Normal men, how would you react if a gay guy hit on you?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

It’s happened before. The only time I was annoyed was about 7 years ago in Austin, Texas, at the 6th Street bars. I just started talking to this dude in passing while trying to get a drink. I was solo so I was open to making friends for the night so I’m not just that creepy weird guy by himself, lmao.

Upon exchanging names, he said “you’re pretty cute, Steve”, and did a quick one finger rub on my thigh. I told him I was flattered, but i unfortunately just wasn’t wired for that, but we could still be homies. He was a good kid but he kind of wouldn’t take no for an answer. He was asking if I ever got head from a guy before, and I’m like “nah, man; I told you, that’s not me.” And then he’d be cool another few minutes, but then he’d be like “but how can you KNOW if you never tried?” I told him I just knew. He seemed pretty sure that it was a “you can’t knock it til you’ve tried it” thing, but…. hard disagree, respectfully😂

I ended up kicking it with him til closing time, and I even bought him a gyro from a street vendor, lmao. I felt bad for him. Broke college kid, he said he wasn’t out, he was in a frat; said he was already the only Black dude out of all the frat brothers so he didn’t want to be the bi kid, too…plus it’s Texas so it’s not really a friendly environment for it. Real nice kid. Just would not quit on offering to blow me, though, lmfao 🎶Blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol🎶

THEN he asked if he could come to my nearby hotel room to charge his dead phone. I thought “oh boy…. that could maybe get weird. Or maybe he’ll expect me to be like “aight, man, HURRY UP…. AND DON’T TELL A SOUL!”🤣 But I’m a nice guy, plus he was a little guy, no threat to me, lmao; so I let him charge up, we just talked normally for a few more minutes, he got his phone back alive, and he left.

I guess that’s my most detailed “what I’d do”, haha. All the other times were way more pedestrian. I always just play it cool and polite, and just lightheartedly let them know I’m not gay or bi, but give off that I’m in no way bothered that they asked, and I appreciate the compliment, so it’s all friendly✌️Other than the kid in Texas, that’s just been cordially received and they moved on.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It happened to me a few times , at first I am polite and say sorry I am straight and into girls’ only. I only got rude one time when he didn’t take no for an answer and kept saying gay shit towards me , I was sick to my stomach by the things he was saying and I reported him , because it happened at work. I was so sick to my stomache that I went home and banged the shit out of my wife at the time 😂

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They looked insanely uncomfortable the two times I’ve witnessed it

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If I was guy I would just tell them “I’m straight.”

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would warn him to leave me the fuck alone.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I just told them that I don't swing that way. The one guy just asked me if we could go someplace semi-private where he could ask me a few questions and I said I would so, we went to the 4th floor of the library (we were already on the 2nd) and sat there for about an hour discussing how I felt about gays and him being gay, etc.. Then we both got up and left and never saw each other again.
Gorman, the other guy, acted like he wanted me but he already knew I was with another of our workmates so, after he stated his ground, he left me alone.

Anonymous · Answer

Happened to me like 5 times. they start chatting normally, then out of nowhere hit you with the "are you into guys or girls?" question, or straight-up try to give you their home address. as soon as i say im straight, they just kill the convo and dip immediately.

One time it got wild though: some random girl DMed me while a guy was hitting on me, literally warning me like "yo that guy is flirting with you." and she was hot, so we started talking. ended up pulling a girl out of it somehow lmao.

slatyb · Answer

"Normal?" Being gay is as normal as being left-handed or having red hair. I would react politely thusly: "Thank you, I'm very flattered, but I'm in a committed relationship." This is better than saying "I'm straight" because that sounds a bit judgmental.

JHNS98 · Answer

I essentially messaged a gay guy once. This bisexual guy randomly messaged me on Facebook wanting a massage. I tried to charge him 100 bucks for the service to cover travel expenses, but then just cancelled on him. Then he said he wanted anal... Then we started talking dick size and sent eachother pictures, and he even sent some videos of him jerking off and cuming.

Don't think he actually hit on me, he was just weird and really wanted that massage and whatever.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Happened once, in a supermarket. He: How are you, my friend I: I am not your friend

Levin · Answer

Mostly disgusted but whatever. Some have crossed a boundary and it's lucky they survived with all their teeth.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Happened a few times, it's highly irritating. The "gaydar" seems to be a myth, with them.

Staximus · Answer

I’ve had it happen before a couple times at the bar I worked at when they had some bands that attracted that kind of crowd. I would just put my hand up and say “stop or you’re fucking out of here” and that would take care of it

KindaCowardly · Answer

Probably suck his dick I don't know. It’s happened to me twice before and there isn’t a single gay bone in my body & I have absolutely zero attraction to men but sucking was pretty fun I won't lie. It’s definitely an experience most other guys will never know thats for sure but its fun. I just love giving head with my short ass! 🤦‍♂️😂

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

When you mean normal men, you mean the ones conforming with the norms of which culture? Because, depending on the culture of reference, I might be a normal man or an abnormal one

Alex-Snow · Answer

Actually it has happened to me. In a nice way I said, I appreciate the attention but I'm straight. It was no big deal really.

Testttinnggg · Answer

Would perform a ritual to clense myself!!!

IgotQ · Answer

I like the responses. There's good ways and bad ways to handle the situation. Depends on the setting too. Like where would a gay man hit on a normal guy thats not a gay club or a farmers market or something. Jokes. A word of the wise I got from a female friend is if you don't get hit on or complimented by a gay dude you're not that attractive. So take it for what it is. A man will more likely make a move than a woman. Feed the ego boys and kiss them back😉

SamIam96 · Answer

It's happened a few times. It's always an unexpected shock. I just say "sorry" and go back to what I was doing.

Just_Ken · Answer

Gay men have what you call a Gaydar, they tend to know their own, even if that person is in the closet.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

I'd try to remain polite but make it clear I'm not interested.

genericname85 · Answer

to me personally, it happened more than women hitting on me. or meaybe the gay guys are just more obvius about it. anyway i take it as a compliment. i decline politely.

shish_kebab · Answer

I would tell him I'm flattered but my compass doesn't point in that direction

Billlewis · Answer

It's happened a few times. I just leave or give them the brush off.

BadApple69 · Answer

I am honored but no thank you! That’s exactly how I did answer.

bowenw · Answer

It happened and I politely told him I wasn’t interested in them that way, only as a friend. We remained friends.

Likes2drive · Answer

It’s only happened once when I was about 16 years old and didn’t realize it at the time until afterwards I thought about it so I just said not interested. It’s never happened since

Spencer10 · Answer

I would politely decline his advance... but still realize it is a compliment.

ScottyOttr68 · Answer

Let him off gently by saying it's a rare consideration not commonly experienced but it's meaning is no less sincere

zagor · Answer

It happened a few times, mostly when I was younger. The only time it really pissed me off was when a drunk guy groped me.

damaster · Answer

I'd tell him that I'm not interested & I'm only interested in women. If he gets to a point where he wouldn't take no as an answer, then I'd start being rude & then walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

I’d say thanks, but I prefer tacos over hotdogs.

FenixG45 · Answer

It happened more than once. I said: Thanks, but NO thank you. They moved on!

Anonymous · Answer

If a gay guy is hitting on me, That's actually too good, means I am attractive. Gays don't normally compliment anyone.

kinks1951 · Answer

Let him know that i was flattered, but he is not my type

NathanDavis · Answer

it doesn't bother me

Texaskid1 · Answer

Tell him no thanks.

RepleteAura · Answer

Unsure, it's happened before but not recently.

AgentG111 · Answer

It's happened, told them not interested.

Brady · Answer

It happened, nothing.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

It's strange but whatever

Bradleyyeldarb · Answer

Take it as a compliment and turn him down gently.

CubaPirate · Answer

Badly

Wannaknowaboutit · Answer

I'd be flattered ☺️

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