I’ve never been good at telling this, or confident enough to capitalize when I could. This girl started a couple months ago as a temp on the team I’m on. She is a very outgoing and social person.
I’ve tried to pay attention to see if she treats me different than other people and I think she does. If she sees me, she’ll stay in the hall until I notice her to wave hi. I recently followed her on Instagram and she told me the next day that she was so happy we were following each other now. Whenever I help her with something she always high fives me. And she’ll go out of her way to stop and talk to me, and it doesn’t seem like she does that for other people.
I never want to assume they like me and I always just assume they are being friendly instead. I personally think this girl is way out of my league. She also really reminds me of this girl I had a massive crush on in college who ended up friendzoning me, I asked her on a date and she shut me down pretty hard and it got awkward after that. Everyone thought we were dating, including her friends but it turns out she only thought of me as a friend, which is completely fine but it wasn’t how I felt. But she acts very similar to how my coworker acts, and their personalities are very similar.
I’m also very hesitant to start dating or even pursuing a coworker for a bunch of reasons. Basically “don’t piss where you eat.” I don’t want to misread things and then make things extremely awkward, or we start dating and things go south. I’ve misread these situations before though, and I think it’s one of those things where people like my personality more than my looks. People say I’m very funny/approachable, which is something I’m very proud of, but I’ve always been overweight. I’ve lost 35 pounds this year & will continue to lose.
Thoughts? How can you tell when a very social person is being flirty instead of just being friendly?
I’ve tried to pay attention to see if she treats me different than other people and I think she does. If she sees me, she’ll stay in the hall until I notice her to wave hi. I recently followed her on Instagram and she told me the next day that she was so happy we were following each other now. Whenever I help her with something she always high fives me. And she’ll go out of her way to stop and talk to me, and it doesn’t seem like she does that for other people.
I never want to assume they like me and I always just assume they are being friendly instead. I personally think this girl is way out of my league. She also really reminds me of this girl I had a massive crush on in college who ended up friendzoning me, I asked her on a date and she shut me down pretty hard and it got awkward after that. Everyone thought we were dating, including her friends but it turns out she only thought of me as a friend, which is completely fine but it wasn’t how I felt. But she acts very similar to how my coworker acts, and their personalities are very similar.
I’m also very hesitant to start dating or even pursuing a coworker for a bunch of reasons. Basically “don’t piss where you eat.” I don’t want to misread things and then make things extremely awkward, or we start dating and things go south. I’ve misread these situations before though, and I think it’s one of those things where people like my personality more than my looks. People say I’m very funny/approachable, which is something I’m very proud of, but I’ve always been overweight. I’ve lost 35 pounds this year & will continue to lose.
Thoughts? How can you tell when a very social person is being flirty instead of just being friendly?
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