slatyb]

Difficult to say from here. She's expending a lot of effort. Casually invite her to lunch or coffee and you'll know.

[Anonymous]

Did she go with you for coffee and lunch?

[Asker]

I wanted to ask and she started getting nervous. I asked her if she was feeling OK, so I was asking a vulnerable question which might’ve not been the most appropriate response but she’s the one who has been showing signs of interest first; she would always tell me how I smell which she mostly complemented cause I always put on different cologne. I’ve also heard her talk about me with other coworkers and it wasn’t anything negative one time. She was clearly trying to get me to notice her talking about me in a complimentary way. As someone with Asperger’s I find it difficult to address my feelings to her even though I’m convinced she’s interested in me.

[Opinion Owner]

What feelings do you have for her?
Aspergers can be managed. It depends on how it affects you. Some times girls compliment guys in a friendly way. Its possible to tell things only with more details and more examplez of what actually happens. Like what signs of interest?

[Asker]

She’s been more comfortable around me recently social and even nervous around me lately so there is something in the air when she’s around me. She’s. One time she flirted with me saying “ I was going to tease you but I remembered it’s not nice while locking eyes. The other day I called her to talk privately and I asked how she’s been doing and I could tell she was getting nervous and she said she has to go but in a few minutes for later I rung her out and she was acting fine she also said so what were we talking about and I didn’t pursue the conversation for I was confused and nervous that I’m trying to go beyond her barriers

[Asker]

Sorry if I’m not typing correctly I’m at work 😂

[Opinion Owner]

No ita fine. Why do you u aks if ahe likea you directly?